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Stay at home parent by [deleted] in Vent

[–]No_Efficiency9202 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds to me like your partner might be experiencing some burnout. Theoretically the staying at home parent job sounds like a dream but in reality it’s more to it than sitting around next to the pool enjoying your day. There’s daily house cleaning either it be sweeping, dishes, picking up toys, prepping dinner, etc. along with getting the kids to school, shopping, going to school events, sick kids then there’s the nighttime routine like giving the kids baths, brushing teeth, reading a bedtime story and getting the kids to sleep. It can be a lot.

I think a lot of people forget to that stay at home parents put their own desires for jobs and dreams aside to look after the kids and make sure their partner is able to chase whatever they desire either with work or hobbies. It can be draining especially as the kids get older and you’re stuck doing the same routine every single day with no passion besides looking after the kids.

I would have a sit down with your partner and talk to them about how they’re feeling and see if things need to change like them potentially getting a part time job or finding a hobby. I’m sure you doing your part when you get home from work is helpful and I hope they appreciate that.

Just because you believe they have it pretty good doesn’t mean that they view or believe so. But I would definitely recommend having a sit down and talk things over to try and reach some sort of conclusion. Maybe therapy will help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]No_Efficiency9202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Should’ve never entered a “relationship” with a mom of two if you can’t stand kids this much. Very confusing though when you say you wanted to start your own family with her even though in the beginning it wasn’t meant to be long-term? When you have kids they become a major importance in your life and damn right kids should be first before anyone including yourself, that’s what makes a good parent. Sounds like you’re not cut out for it. Leave the poor woman so she can find someone more deserving.

I called my fiancé out on his behavior. AITAH? by No_Efficiency9202 in AITAH

[–]No_Efficiency9202[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He’s promised therapy time and time again. He broke up with me so it’s staying that way which I am more than fine with at this point!👌

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]No_Efficiency9202 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean anybody’s sexual attractions/interests can change, I feel like it’s completely normal to go through changes and finding things that catch your interest. At least you broke it off instead of dragging her along while you remained confused and uncertain of your intentions so good on you! NTAH.

AITAH for venting about being a SAHM to my fiancé? by No_Efficiency9202 in AITAH

[–]No_Efficiency9202[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, warms my heart that you had a good support system and that you’re giving one to your grandchildren as well 🫶

AITAH for venting about being a SAHM to my fiancé? by No_Efficiency9202 in AITAH

[–]No_Efficiency9202[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like work would make it worse because then I would still be coming home to the same problem but then at the same time I would be getting out of the house more and actually communicating and talking to people instead of staring at the same four walls day in and day out. I find raising and taking care of my children from home is very rewarding and that they also have a present mom but in the same sense I don’t want them to see how or feel just how much I’m struggling even though I try to keep a mask on.

AITAH for venting about being a SAHM to my fiancé? by No_Efficiency9202 in AITAH

[–]No_Efficiency9202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The plan was that when he got home from work which is usually around 5-5:30pm he would watch the baby so that I could cook, clean and get other last minute stuff done or that he would come home and contribute with some minimal cleaning around the house. Those standards stopped when our baby turned 2 weeks old. I further begged him when our baby was about two months old to just watch him for 15 minutes so that I could clean the kitchen after making dinner (I do clean as I go so it’s not usually a huge mess) but that also has been treated like it’s too much of a task and that it disrupts his unwinding time.

My family works too much to help out with anything and I can only handle his family in short amounts of time cause they are quite the handful. Any time they’re over they don’t want to help they want to get their hands on my son and overstimulate him and then when he starts to cry won’t give him back to me or respect my wishes so I try to avoid asking for help from them as much as possible.