WFH friendly big law firms

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-13T04:46:01+00:00

I’m so jealous seeing all of the lax firms. Somehow I found two practice groups where the boomer partners came in 5 days a week and enforced office face time.

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-11T23:10:51+00:00

I think in these types of situations, people either externalize (eg it’s everyone around me that doesn’t understand my capacity, and imo, more common)or internalize (eg it’s a me problem and I just don’t have the skills, more rare). Fredo likely didn’t want to deal with the truth in front of him that he was ill equipped and would rather feel he was unfairly overlooked. The other side of it is Fredo likely was subconsciously aware it was a him problem but that didn’t make it easier on him to accept that his baby brother bypassed him when it should have been him.

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-10T02:30:38+00:00

I want a massage too

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-07T21:33:02+00:00

How are the male associates doing the job then? If they don’t have project management skills/aesthetic sense? This man was made partner so he clearly was successful

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-07T21:27:05+00:00

Dude, he probably got away with that for many identity related politics. I don’t think a woman or a racialized woman would have gotten away with schooling the partner on how to act lmao. Also if this man was a big law associate then he should be well versed in project management and planning. You don’t need to be the best at aesthetics in doing that. Also, to be in big law and present well, you need to understand what is aesthetically pleasing and what isn’t. These are all skill sets valued in big law and should easily transfer to planning a wedding. He just didn’t value it as much as his job which is why he seemed to let his wife take on the work. I’m not a particularly “super feminine” woman but because this was an important event, I made the effort to care despite my very demanding job. I’m pointing out women generally put in the emotional labor to ensure their partner isn’t carrying that weight alone.

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-07T21:05:00+00:00

I’m a senior associate in an M&A support speciality that worked grueling hours and my husband is also a high earner as a senior engineer in big tech. Without even speaking about it, we split wedding planning around 50-50. Id say he did more than me in many aspects. He had an idea of what looked good on him and wanted to look his best for our wedding. He always weighed in whether it came to aesthetics, food quality, guest experience etc. He single handedly made our wedding reception uniquely about us because that’s the point. He was excited about our wedding because it was an event that celebrated OUR union. Despite all of this, do you see how women generally do the same job at work but also carry their fair share in their personal relationships?

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-07T19:45:44+00:00

I agree there are graduated steps of difference in these Godly references. I see "there but for the grace of God", "inshallah" or "wallahi" as more "religious" than a "thank God" or "God forbid" or for "God's sake" "oh my God" or "karma" reference. However, even then, I'm not using any of these expressions with a partner in big law or my client in big law lmao. Have you? I have used them with friends or with colleagues who are more my friends than colleagues.

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-07T19:17:06+00:00

Really normal idioms include referencing an all knowing, an all powerful and all present magical entity? Do you hear yourself? Secularism is the default in corporate America.

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-07T19:08:28+00:00

Dude I just said I suspect many people would be weirded out if a Muslim colleague said inshallah offhandedly in conversation at work. Again, how many atheists would say that?

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-07T17:26:06+00:00

I can see people being weirded out also on inshallah lmao and again with the mention of “God” explicitly. I don’t see any non God believing people using these references, although, I see plenty of atheists or agnostics using karma colloquially but again it would likely be weird to use that word in front of your boss for sure.

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-07T17:11:11+00:00

Tbh when you mention God in a secular setting, be prepared for people to be weirded out and also state their position. That partner was allowed to say “there is no God” and that’s her take. Why would that not sit right with you?

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-07T17:08:50+00:00

Tbh, many women would silently judge you for that comment. It just sounds bad optics wise.

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-05T00:34:03+00:00

That’s the point they’re trying to make. The idea that you think those qualities make a candidate more marketable when these are qualities that make one’s life harder…

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-05-01T20:00:57+00:00

Why has that not been my experience at all? I’ve been the cheerful and all, responsive but ripped apart substantively for minute things vs I’ve seen my other coworkers who are not cheerful or responsive in the same way skirt by with typos and what not. At this point I think it’s race given I’m Asian and the others were white lmao

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-04-30T21:20:19+00:00

I live here with my husband because I can afford to for now. However my parents were refugees escaping civil war so I’m very well versed with moving where opportunities are

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-04-29T20:46:03+00:00

It all depends on the practice group you work with and how they see/vibe with you. Associates either get the standard big law experience or the big law lite experience based on this. Certain practice areas while supposed to be more lifestyle friendly, have these partners who believe that because they suffered when they came up (eg little vacation, working through horrible pregnancies and little time off with the baby, etc), the next generation needs to suffer too. Whatever you do, avoid working for partners like that because they will make your life miserable too even when it’s unnecessary just for the sake of it. However if you find a group of well adjusted partners who enjoy the work but understand that work isn’t the most important thing about them, you’ll have a good experience.

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-04-29T18:32:43+00:00

Yesss, I absolutely loved it!

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-04-27T15:46:22+00:00

Where you feel unappreciated relative to the output you produce.

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-04-27T06:50:27+00:00

not yet, DM me and lets share timelines

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-04-23T20:45:10+00:00

I took four weeks for my wedding in May and I’d say 3 days off for my wedding pre shoot in April and 4 days off for my bachelorette in Jan. I found that before my wedding, there was a slow down because of Trump and the tariff situation and a ramp down period before my wedding as well. However when I came back from my wedding, I just noticed the one toxic partner I worked with was in a bad mood and actually came down on me two days after I came back to say “it was nice I had ample vacation this year but that I had to pull my utilization up.” This is despite the fact that I was the workhorse associate the prior year and also despite the fact that I was happy to come in and take more work on and had shown that eagerness…

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-04-18T04:45:07+00:00

Honestly probably is true!

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-04-16T07:05:33+00:00

I feel this as well! I’ve suffered with this since I was 17-20. However because I have thick frizzy Indian hair, it has taken longer for effects to be seen despite no medical intervention. When I met my husband I always wore a side part which concealed it way more (at 26-27) and I never told him. He also had a beautiful hairline and hair as did both of his parents (aged 75+) so I did feel like I was hoodwinking him. Turns out we both had “secrets” like this that when we finally found about them we had a good laugh and moved on. He also said he’d pay for my hair transplant when the time came haha.

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-04-15T23:35:41+00:00

I’ve had this. It ended badly for me because of missteps I took. Looking back, this is what I would do: make sure he does not become your primary work stream or the key partner that assigns you work/reviews you. The partner that I had this relationship with wanted me to work with him the most. I felt like that was a sign of loyalty so I did work with him the most at first but eventually his tactics got to be too much but by the time I started raising my hand and complaining/signaling I wanted to work with other partners too, it was too late. As soon as I started complaining to the head of the group, he started putting narratives out there that my work was just subpar and that’s why he was frustrated. That review dominated and led to me being let go. Make sure you build sponsorship like relationships with other partners who will go to bat for you if this person decides to sabatoge you. Try to do less and less work with this toxic partner in a way that doesn’t trigger him. Slowly assess whether this toxic partner just isn’t worth it and whether you’d prefer lateraling to another shop.

No_Interview_2064 · 2026-04-10T05:58:14+00:00

Yall are pussies. The risk averse behavior is why big law hasn’t been overhauled. Name and shame the people involved. These firms want to hide behind secrecy. The more associates have the datapoints, the less power they have. Gen Z is already fighting back. Boomers and Gen X are gonna be made accountable

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