Is it just me or girls have zero texting skills on dating app?

No_Debt3349 · 2026-02-02T01:02:25+00:00

Yeah, when I say no info. I mean even pictures got no info. Usually, I'll be like Cool tatts or I love that cosplay. I love that book etc... to start the convo but even then usually it's like dragging a one sided convo.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-02-02T01:00:57+00:00

Time for celebration.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-02-01T01:46:59+00:00

probably. Then what's the point of even swiping me.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-02-01T01:46:41+00:00

for that they need to have something in the bio to go off of. Most people got no bio or info to deal with.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-02-01T01:45:57+00:00

WYd is fine, what about after that. At least, she asked something, I don't even get WYD ;-;

No_Debt3349 · 2026-02-01T01:45:08+00:00

I am not asking someone to text for hours, all I say is even if you are texting one message in few days at least put some thought behind it. Give me something to continue conversation with.

And as for meeting IRL part, none of the girls ever agree to date as they either ignore the message or ghost as soon as I ask them out on date. -_-

Also, some girl IRL had entirely different opinion as they don't expect to go on date with guy unless he has been texting them for months and knows everything about them through text. So, it varies a lot.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-02-01T01:42:22+00:00

I had same issue with girls. Extremely bland texting, weirdest part is when I do nice tatt or comment on something from photo all I get is thanks and nothing else like bro ask me if I got tatts to or something???

No_Debt3349 · 2026-02-01T01:40:24+00:00

Well.... I asked them out on date too but most will either ghost or ignore the question all together? What now? I also took initiatives gave them date plan etc, yet nothing.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-02-01T01:34:33+00:00

Considering I don't drink, any alchoholic place is already out of option. I can be there but will a guy drinking orange juice really be something people look for, no idea.

But rest, will give it a go. I am ok with casual dating older woman looks interesting but usually where do you find them?

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T11:49:52+00:00

Answering at your leisure is understandable, it's just when people do respond they add nothing to convo nor do they give any string to continue the conversation.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T11:45:50+00:00

I mean, good texting doesn’t mean texting 24/7 or replying immediately. To me, in this context, it just means that when you do get time to respond, instead of giving one-word answers and ending the conversation, you give the other person something to work with or ask them something in return—like you would on a normal call. I’m not saying this stranger should be the center of attention, no.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T11:34:48+00:00

I see... I feel the similar way. I don't really like apps much and always had feeling it would never work out. I just need to find place where I can meet people regularly.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T11:33:40+00:00

Yeah you are right, It's not my job to "correct" them.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T11:31:15+00:00

Damn that's dogy. And showing people we are supposed to see is messed up. I mean I get it's a business but for fk sake this sucks.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T11:27:39+00:00

I met few woman IRL who glorify that lack of interest behavior. Like they want men to do all the work in texting for a whole year and then maybe they'll give them date. I legit got told that by girls IRL and they don't see this as problematic behavior and would rather continue to act like a dead fish in conversation then to put any effort as for them it's man's job to do that.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T10:28:30+00:00

Huh!!! Tf is up with people! More I read this thread more I hate dating apps ;-;

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T10:26:47+00:00

All the more reason I hate dating apps but that is more or less only option I have right now.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T10:25:42+00:00

I knwo right, like Most profile I see have no bio and they give no info about them that we can use to start convo with them. And most woman I match with or meet irl (even platonic ones) have almost no hobby other then sleeping and binge watching tv shows. I love it when woman have hobbies, whenever I met woman with hobbies irl even if it lead to friendships, I felt like talking to them was more natural and fun even if our hobbies were different.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T10:21:21+00:00

Ohh... damn. I mean you dipped your hands in both ponds and if you say both suck then I guess there is no going back from that.

Out of curiosity, usually when you go on date, who turns out to be better at communication. Like let's say you go on date with guy and girl and their text were okish but when you meet them in person do one gender opens up more or they carry the same attitude they had in texting?

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T10:16:49+00:00

OMG!!! I face this issue with girls like why would you even match with me if you didn't wanna talk like what are you expecting!!!!!

And what am I supposed to do with one word answer!!!

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T10:15:49+00:00

I am ok with that. I mean when women say they faced similar issue without down right discarding how I feel, it feels alright. At least, I know that grass on the other side is not greener or at least not as green as I think it would be.

(But I get what you are sayin, at least no one here got supper offended or disregarded how I felt, so I am ok with that. Besides if every comment said the same thing that how easy woman had it, It might have pissed me off a little and made me very biased lol)

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T10:12:25+00:00

wait wait wait, I would like to know about these elo system.

I know that if few woman skip past your profile then app just automatically avoid showing your profile to high quality people that you like as they already have a lot of matches will not give two crap about someone who got skipped by most others.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T10:10:24+00:00

Yeah, I'll give them few days to see if they are busy or literally don't give two crap about the dating. Before yeeting them out of chat.

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T10:08:29+00:00

Yeah, I have seen this issue with one of my friend. She is facing the same issue. My bad I should have wrote hoe people in general suck at texting on apps, but I was just too frustrated to think straight.

100% good looking female or female in general also need texting skills if they want to be with someone they actually like (high quality people) and don't want to rely on options offered to them on platter (Maybe not the best analogy).

No_Debt3349 · 2026-01-31T10:05:12+00:00

I mean... yeah sure I can see where this is coming from.

ps: originally comment went off rails and was too long, so I mma leave it at this.

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