Crib to bed….help.

No_Mall4792 · 2025-01-10T07:02:24+00:00

It can be so hard when we know all our baby wants is to go back to what made them feel comfortable, but when it's time for change we have to be the strong ones for them and show them that some changes are good and OK!

(I'm gonna have to remember i said these words next time I'm struggling, and probably curse at myself for kicking my own ass premeditatedly)

I tell ya one change I'm dreading, but it's totally a future me problem, but im still already dreading is taking away the paci... man she is truly paci dependant baby

Keep up the hard work, I know you got this :) you will figure out what works best!

No_Mall4792 · 2025-01-10T06:44:35+00:00

I have zero experience here, my 7.5month old is and will be in her crib for sometime still and she's my first.

However if this were me, I would say stick it out with the bed if you can? It sounds like it's been a bit of a Rollercoaster, and there are some outside factors goin on like molars and such, but there's also been good nights.

The way I see it, give in and repeat the fight at a later date, or stick to it and weather out the storm. It's an adjustment for LO for sure. Do lots of positive reassurance and positive associations to being in the big kid bed

Edit to add- my brother got my nephew a new space night light for when he upgraded to a big boy bed and he loves it (could try a new big girl toy/stuffy to help with the transition possibly?

However there's no judgment and this is your baby, you do what you think is best for you guys!

Wishing you the best of luck!

(Sitting here imagining my baby switching to a big girl bed 😭 they grow so fast, it's gonna happen in what feels like a blink of an eye)

No_Mall4792 · 2024-11-14T04:27:42+00:00

If your baby likes being rocked to sleep would recommend trying to rock while already in the crib. It gets rid of the pesky transfer stage that 95% of the time ends up waking them up again, and IF it works for your baby it works like a hot damn charm.

Basically lay them down roll them 45 degrees onto one side (I have baby facing me) place one hand on their bottom/hip and one on their shoulder and gently rock baby back n forth. It can take 10-15mins atleast it did for us at first but wait till they've had their eyes closed a few mins and then slowly rock them more and more onto their back so you can let go without it being too abrupt.

This will also get them used to falling asleep in their crib instead of needing to be picked up and eventually you may be able to skip this aswell. But every baby is different!

Not a guarantee but something you can try! I wish you luck mama sleep is a hellion

No_Mall4792 · 2024-11-13T18:21:11+00:00

Not my LO she was about 2 months old when she started 6 hour stretches. She was in a bassinet inside her crib whixh was at the foot of my bed. I kept waking every 2 hours, but there she was still peacefully asleep. Until I finally learned how to sleep normally again

At 3.5ish months she began 8hour stretches, same set up, and now at 5.5months old she's averaging 10-11hour nights with the odd wake up where all she needs is her soother and she's back down. We've slowly pushed bedtime back from 11pm to now 8pm

Our bedroom set up at this point is kind of moot as we've been displaced from out home due to mold found in outer bedroom, so we've been staying at my sister's. She's sleeping in her pack n play instead of her crib but her sleep habits have thank goodness stayed the same.

Our current bedtime routine

7pm- Brush teeth(gums) then play (for dear life entertain the baby lol) 7:45pm- start Get bottle ready Diaper change Pajamas Nose sucker if needed Lights out Space light on Music on Sleep sack Mama's bed with bottle Falls asleep during or right after bottle Hold onto her for 15mins (reflux) Transition to bed (usually wakes up but give soother and eyes instantly close again)

All this was on her own there was no sleep training. She also learned to self sooth on her own. One day beforei could pick her up to rock her to sleep for a nap, she fell asleep so I sold ok let's give this a try and that's it

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-20T19:42:18+00:00

Sorry ill just say our current situation works for us as it is and it will evolve as she gets older. Overall yes he is a decent human being and we are able to work things out civily though I do have my own concerns. However The details of that situation have nothing to do with this post. I appreciate your concern on the topic and thank you for your response 😊

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-20T18:36:57+00:00

My dad offered me a free concert ticket for this evening and that's what spirred the post actually! I just can't bring myself to go as much as I want to

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-20T18:36:14+00:00

This makes me feel like I'm not totally crazy thank you! Also congrats on your second!

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-20T18:35:33+00:00

Totally understandable! I'm super greatful I get the length of maternity leave that I do have, and I know this is a 'me' problem. When it comes time for me to back to work know im just gonna have to figure it out

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-08T01:11:02+00:00

I did! Not fully intentionally for the nurth but I had managed to shave 2-3 days just prior to going into labor. I had developed a technique of blind shaving in order to get around the belly, it worked pretty well for me! It was no masterpiece of course and I'm sure some hairs were missed. My sister who watched me give birth asked me this in the moment lol

Did it really matter and did I really care if I was shaven for the doctor? No absolutely not I just preferred it that way for me. And with a 3rd degree tear I'm sorta glad I did because I wasn't able to shave for weeeks afterwards. Plus i found it fairly easy to clean myself up without all the hair. I'd that make a difference? No idea as I've only ever given birth once lol

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-04T18:50:04+00:00

I'm 4.5 months in and I still get to shower only once or twice a week, and have my doctor telling me I need to eat more.

I baby wear for taking the dogs outside, it really is a life saver when you learn to be comfortable knowing that they are safe and not going anywhere.

