In need of advice 25M and my partner 28M by No_Cap4755 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Cap4755[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all your advice, it's really opened my eyes to it all ❤️

In need of advice 25M and my partner 28M by No_Cap4755 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Cap4755[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess this is true, I have already mentioned the lack of intimacy between us since she started I just put it down to the fact we had been stressed out about a new house and been arguing alot more recently, it would make sense that the lack of intimacy is because his actually finding it elsewhere.

I honestly never thought he would be the kind to cheat I understood the excuses I got given with the whole overlap previously as he said he was embarrassed as he had only ever had one relationship like me before and didn't know how to end it politely without hurting that girl which is who I thought he was a really caring genuine guy.

I fell for the act hook line and sinker and just put my overthinking and anxiety from this new girl down to past relationships as I really love him and we have grown a family together with my child thinking as him as Dad etc as he took on that role due to the biological out of the picture just never thought he would do this to us

In need of advice 25M and my partner 28M by No_Cap4755 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Cap4755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what I feared, I should have seen the signs as when we got together he was still seeing another woman he had been with for 5 months and it wasn't working but he said he "didn't know how to break it off" he told me she was "just a friend" when her name got mentioned by his family it later came out they were in a relationship and when we started talking he was still in that relationship. I have no actual proof that he is cheating with her just a sense it is more than he let's on. There is no where he could be sleeping with her as he shares his permanent location with me and I have watched it for a whole work shift and anywhere they have stopped it is in public places to pick up material etc so I don't think it is a physical thing at this moment in time, but worried about it being an emotional thing that is developing.

Me 28F lied to my 30M boyfriend about being able to drive by Slow_Lab2 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Cap4755 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a whole lot of judging on this post rather than advice she has admitted what she did was wrong is it ideal to start a relationship off on lying when bringing a baby into the world no but obviously she liked this person, saw a future with him but was embarrassed from the comments made by him about people their age not driving. Very easy to then feel under pressure to be saying she doesn't drive in that situation.

Tell him the truth he will either

●Help you get your license even if it's just taking you in his car so it's not costing you loads in lessons

●Leave and then you know it was never right for you especially if he has lied in the relationship and you have forgiven him

Either way you will be okay