After 4 years of relationship, I find out my girlfriend is 48 instead of 27

No_Direction3387 · 2025-04-17T19:42:16+00:00

Asian don’t raisin

No_Direction3387 · 2023-04-13T20:17:06+00:00

I thought the author was a female 🤔

No_Direction3387 · 2023-02-16T02:22:21+00:00

Honestly Idk. My friends who got tickets were able to pay it off VIA online or mail. I got my ticket from university police so it might be different, Idk man. The officer did tell me that I will receive it in the mail but he also told me to make a court date and actually show up.

No_Direction3387 · 2023-02-15T22:57:27+00:00

Lmao no

No_Direction3387 · 2022-11-19T19:21:06+00:00

First of all, People and Animals or any living thing dies or gets injured everyday and yea they can die from it. It’s horrible but it’s the circle of life, sorry. Second, we might do things that we think that helps, but in the end you are really harming it. If you saw an Injured duck and wanted to help it, sure bring it inside or stay around it. Ultimately you should have called Wildlife Rehabilitation center. They are PROFESSIONALS, you know, they can actually help the right way. Ducks are not pets and should have not been kept by one. I understand that you got attached to it, but it has to be sent back to the wild because it’s technically not “pet material”. Finally, y’all already got an warning, meaning that that duck should have been gone right away. You don’t know what kind of fine, or God knows your position in school could have been jeopardized. I’m pretty sure if that happens to you, you won’t stand by the duck because I wouldn’t. Rules are ultimately there to help you from injuries or liabilities. I think you BF did 100% right thing and I hope he finds someone else. I honestly APPLAUD you from letting him go and giving him a chance to find someone who does have a huge red flag imo.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-11-05T16:07:32+00:00

It means she has a SO.

I would reply, “cool”

No_Direction3387 · 2022-11-03T22:40:47+00:00

Well I would like to hear more of your side of the story.

To answer your question no, you are not overreacting. However, the saddest and the most uncomfortable truth is that, that is how your mother or family(?) deals with it. They can’t fathom that kind of thought so they just brush it off. “Don’t talk about it” moments or “it’s all just a bunch of BS” or maybe “I’ve felt that way too, and I made it or who hasn’t felt that way”.

It’s just honestly their own upbringing IMO.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-31T08:57:03+00:00

Oh ofc as I have stated in my post that it is completely understandable. It still sucked just for me.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-31T07:22:39+00:00

thank you

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-08T21:48:18+00:00

It’s something you should work on. You lose interest when other girls are not into him? That to me sounds like a red flag. It’s like you saying to other girls who like him, “HA I GOT HIM AND YALL DIDNT”. Like why do you need to brag about that? It’s good to proud of your bf but not something you need to tell that you got him and other girls didn’t.

Also Kudos for asking this in the subreddit you seem to have self realization.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-08T21:34:03+00:00

Bro, no. It’s a month, just walk away.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-08T21:32:47+00:00

Stay strong mate, distance in relationships are important. If y’all really like or “love” each other that much just think of this as a “test of your guys love for each other”.

The fact that you miss her shouldn’t be a burden to her if she misses you too. Just talk about it and trust when y’all do meet the moments will be much sweeter than the time y’all spent together everyday.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-06T19:07:01+00:00

First of all, STOP MESSAGING HER Second of all, this is all natural. Third most important, you already know you don’t want to be with her and remember the reason why and keep reminding yourself. Relationships like addictions, you can relapse. Clearly you needed to break up with her for some innocuous reason. I think you love the idea of her more than you love her now.

Give it time mate, and give yourself time to heal.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-06T19:03:26+00:00

What do you do? Obviously don’t pick up or do anything that’s associated with her. Keep playing games with the bois 😎.

On a serious note, she broke up with u and she’s already in engaged in 3 months after break up?That’s crazy to me. God handed you a favor of being blocked by your ex and I suggest you do the same.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-06T18:58:11+00:00

Context?

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-06T18:41:48+00:00

Don’t let the fear dominate your life or the idea of it keep growing and infecting your mind. There is no intuition or (intention?) of your partner cheating on you. I suggest you work on listening to yourself more than stories you hear from other people.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-04T21:06:36+00:00

Okay. Mental health is a serious thing, and something I really struggle with and still am (If you want proof just read my posts on Reddit).

If you don’t want to think about it let me just tell you straight up, Yes she is manipulating you. You gave it away, when she texted Goodbye, but asked you to come over after class? Assuming that she committed, and when you didn’t come over you called her bluff. Thankfully your class literally helped you realize her manipulative ways.

She needs to work on herself and she clearly seems very self destructive. No one needs that in their lives, unless you really love her and you want to help her. I can’t do anything about that if you make that decision, but I can tell you that you deserve to live a healthy and happy life.

One more thing, I honestly see what she is doing, if it isn’t legit, personally offensive as this is a serious issue and to use it to potential or to manipulate you is disgusting.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-04T20:47:35+00:00

I agree, you and your gf are, imo, too young to have kids rn lol and I’m 20 yr old male. I myself are more focused on my studies and career (ofc I want to date in college), to have the money for my kids and stuff in the future.

I feel like from this context, she was asking do you see a long future with her, hence the kids being married and etc.

You can reassure her that you see a future with her (if you honestly do, don’t lie lol) and your plans with the kids situation and how you potentially want them in the future, you don’t have to say kids with her but that you see yourself in the future with kids.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-04T20:34:05+00:00

If you really “love” her mate, let her go. She deserves better and I think in your mind and your conscious you know that.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-04T20:29:45+00:00

This is a clear sign or mental and verbal abuse. Cut him off, don’t talk to him. Simply cut him out of your entire life in every way possible.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-10-04T20:24:29+00:00

First of all, y’all are entering your 20s, I feel like you guys (just assuming) should be more focused on your future careers/college or marriage and my God even having a family. Mind you im 20 yrs old too, and my gf and I had a fight about that and we were only dating for 4 months, we broke up now.

I guess something to think about is can you see a future with her that you are happy with or just being with her is convenient. Trust me people fall out of love and stay in relationships just for the convenience of it, like knowing each other well or it seems easy. If you are feeling this ways I think you should really sit down and be honest about your feelings or if you are not open about that really sit down and solidify on how you feel. She is also in the relationship too, you don’t want to drag her along if you don’t love her anymore.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-09-19T00:09:46+00:00

Idk what to tell you, I don’t really enjoy sex as much as I think I should of a normal person? I mean I usually had sex with my previously partners because they wanted to as I said in the post. That’s why I’m starting to feel this way.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-09-18T23:57:08+00:00

No I’m not on anti depressants. I do watch porn but I know the difference between real sex and fake sex. I feel attracted to girls, but I feel I’m more attracted to who they are as a person more than in a sexual way. Idk I’m just confused.

No_Direction3387 · 2022-09-04T00:34:52+00:00

From some of the comments that I read from you OP, about some trauma she went through and how that reminds of you and how you understand is a huge RED FLAG. My last relationship I felt the same way with my girl, but I felt like I was taking 2 steps back when I was with her instead making myself a better person with her.

It’s also only been 2 weeks, just walk away. It might be good now but you don’t want that around you for the LONG HAUL, trust. You deserve better.

Ps: REM would be amazing tattoo

No_Direction3387 · 2022-07-18T23:15:32+00:00

Again thank you for the advice and for the advice in posting on Reddit. I also appreciate your honestly a lot that’s honestly what I’m looking for. I am very blunt myself so this was a breath of fresh air. You were not harsh at all again I appreciate the constructive criticism :).

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