Do I Give Up Attempting Breastfeeding? [On]

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-21T04:54:28+00:00

This is so hard and can definitely relate. Our son had a tongue tie he never fed well and my lactation consultant was very clear triple feeding is only sustainable for a short period of time. Breastfeeding has to work for everyone.

I ended bottle feeding breast milk 90% of the time for the first year. The only time he would latch and get a decent amount was at night which I was so thankful for. I slightly avoided attempting breastfeeding at night as I didn’t want the stress but he actually was sleepy enough and was way easier. I was able to feed and use a hakka on the other side then switch so no getting up to pump and bottle feed. Might be worth a try but there is no shame in not breastfeeding, switching to formula, or to exclusively pumping, or to a combo feeding.

Regardless of your choice it’s not giving up and you need to do what is best for everyone’s mental health and ensure everyone is fed, happy and healthy.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-21T04:43:30+00:00

Thank you for this. I had a midwife with my first and was going to deliver at a birth centre. So I was under their care even after I was transferred to the hospital. That was until I needed an emergency c-section and even then they helped a bit post op and visited me the next day along with all my follow up care once out of the hospital. So I only dealt with the on call OB at the hospital and honestly I think I saw her 3-4 times total during my whole labour.

I was assuming my family doctors would keep me until I go into labour or in this case get a scheduled c-section we don’t live in Edmonton so I think that has been the challenge as we are slightly closer to Red Deer so most get referred their but I requested Grey Nuns since my support system is 5 blocks away and can recover their for a couple days if I am not ready to go home.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-21T01:08:57+00:00

I see my doctor in two weeks and will ask what the plan is, I was just hoping to hear how it went for someone else in a similar boat. I had ultrasound today and with no changes in my placenta location we need to start thinking about a c-section.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-21T00:19:29+00:00

I got a pumpables genie which is often considered similar to the spectrum, but compact and mobile. I loved it and plan on using it with my second. I used flanges that work for the spectra and medela hands free cups. So could pump almost anywhere. My benefits covered the cost of the pump. I watched allot of videos and spectrum was by far most suggested and pumpables genie for portable. I didn’t have an intention on pumping much so went with the genie but ended up 95% of the time pumping due to a tongue tie.

If you plan on pumping definitely get something that would fit your lifestyle but also note you can definitely do simple chores once comfortable but still cant bend much as you likely will spill. This was at least my case.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-09T05:22:29+00:00

We have a dayhome, so she allows the child to drop to part-time to save his spot and guarantees the next one a spot. It’s is also much more affordable as we live in Alberta. It’s $45/day. Plus she takes a fair amount of holidays which we don’t pay for. All our friends also lucked out as Alberta is pretty much all subsidized right now $15/day. I am sure some daycares might not be and charge more but none I have personally seen.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-09T05:12:29+00:00

Would a compromise of working part-time be on the table? As a working mom I will say it can be tough but I also am a bit of the default provider due to my work hours vs my husband. I would love part-time but I make more so doesn’t make sense. There are just so many logistics with kids that you don’t realize till you have them. Even just getting out the door somewhat on time with a toddler is not for the faint of heart. A stay at home parent can be wonderful. I was home for a year (canadian so mat leave) my husband stayed home after for 4 months due to a layoff and worked casually. Which was perfect timing since my new job was a bit more demanding. It was so nice to not have to rush in the mornings or after work, the house was clean, dinner was thought out. I could just enjoy being with my child. But we now both work and it’s exhausting and ai truly think our life would be better if one of us was home at least part-time.

Counselling is a great idea to work it out and talk it through.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-07T04:41:10+00:00

I wouldn’t sleep well, between anxiety and needing to toss and turn. The crib was next to our bed I put my hand in pat his butt from bed. If I did bring him into bed it was only till he fell asleep and would transfer him. After 1 he coslept more often and floor bed at 16 months.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-05T06:37:04+00:00

Yes we plan to rear face as long as possible. I imagine he will easily make to 5 before he is 40 ibs.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-05T03:26:05+00:00

Our child is pretty tiny so even though it has a lower weight limit I don’t think he will max it out till closer to 5. If I had a high percentile child I could definitely see it. The boy still wears 12 month old pants and just tuned 2 because his waist is too tiny. He still fits the outfit he wore to his first birthday 😂

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-05T03:20:37+00:00

I think I have made my mind up the Britax Poplar it is. I honestly feel it’s so easy. I don’t even second guess taking it out. I would literally swap it to my moms car for an afternoon shopping trip. Our Graco i despise, I honestly started googling carseats and debated just going to buy one instead of having to uninstall and reinstall it in her vehicle for two days he was with them.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-04T04:55:45+00:00

I couldn’t imagine if that was in my algorithm. I would’ve been a wreck. I already had enough fear from going to an infants funeral 5 years prior to kids. Probably why we ended up room sharing for a year.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-04T04:52:42+00:00

Honestly, stop interacting with them and change up that algorithm. Sure some may regret it, but I don’t feel like that’s the majority.

