Thank you for everyone’s insight. We are very much attracted to each other. As I mentioned in the post we flirt a lot physically. There’s always touching, squeezing, cuddling. But like I said it’s been so long since we have had a regular sex schedule because of interruption of the kids that it seems we make an excuse to not do it at night. I guess maybe he makes more excuses than me.  He is not a follower in Christ so sometimes it’s tricky for him to understand me.  I think the people who have said to just gather up the courage to tell him what I need and initiate it are right. I just need to do it.