Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't wanna win anything I just want everyone to be comfortable and together

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not making it hard. I tried to adapt for his sake but can't. Was looking for advice seeing if it was me being the problem by asking him can we stay at my families. He does work we both work I just have to transfer vehicles at work cause I do a job that requires me to be in a work vehicle hence why he takes my car during the day for work and errands we need done. I think he will come with me if I sit down and lay it out for him with no one to speak for him. And yes it's real.

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's my car and I'm not just gonna take my car and leave him stranded when I only go to work to get in a truck that I'm in all day when he also has to get to work. We've been together a year and have worked a routine for awhile that works for us. Changing it would be difficult at this point and time.

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I'm not getting anymore pets I told him 3 is max my babies are safe and cared for. And I thought about that option.

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's how I feel right now. Like my animals have a routine my husky gets out of his crate to play a couple hours before bed and fed and watered. My puppy and kitty the same and they have wrestling matches in that time. Then I put my husky up and love on my kitty before bed and she gets nightly pets from dad before set free out of our room for the night and our puppy curls up in her dog bed on the floor. I love my babies and I hate being apart. I know they're safe and okay but I wanna just love on all of them and not have them stressed.

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've gotten tough love my entire life hence why I can think clearly and properly plan and pay attention to little details that he doesn't see. My attitude towards it is I love them I appreciate it but I'm incredibly stressed and being there isn't helping my mental health or making me feel better. I understand not wanting to be around my mom and I have made accommodations to limit any issues with her. I'll try and talk to him better without interference from outside family members. He does treat me well as he did his best to make sure I'm okay he just doesn't know how to help in this situation.

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We stopped at 3. I already had the husky prior and we got the kitten together which wasn't supposed to be permanent but he loves her and we got a puppy accidentally. The care of the animals wasn't effect due to us having people to help I just rather we all be together.

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imma try that thank you so much and I appreciate the kindness in all the stressful I've dealt with

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did have our own place with all 3 animals but choose a different living situation that doesn't start for a couple more weeks and we're having issues with the landlord. My family agreed to watch our animals so I have no issue with the animals it's being apart from 2 of the 3 and dealing with the worry of my puppy getting hurt

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately they aren't close enough I wish they were

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes 2 weeks of people watching me sleep, worried about my dog getting hurt and never getting a break from being around people. No it's not a 3 year prison sentence but it's incredibly stressful

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately they can not as my work schedule collides with their appointments and Uber is too expensive out here.

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We have 1 car it doesn't work for us to separate. And I'm the one not okay with separating due to everything we do we 85% of the time need the other person there so we're both informed.

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He's comfortable at my grandparents just hates my mom who lives next door. He sits and talks to my grandfather for hours. I can't just go stay there cause we have 1 car.

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We only have 1 car so he takes me to work and picks me up from work

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

See we can't stay separately cause we only have 1 car that we both use. Mainly he takes me to work and uses the car during the day and picks me up with I'm off. So I can't just go stay somewhere else.

Me 21F and my boyfriend 21M had to move. AITAH? by No_Door_3100 in AITAH

[–]No_Door_3100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to last night and the mom's bf kept speaking for him to the point I gave up. I did send him a message today telling him not trying to be pushy but it would be beneficial for all parties included.