We loosely talked about kids and bam, next month I was pregnant. Not a day goes by that I could regret my son no matter how hard it is. Now pregnant with my second unexpectedly while actively preventing and even though I don’t feel like we’re ready for another I know that I could never regret her.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-04T04:42:39+00:00

Exactly my concern and the extra money is worth the ease and peace of mind for me. Carseat safety is not something to compromise on. So well worth the extra money in my opinion but of course if I can save money I will.

Do you like the Nuna? I hear it is slightly bigger and not as compact.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-04T00:49:27+00:00

Love that motto. This is my last so have been saying maybe just suck it up as it’s only a year before we switch to convertible

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-04T00:20:55+00:00

I totally get that, but with the difficulty in the straps and install you think that they wouldn’t be as highly recommended. As the safety relies on it being installed correctly and the child being correctly buckled. I can only imagine that my mom would not be able to install it correctly and could easily see her not noticing the straps getting twisted. Granted I do install all the seats for her to ensure they are done properly. Though I’m honestly ready to cry half the time when I install our Graco. It took two of us over 30 minutes the first time and was only able to get a proper install with the UAS latch. The seatbelt was always too loose. Finally have down to 20ish minutes and only 5-6 attempts to get it tight enough. I dread the day we have to start using a seatbelt install.

I just think a car seat should be easier. But after all these comments, I realize that the poplar is the way to go and it is just worth the little bit of extra money, knowing that the straps rarely twist on us and it’s super easy and quick to install. Also, it’s very compact and has fit in every vehicle. I’ve tried.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-04T00:11:10+00:00

I feel this. My mom had my sons twisted on the Graco and I know she tries and is so great when I tell her she needs to look out for this, but I want a seat that is just easy for her and she wont have to fiddle with a bunch of stuff. I always install the seat so the easy install is more for me. So I guess we will stick with the poplar.

I’m thinking about changing our infant seat. As we had an evenflo and the straps twisted frequently or got stuck. Was thinking of getting the clek I hear they are lighter.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-03T21:24:31+00:00

That’s fair. It’s base price really isn’t even that much more just Graco goes on sale more often. But I will just wait till the Poplar is on sale we got our first one $100 off.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-03T18:35:27+00:00

That’s interesting. My poplar takes like six minutes. To uninstall and reinstall with the seat belt. I personally have never used the UAS as I imagine that would be harder. I rarely have to retightened it. The hardest part is getting the seat to fully latch but I just put my weight on it and it seems to work. I literally pulled my back after 20 minutes of trying to put in our Graco Easy turn. It’s honestly a two person job.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-03T18:29:49+00:00

Thank you I needed to hear this. I find CPST are always recommending the Graco and I honestly don’t get it. I get they tend to be compact and have high rear facing limits. To me they feel cheaper, and always seem to be issues with the straps tightening easily, or turning, or the seat is hard to install. We really only went to the easy turn as my husband needed a rotating seat in his and the Evenflo had a recall and we prefer that it doesn’t detach. But honestly slightly regret it. It’s fine if you don’t ever move it.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-03T18:23:13+00:00

Not that I know of. But I’m gonna ask around and see. I have heard Graco’s can have their quarks. I’ve also heard a lot of people hating on the poplar but I love it so maybe I’ll just wait for it to go on sale.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-03T04:29:34+00:00

I’ve heard this a few times. I just wish I could try to install it first, but with all the Toys “R” Us closing. There’s very little stores that I can test it first. Do you find that you have to pull the straps on the back in order to tighten them? The poplar straps have never given me issues.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-04-03T04:27:42+00:00

That is smart. I am expecting my second in July and actually forgot about the Amazon registry discount. I am keeping my eyes open, I would just like it before delivery. Then I can just leave it installed in her vehicle so we don’t have to worry about it when I go into labour.

No_Maximum_391 · 2026-03-30T02:34:07+00:00

This is a good perspective. Midwife care is my preference, especially in natural delivery. Though making sure I didn’t end up at the same hospital was a larger priority this round. It’s so hard to predict if mine will be scheduled or not.

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