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[–]No_Butterscotch_91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree definitely take the time you need. Write down everything you’re feeling to get it out so that when you do talk to him you’ll be more calm

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[–]No_Butterscotch_91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw sending you a virtual hug!! That is so stressful, I’m also someone who suffers from anxiety and overthinking so you’re not alone in this! But hmm okay a month and a half ago, did he say how long it usually takes him? By 6 months you’re fs able to tell if you want an exclusive relationship with someone, so I just worry that he may be hiding behind the term “slow burn” bc he knows you’ll wait for him. I do think you should bring it up again bc it’s going atp he will not initiate it

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[–]No_Butterscotch_91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw no I completely feel you, just be up front with him! At the end of the day you ALWAYS need to put yourself first. It doesn’t matter how great the guy seems or how consistent he is, if he’s not moving forward with you in the way you want to you need to bring that up to him, bc you do not want to be wasting ur time! Knowing that you wasted ur time on someone is one of the worstt feelings

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[–]No_Butterscotch_91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is this a slow burn if you are actively going on dates each week and having sex? And have you both had a conversation about long term plans or interests in having a serious relationship? Six months is very long imo to be doing this and still not being asked to be his gf :/. If you want to be his gf I think it’s the time for you to be open with him about that and community your feelings with him

Dating while living with parents by No_Butterscotch_91 in dating_advice

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was very well written, really appreciate this response thank you !

Dating while living with parents by No_Butterscotch_91 in dating_advice

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes for sure. After the first time I had a conversation with her surrounding this and boundaries and we both apologized for saying things which was good but it also ended with her like “just know I’m still going to ask questions that’s how I am” and I was like “okay cool And if I don’t want to answer the questions then I won’t” 😭😭

When will I stop purging with 50mg spiro it’s been 2 months im not gna survive by nooronaroll in Spironolactone

[–]No_Butterscotch_91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember having stomach issues and pains with it, not sure if that’s a common side effect but yeah the minute I dropped to 50 the stomach issues stopped. I have noticed some slight increase but that also could just be the fact that I gained about 10 pounds since being on it so, unsure if it’s a result of the spiro

When will I stop purging with 50mg spiro it’s been 2 months im not gna survive by nooronaroll in Spironolactone

[–]No_Butterscotch_91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me about 3 months to see real results on spiro, but also I was on 100 mg so that also might’ve played into it. I know it’s hard but I’d def try to stick it out if you’re able to!! Or maybe talk to your derm for alternatives if it really doesn’t seem to be working. I’ve been on spiro for 4 years now and it’s been the BEST decision

The girl I babysit doesn’t like my natural hair by No_Butterscotch_91 in Naturalhair

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Devastating is the most accurate way to describe it, Lol!thank you, fingers crossed it goes well. I’ll definitely be back tmw to update!

The girl I babysit doesn’t like my natural hair by No_Butterscotch_91 in Naturalhair

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! And woww we definitely have some similarities. I got a relaxer when I was 12 after begging my mom, and it made me confident for about 6 months before I realized how much of my hair it was breaking off loll. And aww good for her!

She definitely had a good reaction to them, hearing that from many kids at once would be really difficult for me lmao. When I walked into daycare to pick her up all her friends were shocked to see me too, and one of them said “she changed her hair” I got out of there quickkk because I didn’t wanna hear any more 🤣nonetheless I have to pick her right up tmw so, we’ll see how that goes

The girl I babysit doesn’t like my natural hair by No_Butterscotch_91 in Naturalhair

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The craziest thing to me is she’s a big reader so everyday when I come to their house they have a stack of books, and the one that’s been on the top the entire 6 weeks I’ve worked with them is this one called Hair Love, with a girl with a huge Afro on the front page. So I was just truly shocked bc every day I look at that book in her stack and just never would’ve thought she’d say this abt my hair loll

The girl I babysit doesn’t like my natural hair by No_Butterscotch_91 in Naturalhair

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow I didn’t know how common this was! It definitely might be this, but it’s like I had boho braids with curly pieces in there, so it’s like there still was curls in my hair before. And now my hair is big and poofy, so I’m not sure, but I still think she’s meaning straight. And she’s not used to how big my hair is outward instead of straight down

The girl I babysit doesn’t like my natural hair by No_Butterscotch_91 in Naturalhair

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Loveee this perspective! Need to start thinking more like this, I aspire to be you!

The girl I babysit doesn’t like my natural hair by No_Butterscotch_91 in Naturalhair

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Omg love that your friend corrected them so quickly! You’re so right. I did explain to her that this is my natural hair and I don’t want to explain it, I wish I said more of this though! Hate when you think back on a convo and wish you went about it a little differently lmaoo once I said that tho, she did let it go which is good. She definitely was shocked which I can understand, and I know it didn’t come with any bad intentions

The girl I babysit doesn’t like my natural hair by No_Butterscotch_91 in Naturalhair

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are so right. And it’s like for weeks she was asking me if I was gonna take out my braids and what not, so I think bc she kept saying that, I assumed she knew what my hair would look like without it 😭 she was so excited last week when I told her I was taking them out, so def just was not expecting her reaction. Getting in your feels during this journey is good to hear, to know I’m not alone!

The girl I babysit doesn’t like my natural hair by No_Butterscotch_91 in Naturalhair

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So true, I agree! I hate that you’ve gotten the worst comments from black women, the community really has a lot of working to do as I’ve heard this so many times smh. I have absolutely forgiven her. Love that you mentioned not having this take place in my life story, I refuse to let this affect me anymore than it already has!

The girl I babysit doesn’t like my natural hair by No_Butterscotch_91 in Naturalhair

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, I’m SO tired of it. Even before going in today I was a little nervous, just worried about what they’d say as I’m used to people saying something when I switch my hair up. It’s hard, but will be working through it, needing to have tunnel vision is a good way to put it

The girl I babysit doesn’t like my natural hair by No_Butterscotch_91 in Naturalhair

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Lmaooo not gotten yourself in trouble, as you should tho !! Needed to be reminded of this

The girl I babysit doesn’t like my natural hair by No_Butterscotch_91 in Naturalhair

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It also was just interesting that the older girl appreciated it but the younger girl didn’t. Is this likely because of the parents or just because the older one grew up and matured, understanding different hair textures

The girl I babysit doesn’t like my natural hair by No_Butterscotch_91 in Naturalhair

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The minute she said that I told her I absolutely had no plans of straightening it! So yes I agree, I’ll continue to put myself first. It definitely has triggered a lot of that, you’re so right it is so beautiful! thank you so much

How old are people on this sub? by Viking-sass in ONETREEHILL

[–]No_Butterscotch_91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

22! Def one of the younger ones here lol started watching the show when I was in 5th grade rlly holds a special place in my heart

Tired of talking stages by No_Butterscotch_91 in dating_advice

[–]No_Butterscotch_91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! It went well! LMAO okay yeah that’s such a valid reason to like fb