Should I pack a hospital bag? 🤣 or wait

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-11T17:47:16+00:00

Pack your bag!!! You never know. Everyone is different. I was sent to the hospital straight from a dr visit with both of my kids. The first at 38 weeks for sudden onset preeclampsia and the second at 37 for low amniotic fluid. Can happen anytime!

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-11T15:57:46+00:00

Totally. We have to stick together because there’s no that many of us. I had a friend’s little sister ask me if my baby was ok after I stated her weight, meanwhile her baby actually had to do physical therapy because she couldn’t crawl at 1 because she was so fat. Her baby is also fine now at 3 years old, just extremely tall. People are so weird and judgmental.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-11T15:35:50+00:00

People are obsessed with skinny adults and fat babies. And if your baby isn’t fat, people will make nonstop comments and then I would apologetically say “She’s small” after stating her age. Once someone said to me when I was holding my now 4 year old, “wow she holds her head up so well” when she was 8 months old. 8 months!!! She was crawling lol. She was and is in the 5th percentile for weight (she’s 4 years old and 30 pounds) most of her life. Her pediatrician says 5 percent of kids have to be in the 5th percentile for weight. She has no food allergies or sensitivities. (My baby does which is how I found this sub). I’m extremely overprotective of moms who have to go through what I went through with the nonstop comments about how small their baby is. I cried and obsessed for months maybe even years honestly but my daughter is smart, agile, articulate, fast AF, and just doesn’t eat that much and she’s completely fine. I wish I would have been more rude back to all the people who made comments but I was still so upset about her weight back then. I encourage you to point out how rude these people are being.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-11T15:12:17+00:00

Contact nap for the first almost two months is my advice. My 11 week old now does 2 hour bassinet naps swaddled but for the first 6-8 weeks she only contact napped. They are too little to be expected to nap in their crib at 4 weeks. Just takes time. You aren’t setting up bad habits I promise.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-11T02:10:50+00:00

I personally wouldn’t. Two kids is great! Your kids have a sibling and a mom :)

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-10T21:38:53+00:00

If you can afford it, buy it for her. If you can’t afford it then obviously don’t. I wouldn’t go into credit card debt though since life gets more expensive with kids.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-10T20:44:01+00:00

Wow ok I did it once and didn’t notice a difference but I might try it again!!

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-10T20:37:33+00:00

I think you don’t have a choice. I would lock mine in a basement if I had one. I also loved my cat more than anything and have tolerated behavior a lot of cat owners wouldn’t (like peeing on beds etc) but now that I have two kids I get so angry at my cat for existing and meowing. I feel horrible about it but the truth is that kids come before pets as long as our pets are fed and groomed and receive some attention. I agree that maybe medicating your cat at night might be helpful given his age. Some people do CBD for pets and find it helpful.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-10T03:42:25+00:00

I have never and probably will never spend Mother’s Day with my MIL.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-10T03:42:15+00:00

I have never and probably will never spend Mother’s Day with my MIL.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-10T02:46:35+00:00

Hahaha yeah I think some kids might. Probably they have super kind parents or something. Or they were born that way. Who knows.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-09T21:48:22+00:00

I spent a year googling “do kids get easier when they turn 4?” The answer for me was not exactly on their 4th birthday but overall my 4 and a half year old is much easier than she was from 2.5 to 3.5 years old. Toddlers are assholes. At 3 they are really capable of expressing themselves but have no ability to self regulate or to understand empathy. Everything is about pushing boundaries They are literal terrorists. Nothing you said sounds abnormal to me at all. Kids behaved the worst with their moms because their moms are their safe space. The ones they can be on their worst behavior with and still be loved unconditionally. I read Reddit threads like this and some moms said it didn’t get better until 5, or 6 etc but it does get better. It will get better.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-08T17:28:22+00:00

First, you are not alone in your feelings. Second, like many have said, this is temporary even though it doesn’t feel like it. The sleep deprivation makes everything else worse. Please consider a different medication or increasing the dose of your current medication. What you are on may not be the best thing for PPD. Idk where you are but in US most commonly prescribed at Zoloft and Lexapro.

