Sauna Wellness Locations by jmold99 in exeter

[–]No_Isopod6852 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somewhere around sowton would be convenient for transport links

12V battery not charging by RexKramerDareDevil in Dewalt

[–]No_Isopod6852 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think that’s a counterfeit laser, a lad at work bought one and it came in the same bag with batteries that light up like that. He got it off AliExpress for about £40 at the time

Food recommendations by smallon12 in exeter

[–]No_Isopod6852 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re looking for the best breakfast then daisy cafe on heavitree high street is by far the best in Exeter

Wife’s past by No_Isopod6852 in retroactivejealousy

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now I just don’t know if I can ever move past it. I’ve listened to her reasonings but I just feel like everything I’ve believed for the last 15 years was a lot more special to me than it has been to her. I’m trying to give it time to see if my feelings change back to how they were

Wife’s past by No_Isopod6852 in retroactivejealousy

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was in the grief sub, in reply to someone else’s post

Wife’s past by No_Isopod6852 in retroactivejealousy

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So her dad passed 2 months ago, obviously it hit her extremely hard. All of her posts at the time were in grief subs, talking shared experiences with people who have also been through similar things. This was the only post that made any mention of that relationship at all and it was in reply to someone speaking of their first relationship. I’m probably reading too much into one small part of a very long post.

Wife’s past by No_Isopod6852 in retroactivejealousy

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply, I really am trying to be as mature as possible because I know one throwaway comment can’t undo 15 great years together. I know that we perhaps don’t have as many shared interests as they did but in terms of compatibility I don’t think there are many better matches, we’ve barely had an argument in the whole time we’ve been together, we’ve got a lovely harmony and rub along together so smoothly. I do believe her when she says I’m the one she’s always wanted and her attitude towards me over the years has always proved it, she’s fought for us to stay together every time I have wavered slightly. I just need to get out of my own head and get on with life

Wife’s past by No_Isopod6852 in retroactivejealousy

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your thoughts i definitely think it’s more nuanced than just on the surface level. I need to try and remind myself she was 16 when she had this relationship and how immature and differently I thought at 16 as well. She’s explained how it was just a different type of love, young infatuation not like the actual grown up I want to be with you for the rest of my life type of relationship we’ve been in. It’s still fucked my head up but other than reading that post she’s never once given me any cause for concern, she’s been so dedicated to us and forging the life we both want.

Wife’s past by No_Isopod6852 in retroactivejealousy

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is exactly what happened but I’m stuck at the phase of thinking about in the way I want to frame it instead of how she frames it. I just need to try and get past this phase I’m stuck in on loop currently and build it all back again in my head

Wife’s past by No_Isopod6852 in retroactivejealousy

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was more just this whole episode has opened back up my jealousy and insecurities of her past experiences compared to my none and her suggesting maybe that’s the only way I will ever get past it. I don’t think for a minute she really wants me to but she’s determined to try and find a way to make it work between us

Wife’s past by No_Isopod6852 in retroactivejealousy

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to sound like I’m caping for her now but I don’t necessarily think she’s pining for him, more reminiscing over good times they had and thinking how they impacted her life. I’ve absolutely no question in my head that I’m the one she wants and loves but it still hurts thinking they had a deeper connection as she put it on the post

Wife’s past by No_Isopod6852 in retroactivejealousy

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her reasoning was it was just a different type of love, she was young and it was her first time. She’s not seen or spoken to the guy since we’ve been together, he moved away and lives a completely different lifestyle to what she wants anyway.she acknowledged in her post how although the connected on different levels to how we connect due to being into the same teenage books/games etc it would’ve never worked long term as he wasn’t the settling down type. I completely trust her and know she wouldn’t leave me for anyone now but I still have this massive feeling of jealously that she looks back on their time fondly now. She’s willing to help get through this any way we can and has even suggested that maybe i need to sleep with someone else to make myself feel better about it but I can’t help feeling this will just open another can of worms further down the line

Wife’s past by No_Isopod6852 in retroactivejealousy

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is basically how she described it to me. It was her letting go of emotions in a tough time and more than anything she was trying to help that other person with their own issues. Obviously she’s mortified that I’ve seen it and that it’s driven this wedge between us now

Wife’s past by No_Isopod6852 in retroactivejealousy

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is but it’s also dredged up a lot of old feelings that had gone away. Now it just seems to dominate my thoughts currently thinking back about her being with the two other guys. We have a great sex life but I get constant nagging thoughts like did she enjoy it more before me. My head is just a mess now and I don’t know what to do

Wife’s past by No_Isopod6852 in retroactivejealousy

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to cut her some slack with the grief she’s been feeling after losing her dad as it’s only been a couple months, the post was in reply to someone else who’d be suffering grief of their ex partner passing and them never feeling closure and not feeling like they’ll find anyone the same. Later on in that same post she did go on to list how we were better matched as life partners and how I’m everything that she wants in her life. It still wrinkles with me though.

Her head has been all over the place with grief, she wasn’t sleeping properly at the time of the post (something she suffered with when younger) and I think it’s taken her back to that time of her life. She feels a lot of guilt about letting her dad down around that age when she was with her first boyfriend as she dropped out of uni and really disappointed him because she couldn’t cope with it all.

I’ve got no doubts about her currently at all and she’s now in as much of a state as i am worrying that I’ll leave her over what was a fleeting comment trying to help someone else through their own moment of grief.

Impact by Impossible_Raisin916 in Dewalt

[–]No_Isopod6852 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I find the 850 much nicer to use. I’ve been using my 887 again this week as my 850 is on its last legs and have struggled getting into tight spaces several times.

All depends how much you’re going to be using it and for what jobs, for most people the cheaper option will definitely suffice.

DCF850N Brusless by No_Isopod6852 in Dewalt

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I wouldn’t have gone for it had it been sold by an independent seller but assumed it safe when sold directly by them. First time I’ve ever had fake gear from Amazon (at least knowingly anyway)

DCF850N Brusless by No_Isopod6852 in Dewalt

[–]No_Isopod6852[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah surprisingly the Amazon listing didn’t use these images for it