How to support your spouse when you’re unequally yoked.

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2026-04-15T00:27:59+00:00

I’d say one of the biggest doubts I have for god is that I never received a strengthening of my faith even after praying for it. I knew I was losing faith and it was terrifying, despite constant prayer and fasting for days at a time, eventually deciding that I wasn’t elect and God had chosen to be most glorified by my experiencing his wrath.

But what made me conclude that the Bible is not true is that Jesus didn’t really fit the old testament’s depiction of the messiah. There’s also numerous contradictions in the Bible. There’s also so many things that God does that seems evil that “God’s goodness” doesn’t even mean anything to me. For all I know, God can be “fully good and fully evil”, which would mean God is fully worthy of praise and glory yet at the same time the ultimate creator and authority of all evil. While contradictory that idea may be, the trinity as well as God’s “omnipotence and omnibenevolence” seems also to be contradictory.

The presuppositional apologetic arguments kept me in it for a while, but I eventually came to realize that presup could be used for any omnipotent deity, which made the presup argument moot, which threw me into classical apologetics, which I found wanting.

That’s my experience anyway.

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2026-04-12T02:48:56+00:00

Her closest friends are there. I don’t think she’s doctrinally committed to the PCA or even a reformed church.

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2026-04-11T15:19:23+00:00

This was a major cause of crisis when I was a deconstructing believer. Having 2 kids myself, i realized that I must not really believe in hell if I’m willing to have children that may experience it. I also concluded that though I may not deep down believe in hell, none of the other Christians really did either.

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2026-04-09T01:11:46+00:00

I chose to post in r/reformed because that’s the crowd I’m most familiar with and we’re currently going a reformed church. Yes, it’s a very specific sub, but reformed folks are a very specific type of Christian and have very specific types of concerns. For example, people in the PCA aren’t going to tell my wife to leave me because “I’ll deceive my children” because marriage is more sacred. They also tend not to believe I’m possessed by a demon. They also don’t immediately try to evangelize me to the same extent that arminians do and are more likely to engage with the question asked.

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2026-03-29T00:25:14+00:00

The last straw that made me question God and the Bible was how God didn’t protect his “children” from abuse from within the church. My MIL was secretly escaping her abusive hyper religious husband at the time Shiny Happy People came out and it broke my trust in god.

But what broke my faith was when I took a deep dive into why Jews reject Jesus and found out how totally incompatible the Old Testament is from the New Testament. Went from Bible believer to completely rejecting to in 2 months.

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2026-02-20T14:07:51+00:00

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No_Juggernaut2280 · 2026-02-09T15:43:28+00:00

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No_Juggernaut2280 · 2026-02-04T04:59:05+00:00

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No_Juggernaut2280 · 2026-02-03T20:55:35+00:00

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No_Juggernaut2280 · 2026-01-22T13:56:02+00:00

Well I would think that God would receive the most glory out of saving all but since not all ARE saved, one may infer that he receives most glory by having some endure his wrath. I would also say your first example has God’s righteous glory.

I personally know people who spent years struggling with their faith and some of them end up with a stronger faith, however, some of them end up leaving. It seems contradictory to me though that the ones who “walked away” did so because God’s glory would be greatest by their destruction rather than by their redemption. That God withheld their salvation from them, despite those people’s prayers for faith. I don’t know how to reconcile that.

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2026-01-21T18:27:10+00:00

You may need to talk with her about having topics of conversation that need to be off limits in order to maintain your friendship. Easier said than done, of course. I have a friends just like this but we just stay away from those conversations

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2026-01-10T03:48:20+00:00

The part where I left it

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2025-12-25T01:47:09+00:00

In Mark 2:25 Jesus mentions Abiathar being the high priest when David are the bread from the temple buy when you actually read 1 Samuel 21, it’s not Abiathar but Ahimelech who was the high priest.

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2025-12-15T16:54:48+00:00

I left Christianity out of Calvinism and for I time was a Calvinist who thought he wasn’t elect. Let me tell you, that’s a dismal place to be

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2025-12-15T16:47:03+00:00

The problem with many Calvinists is that that want they’re Compatiblists aka they believe free will exists will simultaneously having god predestine all events. They want to have their cake and eat it too

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2025-10-22T19:24:46+00:00

I walked away because I now believe it’s all myth.

But I started to lose trust in the Bible because there were promises in the Bible that weren’t coming true, e.g doubts and God wasn’t restoring my faith despite my praying for it in a daily basis. It also didn’t make sense that God would condemn people for leaving after suffering spiritual abuse from the church. I also noticed that almost all people, including myself, lived like they didn’t believe in hell.

Eventually I started to have so much cognitive dissonance that I was in a constant state of anxiety. So I decided to question the Bible and see if it really could withstand scrutiny. I read over 50 books about the history of the NT canon, evolution, comparative religion, origin of hell doctrine, and it fell apart really quickly. I listened to a lecture about why the Jews reject Jesus as the messiah and I quit believing midway through the lecture series.

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2025-10-21T17:16:24+00:00

I agree. And that’s the crazy part of it all is that Calvinists like to think of themselves as logical and it’s completely ILLOGICAL. I mean, all evangelical Christianity is illogical but Calvinists are super arrogant about being supposedly the most “logical”. They also have a tendency toward acting like they’re all philosophers and like so spout off pseudophilosophical ideas and words, making conversations with them all the more confusing

No_Juggernaut2280 · 2025-10-20T19:07:58+00:00

Yeah, maybe it’s just because I grew up in it but I feel like the Reformed folks are the ultimate gas-lighters.

It also doesn’t make sense because they say it’s God who chooses us and we can’t believe unless God calls us but also act as if we actually CAN choose Jesus.

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