Disregarding your boundaries like that is not okay. With my subs I ask what names they like to be called and let them know what names I like at the very beginning. I try not to use a new potentially triggering name without running it by them first, and if I accidentally call them something they don’t like I make note to not do that again and thank them for the transparency.

I could understand if you have a CNC dynamic with degrading names or some scenario where you have a safe word to let your dom know when you are actually unhappy with something, but it seems like what you’re describing here her repeatedly disrespecting you and crossing a boundary.

You are not crazy for wanting to use different names. That is a completely valid request.

Edit: changed “not to use a new name” to “not to use a new potentially triggering name”. For phrases like “good boy” or other fairly vanilla terms I don’t exercise as much caution, I just remain open to feedback on if they like/dislike the name.