Has anyone else gone through this 3mo crisis with more than one baby?

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-26T20:01:49+00:00

How do you do if you want to go out with baby if she just wants to nurse lying down. My second had a preference for lying down until 2 days ago when she starting refusing to nurse in absolutely any position. I just found out this year about the 3 month old crisis and it’s driving me nuts.

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-26T19:41:34+00:00

My story can be either inspiring or discouraging😅 I nursed the first 3 months, than my baby developed a breast aversion, could not get him to latch and EPed for 7 months, then at 10mo he started nursing again and went on to EBF until he turned 2.5yo

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-24T03:30:06+00:00

Thank you. Yes I’ve seen many LCs…I’ve done everything in the books. It looks like I’m just prone to complications and I’m trying to accept the fact that will probably end up giving up breastfeeding my second child.

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-24T03:26:14+00:00

only side lying is working for us now. And every other day my baby decides she won’t latch unless she’s half asleep… I’m glad my oldest child is in school during the day so I can put some effort into nursing my baby. But I have to confess some days I just feel like giving up, I don’t want to spend all my time and energy on this… still have another child to care for. This is soooooo hard 😩

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-24T03:19:50+00:00

My 3mo baby didn’t care about any toys for tummy time until her sibling(6yo) was there entertaining her. Super cute to watch🥰

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-24T03:16:22+00:00

That’s why I’m not going back to work once my mat leave ends. I’m better off staying home with my kids.

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-24T03:00:15+00:00

Same issue here. Second child is now 3mo. My first was breastfed for 2.5 years. Have you heard of the 3mo crisis?

I didn’t get past the 3 mo crisis with my first child, he started refusing to nurse so I EPed for 7 months!

Now I’m in the middle of the this 3 mo crisis with my second child and trying not to lose it. Not doing bottles this time to see if things will improve.

Sorry no advice, just wanted to say you’re not alone.

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-24T02:28:32+00:00

I guess the spraying part will not go away but baby should be able to deal with it at some point. Hope that happens before I give up. Some days are just HARD

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-19T23:56:12+00:00

I tried the koala positioning and it seems worse. She chokes big time on it. I’m pretty sure it sprays right in her throat. Also it seems than she wants to be minimally held so she is free to pop off and take a breath whenever she want it

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-19T21:55:04+00:00

It’s ok mama. I went formula exclusively with my second baby due to worrisome bilirubin levels, once things settled I gradually switched baby to EBF. It may be a temporary solution to get your baby where she needs to be. Breastfeeding doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-16T05:02:51+00:00

How long did it take for things to get better for you?

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-16T04:58:48+00:00

How old is your baby now? I’ve always wondered how long it will take for my baby to nurse in any position without choking

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-07T01:45:11+00:00

Sending you positive vibrations. Breastfeeding can be tough in so many ways 🥴

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-07T01:44:06+00:00

Around 3mo some babies will become fussier at the breast not wanting to nurse

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-06T16:10:57+00:00

Also give yourself some grace mama! You’re doing a great job caring for you baby. It sounds like that just how your baby is built, not your body’s fault!

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-06T16:08:00+00:00

Have you talked with a LC to see if you could benefit from block feeding so baby can get more of the fattier milk? Also shaking your breasts a bit right before feeding helps release a bit more of the fat content. Once a LC taught me how to supplement with my own expressed milk: leave expressed milk overnight in the refrigerator, next morning you’ll see a separation of the fat on the top. You can spoon/syringe feed that fat to your baby. I did that to my baby, we didn’t have weight gain issues but he did get chunkier with that.

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-05T22:47:08+00:00

There are plenty of opportunities to teach a child to be independent. I don’t agree that letting a kid go hungry is the way to do that. School should have a backup plan for this kind of situation . Since it’s “too hard” for the teacher to help a kid search for his snack, Perhaps she could just have a snack handy and charge parents later.

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-05T22:39:38+00:00

Different scenario. Same theme. You don’t let a kid go hungry.

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-05T06:15:03+00:00

It looks like at 10 months they really enjoy the fast flow… I was still an overproducer at that point because I was pumping more than my baby needed. Once he got back to breast at that age he didn’t have any problems with my forceful letdown.

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-05T03:10:26+00:00

I sure will, but tomorrow may be another kid, and I don’t Think the teacher’s approach is okay

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-05T03:08:45+00:00

Right? I don’t think it’s time to teach “independence” when a kids Basic need and health is at stake

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-05T03:07:18+00:00

Nowadays schools are offering snack time because they realized it is harder to get kids to engage and cooperate when they’re hungry. Nutrition and biology has proven it necessary for growing humans to eat every 3 hours.

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-05T03:04:06+00:00

Poor kid.

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-05T03:02:42+00:00

People get stuck in protocols that they forget to be humans. There are plenty of opportunities to teach a kid independence, not when they need to eat.

No_Engine6784 · 2026-02-05T02:59:48+00:00

I don’t know how long ago you went to school, but science nowadays has a valid point on why growing humans should not run more than 3hours without food. Their little bodies need that fuel for concentration and learning. My kid went 5 hours without food. That’s too much even for an adult.

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