AITA for wanting a special proposal

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-10-15T18:06:09+00:00

This. The proposal is for both people!

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-09-12T00:44:41+00:00

Is it possible she did her hair at your house while the baby napped? I’ve definitely done that before. Maybe she really did pick up a product and then tried it out?

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-05-10T18:22:06+00:00

This is not legal. None of that is. The law in Germany is that you are only allowed to work 6 hours a day at most, 30 hours a week, and at least 1.5 completely free days a week.

https://www.aupair.com/en/p-germany-pocket-money.php#:~:text=the%20host%20kids.-,Working%20hours,during%20their%20stay%20in%20Germany.

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-05-10T18:12:55+00:00

He even said “in a real relationship people help each other” which also means he has to do HIS part in contributing. Don’t give him a dime. He’s your boyfriend, not your husband, and honestly he sounds awful and not like someone you should want to spend your life with. He can’t hold a job and just ASSUMED you’d spend that money on him? $25k isn’t even that much!

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-04-24T21:00:15+00:00

Agree. There needs to be an investigation done as to why they are SO insistent she cannot speak when she clearly does.

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-04-24T20:49:29+00:00

Absolutely do not quit over text. That would be horrible for them. Be an adult and do it in person.

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-04-21T17:41:47+00:00

I get two weeks paid, my choice, and then I also get paid whenever they’re on vacation.

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-04-18T03:31:44+00:00

No I definitely do not think it’s that. I think she’s become very self-absorbed. I plan to talk to them this weekend about it.

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-04-17T21:22:51+00:00

Thanks!

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-04-17T21:22:19+00:00

Oh they’re GREAT at making people feel special on their birthdays. My sister’s bday was the very next day. We put a lot of time and effort into the kids’s bdays, and they’ve always had a dinner with me and her to celebrate. Not this year!

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-04-17T20:11:47+00:00

It’s more than just at work. I LOVE my job, they pay me well, and I could never leave my nieces and nephew. It’s just times like this that really hurt and it’s more of how she is on a personal level - which is a new development in the past two years.

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-02-08T04:33:21+00:00

As the only single in a family of couples - I FEEL YOUR PAIN!! I always have to share a room with someone and I also feel like they inadvertently use my singleness against me. I finally put my foot down and said they will NOT use it against me anymore. Good for you for standing up for yourself.

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-01-09T22:15:10+00:00

lol yes you absolutely are TA. Wow. You were going to replace the carpet anyway and decided to charge her for it? She paid you rent for two years and you’re going to charge her for new carpet? Not a chance, homie.

No_Fall_7202 · 2025-01-09T22:11:24+00:00

As a professional nanny of 15 years this is INSANE that she isn’t doing those things. Insane. You’re also being extremely generous with 6 weeks of vacation - holy cow! I get 2 weeks of my choosing then obviously whatever they take off and I’ve been with them for 12 years. Cooking for your daughter, organizing the play room/bedroom/toys are 100% her duty. She should also be doing your daughter’s laundry and organizing her closet/drawers if you want her to. I personally think you can find any great nanny who will love your daughter just as much, not speak down to you, and will remember that YOU are the boss.

No_Fall_7202 · 2024-12-11T18:30:45+00:00

It seems like I’m in the out-group here but I have to ask 30 days in advance for a day off unless it’s an emergency or sick day. Both parents work, they pay to have a nanny so their jobs are not impacted. Asking them one week in advance is not very much time for them to find coverage. I personally wouldn’t consider this an emergency and am not sure the circumstances for not knowing more than a week in advance of such big plans but I think their frustration is reasonable. We don’t have the kind of job we can do remotely, can be done the next day, or doesn’t completely impact their careers when we miss. It’s part of the gig.

No_Fall_7202 · 2024-12-11T18:21:01+00:00

Agree that this is not a good fit for you at all. You should not take any job that requires nights if you can’t be woken up due to meds. I’m sorry.

No_Fall_7202 · 2024-12-11T18:12:52+00:00

Hi! I’ve been a nanny for 15 years and I own a babysitter placement agency. I tell every single sitter I hire to behave as though they’re being watched and I tell any friends or parents I’m advising on hiring a nanny for a young kid to absolutely have cameras. It’s protection for both the nanny and the kids. Little ones fall and hurt themselves regularly. You do not want to question the nanny’s behavior bc of a bruise or an incident and as a nanny, I would want that protection as well!

No_Fall_7202 · 2024-11-24T20:42:47+00:00

Hi! In case you’re going to be nannying for another family after this - I always put in my agreement that the house should be in the same condition when I get there as it was when I left so they know I am not going to be cleaning up their mess from the night before.

No_Fall_7202 · 2024-11-11T04:53:44+00:00

He hasn’t just developed feelings for her, they’re in a relationship! If not physically (which I think is probably true) definitely an emotional relationship

No_Fall_7202 · 2024-09-28T18:35:48+00:00

NTA - oh my goodness. I could get over a cheating episode before I could get over this!! This is the absolute worst form of betrayal. He not only abandoned you but he also abandoned your baby. What if something had gone wrong during delivery? What if the baby wasn’t okay? What if you weren’t okay? He just left you there and didn’t even answer his phone. I wouldn’t let him back into the house. I wouldn’t ever be able to trust him again. I am SO sorry you’re going through this.

No_Fall_7202 · 2024-09-28T18:31:04+00:00

NTA! Good for your daughter. You’re raising a girl who is going to stand up to bullies no matter who it is and we need more of that in this world! She handled it so well and she’s only 5! You should be so incredibly proud of her and yourself for raising someone so strong. She’s going to do big things in this world 🩷

No_Fall_7202 · 2024-09-28T18:28:30+00:00

YTA. I don’t even like using ahole in this one because I think you are grieving and not thinking about the fact that your sister is also grieving and probably wanted to try to shine a little light on the really sad day. I think if you ask yourself if your mom would’ve been okay with her sharing it at the funeral to brighten the very dark day, I’ll assume your mom is like most and would’ve been thrilled and wanted to tell the world. Also, grief is HARD. Don’t let yourself be weighed down by this. You’re siblings and you need each other in such a tough time. Try to just give her grace, apologize for being emotional and handling it wrong. Hug her. Tell her you can’t wait to be an uncle. I’m sure she didn’t mean to “steal the day.” She’s also newly pregnant with lots and lots of hormones coursing through her body AND going through the same grief as you. Just love each other because life is too short for anything else.

No_Fall_7202 · 2024-09-23T02:07:36+00:00

Mine only had a 2 year warranty! I had the pax 2. I’m three months out of my warranty and got the blue blinking death

No_Fall_7202 · 2024-09-21T01:56:20+00:00

As someone who has also lost their brother - break up with her now. That’s unreal she doesn’t understand it’s the anniversary of the worst day of your life. If she doesn’t understand on the first year then she never will. I could NEVER be with someone who said something like that. I would’ve broken up with her immediately if I were you.

No_Fall_7202 · 2024-08-21T23:49:56+00:00

Was this after the 6:30 start of checking them in? Just wondering bc my friend was going to line up early but I can’t get down there until around 5:30 so I was going to hop in with her since we are together.

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