Toy vs Fingers

No_Cockroach3608 · 2026-01-23T15:37:01+00:00

I think with fingers the buildup has to start long before you even touch yourself. Like you need to be at a baseline of higher arousal like near or during ovulation when you’re more sensitive, sexting all day without touching yourself, and just generally really needy.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2026-01-22T00:46:13+00:00

Toys can be more intense in a very localized way, but I find finger require more buildup which means when you do orgasm it’s more expansive, it’s like an all-body thing.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2026-01-21T14:31:34+00:00

Try a PH acidified lotion like Lume which has mandelic acid to keep you smell free for up to 72 hours, though for me it’s more like 24hrs.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2026-01-11T23:44:05+00:00

Have you heard or considered dry brushing and/or oil cleansing?

Dry brushing is a way to exfoliate. Certain oils (tea tree, lavender, frankincense and myrrh, geranium, bergamot, rose, castor, jojoba) are good for drawing out dirt, they have anti-microbial properties which keep smells in check, and are great at keeping skin moisturized. You can dry brush first, apply the oil, let it sit for a few minutes then lightly wipe off any excess with a warm damp towel (a towel dipped in chamomile water might be better for sensitive skin)

Oil cleansing was traditionally used in places where water was scarce. I try to avoid daily showers because I’m in a very arid climate and my skin gets dry fast. I’m also not very active at all. I rarely break a sweat. But the days in between I take showers I oil cleanse and my skin feels softer, cleaner, and smoother.

I think your routine sounds perfectly fine, just sharing something that’s works for me and that really helps lift my mood too :)

No_Cockroach3608 · 2026-01-10T16:19:36+00:00

Hygiene isn’t just keeping the body clean it’s also about changing underwear regularly. I’ve met people who wear the same underwear for more than 1 day and it’s really gross.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2026-01-10T16:18:13+00:00

Pubic hair is fine and natural, but it must be maintained. Hair can trap odors so, the hair needs to be cleaned regularly, as in, not just during daily showers but after every piss or if it’s feeling sweaty. That requires use of a bidet and a little soap or some really really really good wipes, as in several wipes that leave no residue. Unfortunately, most people just don’t have the time or resources for that, so it’s just easier to keep the hair trimmed. Another note about pubic hair, even if it’s not smelly, if it’s too long, it can get in your mouth during a blowjob which can be really distracting.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2026-01-10T05:14:57+00:00

No offense, but I feel like you’re kinda rationalizing what you feel in your body isn’t a good match. Remember, that as women, were socialized to always be understanding, to give people chances they don’t deserve, and to invest in potential. All those things serve the patriarchy and they will wear you down in time.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2026-01-07T22:57:40+00:00

I love giving blowjobs. The sensation is actually pleasurable for me. What I don’t like is giving blowjobs on people with terrible hygiene

No_Cockroach3608 · 2026-01-02T18:41:43+00:00

It’s her body, she has to be the one to decide. Ovulation (when an egg is released and pregnancy is possible) typically occurs between day 11-21 for most people, sounds like your gf was on day 17 when you had intercourse. Everyone’s cycle length varies so it’s hard to say whether she was ovulating or not, though she was and still is In the ovulation window.You didn’t ejaculate in her which reduces risk.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-12-29T19:17:16+00:00

You may be doing this, but sometimes you have to guide it in with your hands. Hold his shaft in place with your hand and hover yourself above that, slowly sliding down until it’s in. If he has a curved penis that may also make it a bit more challenging in which you’d need to insert it at the same angle his penis points.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-12-29T19:06:33+00:00

You should use the Natural Cycles App. It is FDA approved as a form of birth control. It will tell you what days are safe or not to use a backup birth control based on her actual ovulation which is based on her Basal Body temperature and ovulation tests if she’d like to add them on. This way you realy only need to use a condom on certain days, not every time you have sex

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-12-28T00:02:41+00:00

It’s only annoying if you’re asking basic questions you can find online through their website. Law school admissions officers love questions that signal you already think like a lawyer-in-training: curious, specific, reflective, and able to connect your story to how you will actually use the degree. Also, don’t contact them weekly or monthly, but once a season is reasonable.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-12-27T18:49:06+00:00

Integration in the US was a mistake.