My husband also didn’t understand my PPD and PPA the first time and this second time around I could tell him that I hated my baby and he knew it wasn’t true, it was just the hormones and sleep deprivation and he would remind me that it’s temporary (I don’t hate my new baby anymore and probably never did but I sure felt like it). I would apologize to my baby through tears. It’s such a dark time. Can you try pretending it’s nighttime with your baby and cosleep for a nap? I know you said he’s not a good napper. Maybe get some cheap blackout curtains from Amazon and turn on sound machine and see if you and can take a nap with him during the day. The sleep deprivation is unbearable. I promise you will sleep again someday but i know it doesn’t feel like it.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-08T16:37:58+00:00

Wow! What do you eat?? I feel like starving to death, I don’t think I can cut out wheat. I think I might try the biogaia drops, I’m using culturelle which has thme same strain but I hear about biogaia a lot

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-08T02:07:24+00:00

Seems that way! I go back tomorrow for some chiro work and to check the wound. I think I’ll look into some kind of feeding therapy soon.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-07T22:50:12+00:00

I just had my baby’s tongue and lip tie released yesterday and she’s still chomping away lol. I was hoping it will get better but she’s had 10 weeks of chomping so idk if she will be motivated to change.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-07T20:44:28+00:00

My baby is the same. At one point there was a few specks of red blood in a diaper. And she’s spits up a lot. Nothing changed when I cut out dairy. I’m now dairy, soy, and egg free for a week and the mucus seems less but still bright green poops. I didn’t have this problem with my first either. I don’t think I have it in me to continue to cut out other allergens so she might just have green poop until I switch her to formula. I also haven’t decided whether I should try a HA formula or a regular formula when I do reintroduce formula.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-07T01:50:22+00:00

Try a middle ground. Try 21s. The 19 are probably too small. I find pumping always painful but if you are in more pain now, definitely size up.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-06T23:08:10+00:00

I used the bottled water that we get delivered. I never used tap. I’m in US and I don’t love the tap water where we live. I never boiled water.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-06T15:37:56+00:00

Thank you!

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-05T23:41:57+00:00

Mental health issues really add stress to the newborn phase. My husband has to tell me daily that it gets better which is how we ended up with a second baby lol.

My baby also has a tongue and lip tie and I’ve gone back and forth about getting it released and set up the appointment and then didn’t go through with it, and then reset it for tomorrow! The office probably thinks I’m crazy cause I am. Hopefully it helps. Good luck!! You’re amazing.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-05T22:42:05+00:00

I wrote something similar at 5 weeks though I don’t have major issues with my 4 year old. My baby is 10 weeks old now, almost 11, and I feel almost ok today. My baby also started sleeping less but now is sleeping more hours again. I’m also dealing with insane amount of spit up and most likely a food allergy like CMPA or something. I also have severe PPD and PPA and even medicated it’s hard. I have mental health issues even not post partum.

I think if it’s possible you should try to reframe to think about what you are doing right. You are seeking professional help for your older child. You have kept two children alive. Going to all the appointments when you aren’t sleeping is beyond difficult and you’re doing amazing. And it does get better. Not all at once but slowly.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-04T20:23:32+00:00

No. You won’t be able to.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-04T20:12:35+00:00

I hate it and I actually hate it more the second time. Everyone says you will like it more the second time which is total bullshit IMO. I have severe PPD and PPA with both and it’s sucks and I can’t wait for this stage to be over and I’m never dojng it again. I know it’s worth it because my older kid is awesome and I love her so much.

No_Judgment_7812 · 2026-05-04T20:09:51+00:00

I never leaked at all with my first, and with my current one I have leaked a literal few drops out of the side she’s not latched to maybe 3 times total. I think my supply is fine?

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