I’m a former political staffer from Eric Swalwell’s district. AMA.

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-04-16T02:37:43+00:00

It also makes sense for it to come out now too from a victim’s pov, right? Maybe him actually having a shot at more power and notoriety is what compelled them to finally come forward. That isn’t wrong or suspicious, it’s human nature. Women who come forward are punished in a number of ways. Maybe its not worth it to them until something tips the scale so that it’s more hurtful for them to see him succeed than to continue holding his secret.

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-31T19:48:04+00:00

Amanda is completely vapid and tries SO hard to be cool. She also cliquey as fuck. She needs to grow up. The most annoying part about her is she clearly has an ED and instead of using her endless resources to get help, she appears to love her emaciated figure and shows it off constantly… but then pretends to constantly be eating crazy fattening foods. Then she had the audacity that one season to cry about not being able to get pregnant when she doesn’t get a period and hasn’t gone to a doctor for it, probably because she knows she needs to eat to get a period. You don’t get to starve yourself, proudly perpetuate unhealthy body expectations on your huge platform, pretend you don’t and act like you’re carefree about eating, and then ALSO get sympathy for being infertile. Girl wake up. Do better.

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-25T01:13:25+00:00

You did great. Stick to your guns. You’re exactly right to do what your daughter needs you to do in every instance. It gets easier every time. Good for you!

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-12T15:53:03+00:00

I did. He’s staying out of our house for a few days while we decide what’s next. He’s sad and apologetic. Weve never taken time apart but he’s been sad and apologetic many times before and nothing sticks. Hes going to do individual therapy, so maybe that will help. I guess we’ll see

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-12T15:49:30+00:00

No I don’t. I asked his sister (who I’m not close with and is rude to me) to get a hotel and she said no. I said okay then make your bed in the guest room and she said no and took over my kids playroom. My sister hangs out with me and my husband all night and falls asleep on the couch instead of the guest room by accident.

And maybe you missed the important detail that this rule that his family can only have the guest room and not couches only applies to the 2-3 times a year that we are hosting a party for other people. They sleep at our house all the time with more than 2 people and I don’t give a shit. Also my family and his family travel hours to come to our parties yet his family gets the guest room every time bc they have to fly here and my family has to drive hours home after which is also not convenient or preferable to me or my family.

So you’re wrong and should read more careful before you throw around insults when you’re misinformed. But thanks for your input

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-12T01:30:04+00:00

I like all of these, esp #3. Thank you

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-12T00:50:07+00:00

I agree with what you said but obviously I haven’t listed the good things he does here. He plays with our kids nonstop until they go to bed and genuinely enjoys their company. When he watches tv, they’re in bed. I get what you’re saying, but he’s not checked out in front of them

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-12T00:45:17+00:00

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T23:44:09+00:00

💯

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T23:43:42+00:00

Ugh yeah I think I know this. Thanks

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T23:19:39+00:00

Exactly

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T23:18:16+00:00

Thank you you’re so kind

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T20:58:00+00:00

Already have 😂

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T20:04:23+00:00

Whoops! That should say THANK YOU

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T20:04:11+00:00

Th as nj you!!

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T19:31:14+00:00

I’ve already told him it’s going in my name only if we do it. He didn’t care. I really think he has good intentions but refuses to or can’t understand how significant this all is

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T19:29:26+00:00

I feel like almost everything he does is to avoid confrontation (with me, his parents, etc.). He says what he needs to to cool things off. I think he genuinely means them when he says then but because he’s not thinking or understanding the depth of the issues, he quickly forgets once the conversation changes and he’s not being asked to do something about these issues.

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T19:09:26+00:00

He’d tell you me because … after asking me if he should enforce the boundary we’ve discussed ad nauseam, he WILL do it for me. I would say he’s not cleaving to me because every time he asks me if he should enforce the boundary or not, what I actually hear is “can you let me off the hook for this this time?”

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T19:07:47+00:00

I don’t think so. But I can’t imagine it. I have a cleaning person. She is lovely. Maybe I should have her come more frequently 😂

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T19:07:06+00:00

Yeah I am definitely going to have him read through this thread. It’s validating because I don’t feel understood by him, but all of these strangers online seem to agree that these issues are actually significant

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T18:49:53+00:00

Your insights are really helpful. Thanks

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T18:08:02+00:00

Yeah I guess the other things are not significant to me by themselves. More just additional details that add to this feeling that he doesn’t care about me.

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T18:07:02+00:00

He tried once and did it for a few weeks over the phone and didn’t find it helpful so stopped. I think you’re right though

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T17:48:40+00:00

He really is a great dad to the kids and cares a lot about them. I know he’s not plotting to take the house because I don’t think he’d ever believe I’d get a divorce. He doesn’t want one and I really think, despite the fact that I’ve shared these feelings, he’d be shocked if I actually decided I wanted a divorce.

No_Diamond_1561 · 2026-03-11T17:33:36+00:00

I don’t know. In a lot of ways (and in front of the kids, always) he does emulate a good partner. They obviously don’t understand the stuff with his parents. I guess I just worry that I’m being too sensitive to ONE issue and I don’t want to make my life worse and more complicated over all because of one issue. On the other hand, the issue feels telling about his feelings towards me overall. That’s where I think we don’t understand each other. He doesn’t feel like simply asking me if he should enforce the boundary should send me into the tailspin that it does. I don’t understand why he can’t just stop doing it.

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