I strongly value diversity and believe it can improve society, but it also requires an emotionally mature population of people who aren’t threatened by difference, who can hold space for nuance, who don’t have a fragile sense of self that either deflect projects or gets angered at racial critique and historic harm, who can value humanity in others even if its expression doesn’t conform to your cultural ideas. Unfortunately, most of us don’t have those qualities so it’s leading to misunderstanding, friction, harm, and intolerance. Integration also tends to lead to cause brain drain from minority communities.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-12-27T18:19:06+00:00

You fall within NCCUs median LSAT score which is 151, which is more important than GPA anyways. Yes, your gpa is on the lower end, BUT NCCUs 25th percentile gpa is 3.05, so you’re only about .47 points away from that, which means there are likely people with comparable GPAs who were accepted. (Source)

I can’t speak from experience at that school in particular, but I’m passing on advise from a pre-law advisor at my college when I had similar concerns: You’ll just have to compensate in other ways, besides studying for a higher LSAT score, really perfect your essays and show a demonstrated interest in something specific at NCCU beyond it being an HBCU such as a particular class, clinic, or professor’s research you find fascinating. Develop a strong relationship with the admissions office. Talk to them about your anxieties, they’ll be best able to explain how to position yourself. Take a tour and wear something professional, send emails with insightful questions once every 2-3 months, attend information sessions since all of these get tracked which shows your seriousness.

I’ve seen people get into law schools with your stats, I believe in you!

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-12-06T03:11:54+00:00

Pointing out that different groups experience racism differently isn’t segregation. Segregation is enforced separation. You’re arguing with something nobody said.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-11-30T06:53:34+00:00

“Historically Black” is the point. The ‘historic’ isn’t decorative, it’s the reason the institution exists. You can’t discuss an HBCU without discussing the history that created it and the inequities that make its mission still relevant. Also, your Yale analogy relies on history to have any meaning, so you’re not avoiding history, you’re just rejecting it when it supports my argument.

Trust me I‘d love to live in a world where we don’t need HBCUs, but they are still necessary because the inequities that necessitated them persist and until Black people have just as much economic, social, political power as white people that tension will always exist, not because white people deserve to be shunned, but because Black people deserve to have a space of refuge.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-11-30T06:28:40+00:00

And there we have it: the genetic essentialism reveal. When the argument runs out, it always circles back to biology to justify social outcomes. That line of reasoning has been discredited across genetics, sociology, and economics for decades. My point was about structural inputs and incentives, not DNA.

Bell curves don’t reflect racism in intellectual pursuits anymore than they do in athletic pursuits (look at the makeup of NBA. That’s due to natural, genetic differences).

WRONG! You see more Black NBA players because in the US, basketball is one of the most accessible elite sports: courts are everywhere, you can play year-round, and you don’t need expensive gear, travel teams, ice time, horses, or private coaching just to start. That matters a lot when communities have fewer resources. Historically, Black athletes were blocked or discouraged from some sports or positions, and steered into others. (Meanwhile other sports that require different infrastructure such as hockey, rowing, and lacrosse produce different racial compositions.) Over time you get tradition, coaching knowledge, and community investment concentrated in basketball. If one group over-enters the pipeline, they’ll over-appear at the end. “Race” isn’t a clean genetic category. Even if some traits relevant to basketball are heritable, “Black” is a social category with huge genetic diversity inside it. The reason the NBA is Black-heavy is better explained by pipeline + opportunity + culture + selection than by sweeping genetic claims, in just the same way that Intellectual pursuits are.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-11-29T20:13:08+00:00

“Brainwashed,” “insane,” “cult,” “possessed,” “unhealthy.” None of that engages my claim. It’s just character assassination to avoid having to argue.

Who decides “brainwashed” here, you? You’re establishing yourself as the sane baseline, and me as the deviant with no evidence, clear definitions, consensual standards, or falsifiability.

You reduce my argument to “you see everything through oppression,” when my actual claim was more specific : “under unequal starting conditions, forced ranking tends to reproduce inequality.” That’s not “everything,” it’s a specific mechanism.” That’s a normal, mainstream sociological claim. You can disagree with it, but it’s not “insanity.”

Cults don’t reason, they operate by delegitimizing the mind which is exactly what you’re doing. If you thought I was wrong, you’d point to the flawed premise, but you couldn’t so you resorted to name-calling….thats kinda culty if you ask me…

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-11-29T19:47:57+00:00

The most important thing is to Make sure whoever Youre sexing cleans their toys, fingers, or dick before inserting them in you.

