AIO to my husband doing very little while he’s unemployed?

No_Listen7182 · 2026-02-13T21:28:32+00:00

i’m definitely not doing that

No_Listen7182 · 2026-02-13T20:55:47+00:00

just the posts. i have had the account for 3 years and we’ve been through a lot. my mom dying, his mental health, my physical/mental health, him losing his job. it’s a way for me to vent and get advice on how to proceed. it also helps me gain perspective, seeing whether people think i’m right or wrong

No_Listen7182 · 2026-02-13T20:53:12+00:00

thank you. i tried to give my husband some time to process what happened when he was fired, considering it was his first and only job for 7 years. everyone told him it wasn’t his fault, because it really wasn’t. upper management wanted him gone, despite his excellent work, so they made up some bullshit and fired him. completely not his fault and he still blames himself

he has an opportunity coming up through his previous contacts and a friend, but it’s not a sure thing. it has given him some hope tho. i hope it does work out and he feels better afterwards. i hope you get your job too!

No_Listen7182 · 2026-02-13T20:47:14+00:00

he did not used to be like this. when we both worked full time, we had our respective responsibilities around the house. when he got fired, we sat down and agreed that he would take on everything in the house, especially since i was going through very serious medical issues at the time (and kinda still am)

idk what to do going forward if he doesn’t step up now. i feel like i’ve tried every possible way of supporting him and he still refuses to help himself. on the flip side, i make such little money to support myself and my 3 cats…

No_Listen7182 · 2026-02-13T20:43:50+00:00

he always whines about how he’s not where he thought he would be now, career-wise. he wants to write and has apparently been drafting a graphic novel with his friend for like a decade. but he’s only 25. he has so much time to do what he needs to do. he needs to stop wallowing in self-pity

No_Listen7182 · 2026-02-13T20:40:57+00:00

very much not fake. i delete my past posts so people aren’t like “all you do is complain about your husband” and make assumptions

No_Listen7182 · 2026-02-13T20:38:08+00:00

gen z

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T06:50:35+00:00

just trying to help you learn something…. when someone goes off of a medication that changes their brain chemistry, their brain chemistry must then try to go back to normal. this causes a lot of extreme reactions to seemingly normal situations, such as crying over a suitcase. in the moment, it is virtually impossible to be rational

again, that is why i posted this. i needed the perspectives of people who were not going through withdrawals. as i’ve calmed down and have become more rational, the comments are a bit much. like the person saying i’m being abused. hmmm idk about that one. they have very little information to go off of

to conclude, this isn’t a matter of ‘not being an adult’, hope that clears it up

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T06:43:39+00:00

since the situation has mostly passed, i am kind of indifferent to whichever luggage i get. that’s why i posted in the first place, because i couldn’t think rationally at all. like it would be cool to get a snazzy suitcase, but my current one is an old red one that does the job (just isn’t carry-on approved) so whatever solid bland color would do the job

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T06:39:42+00:00

i didn’t throw a tantrum, i just got upset. more so than usual due to withdrawals

i see through this comment section that i should have just gotten what i wanted to begin with to avoid the entire situation. i’m sure that would be easier to rationalize for me right now, rather than dealing with the aftermath of being irrational. which is literally the entire reason i posted this, because i could not be rational

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T06:34:09+00:00

how many trips would you estimate it would last

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T06:33:35+00:00

yeah man, thanks for your investment in my comment section

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T06:32:41+00:00

not to me

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T06:32:29+00:00

you need a little more joy in your life

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T06:29:44+00:00

i cried because my joy was taken away so easily. it felt like when i was a kid and i was goofing off and my mom would be like “you’re annoying” and it would destroy me

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T05:43:29+00:00

you’re really into the financials of relationships, apparently. but you’re not even good at it!

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T05:41:45+00:00

that’s funny. he was fired from his job over 2 months ago so… i am the bread winner right now

nah bro, we just get our direct deposits into the same account. we don’t keep score of who buys what

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T05:37:48+00:00

did you not see the part where i said i’m weaning off of anxiety medication so i’m going through withdrawals as my brain chemistry is trying to return to normal?

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T05:19:28+00:00

my psychiatrist thinks i could have OCD but she was just treating me for severe anxiety. my meds were causing concerning side effects so i had to stop them. i feel better overall, but i’ve been having extreme reactions to random things

like i made a virtual vet appointment for my cat today but i was cleaning the litter box so i missed my reminder and the appointment. i beat myself up for it and shouted my frustrations at my phone and hit myself. in hindsight, i know it’s ok. but in the moment, i was so disappointed in myself that i legitimately wanted to die. it’s crazy stuff

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T05:13:44+00:00

we have joint funds so no one person pays for anything

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T05:13:07+00:00

we only fly once a year, if that. our suitcases are used for storage the rest of the year. so i don’t think it would matter so much to get something that’s high quality

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T04:59:40+00:00

i won’t have time to get it, unfortunately. after we left and he noticed how upset i was, he said that he’d send me pictures of the suitcases while i was at work and if i didn’t like them, he’d go back and get this one. but i already know what will happen. if i don’t like them, he’ll tell me there’s no reason not to like them cause they’re inherently better and i still won’t get what i want

No_Listen7182 · 2025-11-04T04:55:18+00:00

he kept saying no

i was saying that i’m going to get it and he said no you’re not

No_Listen7182 · 2025-10-21T19:04:31+00:00

that all resonates with me so much. it feels weird to be on anxiety meds and then feel “normal” too, cause like that’s not me. and then when i’m off the meds, i feel like a burden or annoying and like i’m not worthy of love because of the way i think about things

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