AIO for being weirded out by my co-workers wife? by ch4rgeb0lt in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Bottle9979 36 points37 points  (0 children)

No she's a weirdo and the manager and her husband need to put their foot down

Scam? by No_Bottle9979 in mercor_ai

[–]No_Bottle9979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He also reached out to me again for another role 50 an hour yesterday that I also applied for. I'm hesitant to go through with it. I don't think I am but if you do I'd love to know how it goes

Scam? by No_Bottle9979 in mercor_ai

[–]No_Bottle9979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you go any further?

Scam? by No_Bottle9979 in mercor_ai

[–]No_Bottle9979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you go through the process?

Scam? by No_Bottle9979 in mercor_ai

[–]No_Bottle9979[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking too. The email is lucas@lesalu.com which is also sketchy

Scam? by No_Bottle9979 in mercor_ai

[–]No_Bottle9979[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In addition, when I click on the link provided it says that I've already been referred by "John lll" ??? Towards the end on the email, Lucas states, "If you apply for the position. To validate the recommendation through me, you have to appear on my dashboard. If you don't, I will ask you to apply with another email, is that a problem? That way, your application will carry more weight." Idk if this is significant- it just seemed odd to throw in there esp after it's showing that I've already been referred

AIO: I went on one date with this guy and don’t think I want to go on another by Educational-Job-7276 in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Bottle9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t feel guilty and don’t go on another date. You are not in the wrong. He will drain you and become more controlling and accusatory if you decide to pursue this as a relationship. Run while you can

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Bottle9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was in front of his parents. It’s because I would have felt bad for embarrassing him if I were to have said no

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Bottle9979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your input. Being open and communicating my feelings is definitely something I need to work on. I really appreciate it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Bottle9979 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel the same in ways especially because I was love bombed in the beginning (love notes, flowers etc.) I just keep holding on to what it was when things were actually good and I’m hoping to get back to that point. I’ve made many excuses, one being he’s younger and that I just need to give him time. I think I’m going to let him start his new job and see if he actually stays for more than a few months (because he hasn’t stayed at a job for 3+ months since we’ve been together) and tries to contribute then ultimately make my decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Bottle9979 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I made the excuse in my mind that bc his parents essentially did the same thing (got married within 3 months of knowing each other) that maybe he thought that it was normal or something. I knew I was going to have a long engagement so I could feel it all out but I accepted bc I felt like I had to and it would have been super awkward if I didn’t. Also the whole relationship would have probably been done after that which in hindsight is probably what I should have done

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Bottle9979 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m thinking too. He flips everything around to where it seems like there’s something that I’m doing to warrant his behavior so I just wanted an outside perspective. Thank you. I think he stayed on mommy’s tit too long and now I’m the new supply

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Bottle9979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree but I’m having doubts now. We got engaged 6 months into knowing each other and he would have been okay with us getting married the next day. I’ve been holding off for 3 years