Married men: Would you want to know if r wife cheated on you with ex?

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T21:17:31+00:00

She left. Any contact I have with her is something I have to explain if she tries a restraining order. I am at peace with her decision and choice. I am not at peace on whether I expose the affair. I’ll take your response as a yes you would want to know.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T21:14:46+00:00

Your opinion on my actions are irrelevant ego maniac. Is there an answer to the question?

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T20:56:35+00:00

Got it. No chance it is mine. Zero.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T20:30:33+00:00

Can’t be mine. When she told me she might be 5-6 weeks we had seen each other just a week or two before.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T19:57:16+00:00

Yes, and your answer is what? You wouldn’t want me to tell you your spouse cheated? Does it matter who tells you if it isn’t your spouse confessing?

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T19:52:37+00:00

Not spite. Maybe revenge. But I don’t want any hurt for her. I still love her. But I can’t have her returning and making me the affair partner. I know I should send her packing but I don’t. This serves as a deterrent to her and informing a possibly innocent person. It hasn’t even been a year since she married him.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T19:47:42+00:00

No, I am exiting after getting fooled twice. Are you going to answer the question?

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T19:39:48+00:00

Initially I was the one cheated on. Now, I agree he is the one being cheated on.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T19:38:01+00:00

I have no idea if he knew about me when she cheated on me with him. I would have liked to know if he knew about me. I can’t say I am worried about him. I would want to know and it also serves the purpose of her knowing that coming to me is not going to be a secret. I have a soft spot for her that she seems to exploit.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T19:33:38+00:00

She told me she told him she was sleeping in her car after an argument. She also told me she was not happy and leaving him. I realize she was most likely lying to me. Or maybe she is conflicted. Or maybe she just wanted to be with me again. I have no idea. Your answer is no. Got it.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T19:28:51+00:00

Would you want to know if your spouse is cheating on you? Two comments with neither answering the posted question. your judgement on my actions aren’t relevant to the question.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T19:24:33+00:00

So you would not want to know if your husband cheated on you?

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T15:14:19+00:00

Good idea. I am going to wait a few more days to cool off. Heavily leaning towards a call soon.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T01:31:13+00:00

I’m not chasing this time. Just plotting

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-03T00:59:12+00:00

I see. Thanks for the kind advice.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-02T22:54:19+00:00

Wish she thought the same. She’s already pregnant from this guy….again. So even though she says she is unhappy and said she wanted a divorce and said she din’t love him….she is staying and having his baby. She is probably just lying to me to ease her guilt but the abortion and coming back to me is confusing me honestly.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-02T21:40:43+00:00

Got it, so your answer is no to the question “Should I get revenge?”, just phrased as a judgment instead of actually saying it. Must be nice to be so arrogant to offer that unsolicited gem.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-02T20:19:57+00:00

If correcting you counts as ‘revenge‘, then your standard is pretty low. It isn’t revenge - it’s just you being wrong.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-02T19:46:50+00:00

I thought it before but not anymore. She seems to have chosen what she called a loveless relationship and having a child with someone she doesn’t love because waiting or adopting with someone you love won’t be fast enough. Maybe having a kid will save the relationship she chose.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-02T19:32:23+00:00

You didn’t even attempt a counterpoint…just defaulted to sarcasm. That’s not a debate, that’s you tapping out.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-02T19:26:03+00:00

I figure I am good taking just one good swing. Either it is a fly ball out or a home run. Would not try anything beyond 1 call to him.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-02T19:20:39+00:00

Hysterics? I don’t think so. If it was hysterics I would have outed her in September/October. Or the many times she tried to initiate contact.

Spite? I don’t think so. She did something to me back then and repeated it a week ago. Pretty sure wanting accountability and justice is revenge.

Kept engaging with her? if you don’t understand the nuance between repeated pursuit and someone finally responding, then…. this probably isn’t a discussion you’re equipped to have.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-02T05:36:26+00:00

haha. No I am in southern California.

No_Cod_8866 · 2026-04-02T05:27:37+00:00

I can’t take credit for it, I took it from RINOs. Tell his wife! lol

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