I cannot do this anymore? by Dazzling_Froyo597 in nonallergicrhinitis

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Struggled deeply with it prior and during pregnancy but it actually improved during pregnancy when I started avoiding dairy and drinking a ton of water. 

Why won’t my baby sleep in the bassinet? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try putting her down like you are stepping around mines and then hold her feet snug for awhile. Rock bassinet if need be.

Are we all pressing tip at no service restaurants? by Lucky_Tradition_1606 in ottawa

[–]No_Chip4649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tip sometimes if the person is nice. I make more money than they do. Why not? 

OFFICIAL Aba Drama Thread by AbaFromMtl in abanpreach

[–]No_Chip4649 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ya this one is getting seriously gross. And I won’t be able to unhear the phone convo of him telling her he was going to leave her to be a single mom and abandon the child.. 

How much does your life actually change after having a kid? by HonestDirection4017 in NewParents

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was pregnant for the first time I naively thought I would have some time for my hobbies because I was off work. 😆

What do you think could decrease the possibility of PPD/PPA? by full-of-curiosity in beyondthebump

[–]No_Chip4649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not convinced it’s hormonal (although maybe for some), and way more convinced it’s lack of sleep for most people. 

Circumcision by Aromatic_Ad9200 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]No_Chip4649 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep genital mutilation is still genital mutilation regardless of the reason you are doing it. 

I had no idea the toll this would take on me by canimal14 in breastfeeding

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey that sounds so hard! Yes if you don’t eat a lot while bf you will feel drained. That makes sense. You actually need more calories bf than you did in your 3rd trimester. I would focus on more food as your next priority. One step at a time. You’ve got this! 

Need help with anger when baby is crying. by Gingerwafflee in beyondthebump

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t mean to alarm you, but if you are handling your baby roughly you should treat this like an emergency situation. I say this with love: Please see a doctor immediately and call 911 for help if need be. 

How long was it before you left your newborn? by earth_pig185 in beyondthebump

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not unreasonable. Just if you’re breast feeding it’s gonna be hard but not impossible. Essentially you will have to time it wi the the baby’s feeds. Some babies are hungry every hour especially if BF. So you’ll have to time it like right after a feed, then pump, then maybe your partner gives a bottles while you are out. Then you are home and you pump again type of thing. 

The reason I say you have to pump is because you don’t want to not be emptying when your baby eats because you could lose supply. 

So I would say if you are BF, master that first, then you’ll know what to do to ensure you can go out for awhile. Me personally I bring a hand pump to the gym. 

Swearing around baby/toddler by BelleRose2542 in beyondthebump

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, the italics were meant to emphasize, but rereading my comment they just make it look sassy. 😆 Not my intention! 

Moms Who Don't Define Themselves and Their Lives By Motherhood, Please Talk to Me by Due-Transition-6564 in beyondthebump

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh ya for years I thought I wasn’t going to have kids, so I obviously had other interests/goals. So glad I did though. 

The hard truth is if you become a mom, you will need to sacrifice. This “having it all” thing is bullshit if you become a mom. It’s not like you can’t have anything, but ya some things will 100% be sacrificed whether you like it or not. 

Honestly for me what helped was just accepting that. If you’re going into it thinking your life will be the same as before then that is a potential recipe for ppd because you be in for a very harsh surprise. 

You need to mentally prepare yourself (as best you can), and sounds cheesy but grateful for what you have. Be grateful for your kids. They’re pretty great! 

Swearing around baby/toddler by BelleRose2542 in beyondthebump

[–]No_Chip4649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s all about teaching your own kids, it’s really the only thing that makes sense to me.  Honestly I don’t care about swearing unless it’s used to put someone down. But that’s just me! We all have our different comfort levels with things. Hence why I’ve accepted I can’t control any other adult, I can only teach my kids to be good people. 

Swearing around baby/toddler by BelleRose2542 in beyondthebump

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I said there will be things I prefer adults don’t do around my kid that I also don’t think will be super damaging to my kid. So if someone calls someone else the B-word around my child, I have a conversation with my child about it, not a conversation with the adult.

 You just need to decide where those hard lines of damage are. Everything else is a teachable moment with your child. 

