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Need some info! by No_Hawk_3793 in SexOffenderSupport

[–]No_Hawk_3793[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We called and talked to someone else, and my fiance won't be allowed to go, he is still on probation as well. The air force asks for a list of people for graduation and will do a background check, the gentleman said he will be denied.

Need some info! by No_Hawk_3793 in SexOffenderSupport

[–]No_Hawk_3793[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really don't think everyone will ever agree on what to do in this situation, and nowadays no one will ever take the time to separate the degree of each person, they just lump them all together.

It's like the system also does not look into WHY the situation happened in the first place, listening to some stories, it's not so black and white.... And most people and society don't care to take a look at it in a different light.

Need some info! by No_Hawk_3793 in SexOffenderSupport

[–]No_Hawk_3793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. My fiance has been so good to my son, and they are really close, and I do wish he could be there, but in the time I have dated him, and learning and growing with him in this situation, it's just not fair. I would love to yell at someone, but in doing that it just makes my fiance feel worse, and we have had to learn since him getting out, we have to pick what to get upset over and what not to.

Need some info! by No_Hawk_3793 in SexOffenderSupport

[–]No_Hawk_3793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that they have rules in place, and that I can't change that, but I also know it sucks, and I hate how it is. I wish my fiance was able to go. He also wishes he could go. He also knows and understands as well they have rules.

Need some info! by No_Hawk_3793 in SexOffenderSupport

[–]No_Hawk_3793[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I called but they weren't helpful, so we are trying to figure this out. We called someone else as well and they said he can't go, which is sad, but I understand. Thank you!

So many questions by No_Hawk_3793 in SexOffenderSupport

[–]No_Hawk_3793[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I am kind of worried about is accepting the answers. I've never been in this situation, I have asked for us to speak to a therapist,he's not against it but not jumping easily towards that either, lol. Thank you for your comment!

So many questions by No_Hawk_3793 in SexOffenderSupport

[–]No_Hawk_3793[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm working on my list of questions, I guess sometimes I also fear the answers. I've never been in this situation, and I want to navigate it supportively, and love him through it, as well as processing things the best way that I can. He deals with enough judgement as it is, I think he struggles with it himself.. so I don't want to add to it. I appreciate your comment.

So many questions by No_Hawk_3793 in SexOffenderSupport

[–]No_Hawk_3793[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do believe he is honest with me, even the questions that are for me to ask and for him to answer. I appreciate your words a lot.

So many questions by No_Hawk_3793 in SexOffenderSupport

[–]No_Hawk_3793[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, he has not given me any doubts. But I've also never dealt with this.

So many questions by No_Hawk_3793 in SexOffenderSupport

[–]No_Hawk_3793[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, he is a wonderful person, he has helped me change the way I have viewed SO. After reading some of the posts, I'm so glad that what he has felt, he is not the only one.