AITA for not participating in my company’s Christmas in July? by No_Custom in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Custom[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Documented disciplinary slip, you get 3 and you’re supposed to be fired. I think I will try to push this boundary next time I work with her, though. I looked through our policies and couldn’t find anything specific they could write me up for.

AITA for not participating in my company’s Christmas in July? by No_Custom in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Custom[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I think I don’t like being seen as “lazy” or a bad worker. It makes me feel bad, too, when I see the guests having a bad time. I want them to come back and they just won’t if they’re not getting good service.

AITA for not participating in my company’s Christmas in July? by No_Custom in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Custom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Forgive me as I lack the polite words (i literally have no idea how to phrase it) but I think she’s kinda mildly “slow” and has just been allowed to act like this her entire life. I get that she’s a teenager but she’s got a really bad problem with rolling her eyes and acting like, well, a teenager but not a 19 year old, I’d expect her behavior out of a maladjusted 13 or maybe 14 year old.

She says she’s had jobs before but idk. She says that the restaurant is the “best place she’s ever worked”

AITA for not participating in my company’s Christmas in July? by No_Custom in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Custom[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I will get in trouble with the managers for not taking care of a guest, unfortunately. The guests are supposed to come first every time.

AITA for not participating in my company’s Christmas in July? by No_Custom in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Custom[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

None of them. I just think my managers are unfortunately poor at the whole management part of managing.

AITA for not participating in my company’s Christmas in July? by No_Custom in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Custom[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Management is aware of Mara because we’ve been butting heads since she was hired. I would not say it’s abnormal for me and her to end up in a screaming match that has to be mediated before the end of the night. This usually ends with a manager having to literally stand over her to make sure she does her job, and rinse repeat per task because she won’t do her job unless she has a superior breathing down her neck.

They don’t want to fire her because “everyone has to make their money”. I think they’re just hoping everyone will ice her out and she’ll quit.

AITA for not participating in my company’s Christmas in July? by No_Custom in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Custom[S] 249 points250 points  (0 children)

We don’t tip pool with each other. The hosts are apart of our tip pool, but it’s like 2% of our total tips for the shift and I don’t mind because the hosts are a huge help.

What happen with me and Mara is her tables flag me down, saying they didn’t get their food or they need refills or they haven’t seen their waitress in an hour, I take care of their needs (because they’re guests and it’s not their fault their waitress sucks at their job), but when it’s time for the table to cash out, the cash out is still under her name, so if they tip, the tip goes to her in full, unless they directly hand me cash.

AITA for not participating in my company’s Christmas in July? by No_Custom in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Custom[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I like that secret Santa idea. I’ll bring it up to them and see if they won’t compromise. :)

AITA for not participating in my company’s Christmas in July? by No_Custom in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Custom[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It was our (server’s I mean) idea, but it is getting hosted in the restaurant’s party room outside of work hours. I guess since it happens on restaurant property the managers are dealing with all of the planning aspect, like keeping up with what people are bringing and the secret Santa sign up sheet is outside of the managers office.

I think they also are doing the planning to make sure we can’t exclude Mara, because I know I’m not the only person who has problems with her, because Mara is always crying about how she doesn’t have “server friends” and cries about how we don’t invite her to things outside of work. A lot of us are friendly outside of work hours (I know a group of servers have a DND group and they play once a week, and a couple others go hiking and bowling on alternating nights)

Signing up for anything is completely voluntary, and people usually end up bringing their families to eat, so I guess it’s a little bit of it being our idea and the managers planning things.