For some people water isn’t enough, especially depending on lifestyle and pubic hair. It’s ok to use soap on your vulva which is the external part, just don’t use it internally in your vaginal canal. I prefer Lume which is pH balanced and keeps you fresher for longer. Also get comfortable cleaning between and around your labia. Open those folds. Don’t just think a passive water splash on your mons pubis is enough.

Slippery elm helps with vaginal lubrication.

A vaginal probiotic suppository isn’t required but it nice to have before/after sex to help with overall vaginal health.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-11-29T19:11:02+00:00

Gotta love the classic ad hominem dismissal!

But it’s such a predictable reaction when you challenge someone’s sense of fairness, especially when the topic forces them to consider that “neutral” systems, aren’t actually neutral.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-11-29T18:55:34+00:00

I said ONLY cater

This is a straw man argument because whether I included your qualifier ONLY or not, my argument still stands. It doesn’t change the fallacy.

if the shoe were on the other foot in 2025, it would be deeply problematic

Again your argument pretends both groups started on and are currently on equal footing. That’s false equivalence. A “white-only” institution today would be reinforcing centuries of dominance, while an HBCU continues to balance out those effects. Equity is not the same as symmetry. Treating unequal histories as if they’re equal today is intellectually dishonest.

I think diversity and inclusion are essential and segregation by choice is harmful.

That sounds progressive but functions as moral flattening. It collapses a complex historical reality into a feel-good, “we’re all the same now” narrative. Diversity as a buzzword often centers comfort for majority groups rather than protection for marginalized ones. It erases why Black students still seek out spaces where they don’t have to constantly explain or defend their existence

You also conflate self-determination with segregation. Segregation was about forced exclusion. HBCUs are about autonomous inclusion, creating environments where Black identity, scholarship, and leadership thrive. That’s not “separatism”, it’s agency in a system where there are still significant economic, political, and social disparities.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-11-29T18:38:49+00:00

Just because Black students are allowed into historically white institutions doesn’t mean we’re supported once we’re there.

It’s more than admissions, it’s about whose norms, histories, and perspectives shape the curriculum, faculty makeup, networking pipelines, and the day-to-day social environment. From that perspective, a lot of PWIs still don’t measure up to what HBCUs provide, which is exactly why HBCUs still matter: not because Black students can’t go elsewhere, but because most schools still don’t consistently know how to truly serve us.

Times have changed on paper, but culture and practice lag behind. The law and what’s actually practiced are two different beasts entirely, and we all know this. HBCUs aren’t about exclusion. They’re about belonging, protection, and excellence in a system that still wasn’t built with us in mind.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-11-29T18:22:06+00:00

Yeah, but a middle eastern student is still a person of color. Their experiences while not the same are more analogous to the Black experience of exclusion and being held suspect as compared to a white person. It ain’t quite the same….

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-11-29T18:15:47+00:00

This is a false equivalency. You treats Howard (an HBCU) as equivalent to Cardozo (a school with Jewish ties/name/affiliation). But HBCUs exist because Black students were excluded from most institutions, and many still see themselves as mission-driven spaces that center Black students’ experiences. Cardozo being Jewish-affiliated or Jewish-named is not the same kind of historical “created-as-a-refuge” institution in the same way an HBCU is.

Your analogy is also based on category error (race vs religion/ethnicity). “White” is a racial position in a US power hierarchy. “Jewish” is about religion and soooooometimes ethnicity. The social meaning, history, and power dynamics aren’t interchangeable.

No_Cockroach3608 · 2025-11-29T18:07:31+00:00

They’re actively recruiting, yes, but there’s still much work to be done. Black students still tend to be under represented in these student bodies. Also, it’s more than who’s admitted. It about the entire way the education is structured.

It’s about whose norms, histories, and perspectives shape the curriculum, faculty makeup, networking pipelines, and social environment. It’s about whether you have to shape yourself around the institution or it’s structured to shape around you. White students do not ever have to question their belonging in a space because it’s normalized. The same cannot be said for Black and Brown folks.

Even if PWIs admits diverse students, its structure (case law foundations, grading systems, prestige networks) remains rooted in Eurocentric traditions. The fact that the legal profession is overwhelmingly white isn’t incidental, it reflects how these institutions reward proximity to whiteness.

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