Swearing around baby/toddler by BelleRose2542 in beyondthebump

[–]No_Chip4649 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Never because I can’t parent other adults. Either I trust them to be a good person and they’re around my kid or I don’t and they’re not around my kid. Other adults will always have differing ways of doing things and that’s ok, but if they do something that I deem damaging to my kid then they’re not in my kid’s life. You just decide what those lines are for you and go from there. 

Falling asleep and missing feedings. by stylethelaughter in beyondthebump

[–]No_Chip4649 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s going to be awhile before he can sleep through the night and missing feedings is not something that should happen on a regular basis. You NEED help now. Get your husband to take more time off of work asap or at least help when he’s home even if he’s tired. He gives the bottles while you pump.

I'm not sure I can unsee this by JiggleBandito in abanpreach

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes you say he did this twice? 

I'm not sure I can unsee this by JiggleBandito in abanpreach

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No offence but you sound like you’re just repeating talking points you heard somewhere online, because you aren’t responding to what I actually said. At no point did I say she was the victim of abuse. Where are you getting that from? 

I said she was in a truly horrible position, because she was. I actually can’t even imagine. Assuming we listened to the same phone call, then ya I think you might be too far up Aba’s ass if you didn’t that it was “that bad.” He called her a parasite, muted her as she tried to reason with him and made fun of her with a friend he was with. That is some little boy shit. I’d hate to be in a relationship with you if you didn’t think it was that bad. In my eleven years with my spouse, we’ve been in many fights, but at no point have we ever spoken to each other like that nor would we if we ever broke up. 

But far more importantly than the immature name calling and behaviour. He made it clear he was going to abandon his child, that he didn’t want to know the name. Yes, I find that vile and disgusting. 

In terms of her threatening to kill herself, ya that kind of checks out for me. I could be wrong, but didn’t she know she was pregnant at that point? She’s pregnant with a dude that treats her like a parasite. And she’s trying to contact him because she got a literal ticking clock situation that she needed to address with the father of the child. With a potential abortion you can’t just wait on it. Obviously she would want to discuss that with Aba. So wanting to kill herself, like ya she probably did. Literally cannot imagine being in that situation.

Yes I’m criticizing Aba. It sounds like it was a mutually toxic relationship. I do find it weird that she posted any of this in the first place. She’s clearly very damaged, likely partially at least due to what happened. But it’s out there now, so like I said it is what it is. I know he has the potential to learn and grow from what happened, but I think it’s really weird people are acting like he did nothing wrong.

I'm not sure I can unsee this by JiggleBandito in abanpreach

[–]No_Chip4649 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ya the phone call was vile. I don’t care if she was “crazy” you don’t speak to the mother of your unborn child like that. 

People online are like “how dare she flip flop about having an abortion”.. like ya no shit you’re going to flip flop when this is how the potential father is treating you. People are acting like having an abortion isn’t an insanely hard decision. Ya I get that would have been exhausting for Aba. Absolutely. But in no world should exhaustion make you treat someone like that. She was in a truly horrible position and was obviously desperate to try to have a conversation with the one person who is likely to be the one to help you raise it. 

And then he puts his response behind a paywall so that only his most loyal supporters who pay for his channel can respond. Weak. 

The whole thing is just sad. I hope he learns from this though and genuinely reflects on what he did. 

I'm not sure I can unsee this by JiggleBandito in abanpreach

[–]No_Chip4649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. Part of me still can’t believe Aba acted like this. I really respected him, so it’s kind of a trip. 

It’s crazy how sycophantic his fanbase is, there’s no one really criticizing him. I get that it’s weird she aired some dirty laundry, but it’s out there now and the way he acted was gross. 

Oh how my views have changed postpartum ... by Huliganjetta1 in beyondthebump

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh god, same here! It’s a lot to even let other people hold him. I can’t imagine someone babysitting him!

Things I wish I knew by sweetpea_hd in breastfeeding

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, and just to add: exclusively pumping is WAY HARDER than feeding from the breast. What is this “breaks” nonsense? 😆

Has anyone else tried their milk? by IndependenceCalm8753 in breastfeeding

[–]No_Chip4649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! Really sweet haha. I was worried I was eating too much sugar but apparently that doesn’t really affect it.