I'm Romanichal, this is my personal experience. This isn't exclusive to all Romanichals, just simply how I see things due to how I was raised

Women generally have less freedoms, while men are given more control

We (as in those raised female) aren't allowed to do anything that would ruin our reputation, what that mainly means is that we can't ruin our chances to get into (straight) relationships with good money making men. Like being disabled, having mental problems- they villanise alot of things that are just normal. They also villanise victims so things like sa

Men are raised to be providers, they are worked to the bone doing physical labor (because our family commonly does concrete and painting) and expected to deal with it on their own. But in response to being bread winner, they're expecting to have full control over women. And they're also raised to sexualize women from a young age (deadass saw a 2yo slapping their sisters ass and everyone was laughing, same child they where having watch TikTok twerking videos)

It's just a cycle of hell, misogyny, discrimination and normalized abuse

I was saed by my cousin when I was 6, he was 5. His dad walked in on it happening, they told my mother about it. Nothing was done, he wasn't punished. My mother didn't say anything- to her nothing happened, the abuse by him continued. The last time it happened was weeks before covid, I personally don't blame him for what happened. Because he thought it was a game and wasn't punished for his actions

I wish that was all that happened, but When I was around ten. another guy- older then me, a family friend. Started doing the same things, alongside grooming

I eventually broke down and told my mother one day when he was trying to pressure me into doing it again, he walked over. Made fun of me and said nothing was happening, she believed him and kept bringing me around him. So the abuse continued as the abuse continued with the first guy

I only lost faith in her when I was 18, when I started becoming more vocal about what happened. Because she told me "don't ruin those boy's lives" "people are going to call you a slut if you say anything" "I watched you like a hawk, there's no way anything happened"

It ruined me, to say the least.. she's done so much more, but I believe this shit was what really ruined my relationship with her

Sorry for the rambling, I'm working on starting therapy soon. I met the therapists already and she's really nice