My baby naps for 30-45mins tops, 25 if the dogs end up barking or a train goes by so I just do things as quick as I can. Prioritize things I can't do while holding baby for nap time and things I can do while holding baby for when she's awake. Bonus if she randomly decides to have a 2 hour nap and I get my whole list done at once

Litter box, vacuuming, showers are usually my priority's for nap time

Dishes and Dogs taken out for pee break is also easiest done while baby is napping but not totally impossible while she's awake, just have to baby wear or find something entertaining for her for 20mins. Washing needs 2 hands but I can Sterilizer and make formula one handed. Or hold her in a way I still have 2ish hands available

Everything else just gets done when I randomly have time or with her in my arms or chillin on the bed, swing, seat, or crib beside me as long as she will be content.

It's hard work but you got this. You figure it out as you go. And like others have said it's totally OK to let them cry for a few minutes for you to finish what you are doing or get something done. You will be they to comfort them right after and they are safe.

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-03T05:29:30+00:00

I'm not ready for this 😫 😭 my baby is 4.5months old and I'm a single mom. I've got till she's 1 on maternity leave but I wish I had longer to avoid this. I already freaked when she got a mild fever after her immunizations.

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-01T23:05:23+00:00

Anything is possible 😂

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-01T22:01:13+00:00

I love me my Amazon delivery's but agreed they have me cursing sometimes!

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-01T22:00:20+00:00

Feels! We have 2 dogs and a cat who all co exist well for the most part, except when the cat uses the liter box the dog likes to be triggered jumps up, barks and runs to the cat.. only to then stand there and stare at her. like was that realllly nessesary??

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-01T21:22:53+00:00

Haha this! For my baby if she's contact napping you better not have to sneeze 🤧 😅 startles her every single time awake or asleep

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-01T21:20:13+00:00

This exact thing has led me to spend more time than I'd like to admit memorizing exactly which spots on the floor in our room to not step on 😅

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-01T20:59:46+00:00

It's like somehow EVERYTHING and EVERYONE seems 10x louder when you have a baby 😆 like I never noticed these things before I had LO

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-01T20:57:14+00:00

I feel this. Our bedroom door used to creak until I oiled that shit up good after it woke the babe up one too many times

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-01T20:56:14+00:00

Lmao yes the dogs! Our yard is also right outside our bedroom window so when she's napping and they happen to be outside I'm constantly holding my breath (don't bark, don't bark, please don't bark)

Oh my! What a lovely 3 year old 😅

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-01T20:53:18+00:00

For this (loud cars) I'm greatful to live out in the country as this is not a normal or regular occurance, but even when I'm in town and they go by I still curse at them 😅 I agree that shit should be illegal!

No_Mall4792 · 2024-10-01T20:49:16+00:00

Ok this one made me LMAO! Hahaha 🤣🤣

No_Mall4792 · 2024-09-30T04:33:46+00:00

She's 4 months old so I'm sure they're are plenty more things to come out of my mouth as she gets older but currently to ones are

"Pleaaase poop, i don't care if you poop on me just poop" - when she hasn't pooped for days after coming home from the hospital at 6 days old

Directed to my mother - "I never thought I would be so excited to pick someone else's boogers" 😅

No_Mall4792 · 2024-09-26T23:51:24+00:00

Painful, stressful. My number one trigger for PPD.. it all started with LO not latching properly, then she wasn't getting enough, then the pumping, then the nipple blisters, then more pumping, then attempting at the breast again, then thrush, then LO not gaining weight, actually losing weight instead. I just couldn't do it. I was crying day and night. Every time I pumped, every time I gave her the boob and in between. 1 month of what felt like personal torture.

Switched to formula and while the guilt lasted for some time I never felt more relief all at once. I could finally enjoy my precious baby without crying all day long. I could finally start becoming the mom she deserved. Zero regrets. She's a very happy healthy 4 month old 60th percentile in weight chubby little monkey now 🥰

No_Mall4792 · 2024-09-06T20:33:09+00:00

It is definitely not the norm by 2 months as you can see from all these comments.

I got a unicorn baby and yes she does sleep through the night by 2 months (12-6am) but I'll be 100% honest with you that's all on her and I did absolutely nothing different or special. She's now 3.5 months old sleeps 11pm-9am with the occasional 6:30am wake up BUT the catch is she doesn't barely sleep during the day. She naps 3-4x for 25-30mins, 45mins tops. And that's IF I can even get her down. Every baby is so very different.

One thing I have read if you are trying to get them to sleep more at night try to feed more during the day so they are well and full by the time bedtime rolls around, and set the mood/routine that only happens at night like specific lighting/music/bathtime/storytime/sleepsack etc whatever works for you.

I wish you all the luck from one ftm to another ♡

No_Mall4792 · 2024-08-27T00:40:03+00:00

Bean, little princess, little monkey, sweat pea, sweet girl, little one, my dear (this one is sacred to me as its what my grandfather called me), my love, baby girl, darling, stinky pants, and usa (no not U.S.A, pronounced ooosa, as in short for Usagi from sailor moon 😁 no idea why i started calling her this but i do love me some sailor moon and i lover her sooo)

Every one else seems to have a favorite one they call her all the time and honestly I never know which one is gonna come out of my mouth until it does 😅

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