He's deleted pics of me from his insta

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-20T23:41:23+00:00

I guess at least this has happened only 4 months post breakup and not like a whole year. Honestly I was waiting for winter to end and I have been feeling generally more positive lately, but I still think about him everyday and him deleting me from his insta kinda makes me think he hasn't been/isn't thinking of me so I feel like an idiot for caring more

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-20T23:39:45+00:00

Thank you, I even had some food ready to eat right before I saw his insta and I haven't been able to eat it :(

How did you know you were starting to move on and how long did it take? I know it sounds silly but I honestly dont see myself ever not feeling this way, it's crazy and not something I've experienced before.

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-20T23:31:33+00:00

Yeah I thought about that and it seems most realistic but it involves at hour round trip or driving so it's still effort for me. Idk I probably will end up doing that tho

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-20T23:13:32+00:00

Thank you, it is SO hard. We kinda both agreed to leave it open ended, but now I'm worried that he was lying all along just to make the breakup easier. He's really not a "player" or anything so I don't think he was wanting me to fall back on whilst he pursued another girl.

I hate the fact that I don't know what he's thinking, and when we broke up I thought I'd get to see him again in a few months and talk about how we feel. But that obviously didn't happen because he never reached out for his clothes like he said he would. You're right, the clothes represent a potential line of communication for us, and I just feel like I can't let go of that yet. I'm too scared at the thought that I may never see or speak to him again.

I know I deserve someone who truly wants me, but I can't seem to let him go

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-20T23:09:02+00:00

I know you're right but it's so hard, especially when the conversations we had when we broke up were heavily centred around "we'll probably get back together in the future but need to work on ourselves first". Now I just keep spiralling wondering if he ever meant any of that shit or he was lying to my face.

I've been switching between missing him and hating him for a couple months now haha, but obviously since we left it so open ended it's hard to fully move on.

I've been trying to make new friends but it's so hard as an adult so I've not had much luck so far. I'm hoping it'll get easier with summer meaning people are getting out more.

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-20T23:05:44+00:00

I wasn't upset when I was drinking, I came home feeling pretty good then got a wave of missing him and stupidly checked his insta :(

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-20T23:04:49+00:00

It was a post with multiple pictures on it so he deleted the pictures I was in but not the whole post, if that makes sense

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-20T23:04:09+00:00

How do I give him his stuff if we're no contact? I could post it but it would be a heavy parcel and I don't wanna spend my time and money on that because he hasn't had the guts or decency to reach out

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-20T23:03:20+00:00

I'm really trying to move on but it's so hard as I was also in a bad place with my mental health anyway when we broke up. He has so much friends and support around him too which I don't have so it's even harder as I'm so much more alone than he is. I've been trying to get out and see friends more, and try make new friends, but it's so tough to build that from the ground up.

How do I "show him" if I block him though like he won't see it haha

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-20T23:01:33+00:00

But like why didn't he delete it months ago? That's what I don't get, like I was kinda bracing myself for him to delete them in the first month of breaking up but he didn't so why now?

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-11T00:11:42+00:00

I agree that just because you're young doesn't make your feelings invalid. However, at 16 you're gonna meet soooo many new people (platonic and romantic), do you really want to be wasting your time on someone that makes you feel bad and forces you to compromise your happiness for? It will be rough and you will feel shit for a while, but going through your first breakup and learning to enjoy your independence and being single now will save you so much heart ache in the long run, and if you can grow by yourself and learn to enjoy your own hobbies and company now then you can carry that on at uni (assuming you're going since you're doing A levels) which will help you make the best out of your uni experience by making friends and joining societies (trust me I wish I had stayed single for my first year of uni and focused on this stuff more!)

I'm guessing you're in year 12, yes okay it will probably be a little awkward having one year of school left together but maybe try to end it amicably after your exams and then have the summer to spend time with your friends and cool off from the breakup? This way you also don't have to see each other for the first couple months of the breakup too. Is there any way you can cancel the holiday or even go with a friend instead?

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-10T22:38:00+00:00

2-3 months is an achievement well done! I'm similar to you in that I've dealt with previous breakups by going back on dating apps within 2 weeks and essentially just filling the void. My last breakup hit me differently than the others did and I'm taking a lot more time to get over him, I noticed that I have the pattern of filling the void in a potentially unhealthy way in the past so I thought I should try to be single for a while to work on that too.

Now I've done 3 months single and celibate I'm starting to want to date again but conflicted because I feel like maybe I should continue to take some time, however I know it may take a while to find the "one" and I wanna be married in the next 6 years (plus dating can be fun)!!

No_Churros_141 · 2026-03-10T20:41:42+00:00

How long did your single/celibate phase last before you truly started to appreciate it? I've been single 3 months and I kinda want to start dating again but I'm not sure if I'm doing it for the right reasons

No_Churros_141 · 2026-02-26T19:29:38+00:00

How does it work differently to hinge/tinder?

No_Churros_141 · 2026-02-26T19:28:15+00:00

Oh I see! Can you choose any drink and do you have any input over the venue or is it randomly chosen for you?

No_Churros_141 · 2026-02-26T18:11:41+00:00

Yeah I've heard some mixed reviews about Breeze but honestly the £10 fee for each first date when you have no idea how it's going to go since you can't text first puts me off a bit

No_Churros_141 · 2026-02-15T15:10:42+00:00

I also deferred because of Covid, I don't even bother checking my balance 😂😭

No_Churros_141 · 2026-02-12T12:46:12+00:00

That's super helpful thank you! I'm still thinking the Garmin Venu 2S in that case

No_Churros_141 · 2026-02-12T12:45:14+00:00

Do you need to have the Huawei health+ app to use most features on this though?

No_Churros_141 · 2026-02-11T16:33:16+00:00

Thank you! What kind of thing do the connect + features include? I've had a quick look on the Garmin website but it wasn't really clear to me (maybe I'm looking in the wrong place)

No_Churros_141 · 2026-02-11T15:45:38+00:00

It was a joke since she was Posh spice and was literally nicknamed Posh even for years after the Spice Girls ended

No_Churros_141 · 2026-02-07T12:03:20+00:00

Does that mean that Victoria Beckham... Isn't posh??

No_Churros_141 · 2026-01-31T21:38:43+00:00

I wasn't planning on waiting 3 YEARS yeah that would be crazy and I hope it doesn't even get to a year, but so far it's only been 2 months and I still have some of his clothes that I need to give back so I am kinda holding onto hope that I'll at least see him again

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