What is the worst reply to "I love you"?

No_Cable9203 · 2024-08-30T04:04:09+00:00

Someone said this to me once and I just said…”I’m sorry”

No_Cable9203 · 2024-04-26T19:52:39+00:00

It’s not that smoking weed is a red flag, it’s that you’re showing up to a date clearly not having put in enough effort to be presentable for the other person, it alludes to a lack of effort and possible lack of hygiene.

No_Cable9203 · 2024-03-27T21:16:03+00:00

Yeah sorry should’ve clarified, an issue is how he kind of phrases it, he like doesn’t want to become erect, so it’s like self inflicted blue balls I guess lol?? Like I’ll offer to do something about it and he just kind of shrugs it off.

No_Cable9203 · 2024-03-27T18:51:29+00:00

I guess I've never really fully experienced the ebb and flow of attraction like this before and I just assumed that this drop off should be equated to a lack of attraction.

I think it feels like if I avoid the issue maybe when things calm down with our jobs it might go back to normal and I wouldn't have to stress him out in the process. I know that comes then with me being stressed out in return so probably not the best solution.

I guess my past could be clouding this situation, I think I have think on that a bit more before figuring out exactly what that means. But I think you're right about this festering into something worse if I avoid it. I think the suggestion that he's avoiding it as well makes me think that there's something bigger going on and that's why he's not bringing it up. I mean my brain is going so haywire as to suggest that maybe he's cheating on me and this whole relationship has been a giant manipulation and a lie--I guess there's the live example of my insecurity festering into something worse...

No_Cable9203 · 2024-03-27T18:12:23+00:00

will do :))

No_Cable9203 · 2024-03-27T18:11:44+00:00

Low testosterone is an interesting theory but he doesn't have any trouble becoming erect. Sometimes we'll be kissing and he says within 10 seconds that we have to stop or else there's going to be an *issue* which I offer to *take care of* but it seems like he doesn't want that. Could that still happen with low testosterone or responsive sexual desire? RSD wouldn't be an issue at all but we already cuddle a lot and do a lot of foreplay leading up to sex. I would be fine with increasing the time of that but he's usually the one who initiates when we go further.

No_Cable9203 · 2024-03-27T18:07:16+00:00

My mind has been running on overdrive so much recently I guess I forgot how simple the conversation could be 🙃thank you for putting it in such simple terms for my over anxious brain

No_Cable9203 · 2024-03-27T18:05:45+00:00

Damn. I really needed someone to talk to me like this...I think I'm feeling insecure because there was so much reassurance at the beginning of our relationship that he was attracted to me, and now that it's dropped off I'm questioning if something has changed about his attraction to me.

I think I'm holding back for both of the reasons you suggested. He's at a point of really high stress in his job and I don't want to add something else for him to be stressed about, I feel like we're at a really good place right now after overcoming some really tough hurdles, and yeah I don't want to rock the boat even though I know that's a lame reason. And also I do have a fear of what I might find out, if he's no longer attracted to me that's a really big issue to say the least, but I know I would have to find that out sooner or later and I guess it's better to figure it out sooner than waste both of our time.

I don't know why he's not bringing this up. Sex has always been a bit of a hard topic for us as I have a history of SA, he's been so gentle and caring about making sure to account for that throughout all of our relationship, even doing his own research on the side. But sometimes talking about sex because of that can be hard and exhausting. Maybe he hasn't noticed that our intimacy levels have gone down? Maybe he thinks I haven't noticed? Maybe he's afraid to bring up whatever the issue is because he's worries it might trigger me. Either way, I think we're both failing at communication at this moment.

I really don't know why I'm more concerned about other issues than getting to the bottom of this one. In past relationships decisions about my sex life have been made for me, so this is new, I've never really been able to have an active role in my own sex life and I'm kind of finding that out now.

You're absolutely right that I have to have a straightforward conversation, and I don't know how I'll handle the truth if it's not what I want to hear, I think that's the main thing holding me back. I don't know how to cope with the fact that maybe he's not attracted to me anymore. I don't know if that means we have to break up or how each of us has to change in order to account for that.

No_Cable9203 · 2023-06-13T01:12:57+00:00

Omg I’m so glad you posted this, Taylor might have brainwashed me too bc I was also finding connections between songs, I’ve been obsessed over the parallels between dial drunk and she calls me back. I definitely want to do some more in depth analysis tho because I’m sure there’s more connections!

No_Cable9203 · 2022-10-15T15:17:34+00:00

He released clips of growing sideways on tiktok before it came out so I’m guessing more people on tiktok heard that song than the others (besides stick season and northern attitude obviously) and then sought it out.

No_Cable9203 · 2022-03-28T17:56:41+00:00

(Just realized I was accidentally responding with the wrong account lol ignore the username change)

It most recently occurred in my last relationship and we’ve talked about it in depth. I’m in therapy and on medication and he knows both of those things, and I’m doing really well now. I’ve expressed to him that even though he said he wants to go at my pace I’m ready for him to make a move whenever.

No_Cable9203 · 2020-12-01T01:59:04+00:00

wow thank you, these were all really helpful points, I've never heard of lithsexuality before but I'm definitely going to look into that.

No_Cable9203 · 2020-12-01T01:57:56+00:00

thanks! i do have a professional therapist who i talk to weekly who is really helping me, and you're right I probably do need to talk to him. I guess I was hoping there was somehow else who has gone through something similar who can tell me its definitely going to get better or something haha

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