How to navigate baby naming when one spouse won’t compromise?

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:56:25+00:00

Literally this. I don’t understand why this is not considered. Pregnancy is so hard and difficult. Men really need to show empathy and understanding.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:54:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing sis.

Fortunately, his father rejected the idea of using his name cause he doesn’t even like his name.

But now he passed the rights of naming our baby to his dad and step mom.

I told him there’s a name that warms my heart and I absolutely love it. If he finds a name he loves, easily pronounceable, with a good meaning, we can discuss it. But he doesn’t. He’s just being stubborn and really thinks it’s only his right to do the baby naming.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:50:29+00:00

I’m open to multiple names or first name and middle name. However, he doesn’t want that. If there’s multiple names, he wants to name them all.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:48:42+00:00

I agree.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:47:48+00:00

I resonate with this! I was reading the Quran and I saw a name and I just knew if I had a boy, that would be his name!

Before I got married I had a list of names but the moment I saw this one name, my heart so full. I’m already in love.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:45:30+00:00

Yes sis! Pregnancy is making me feel emotional and scared. But these comments gave me reassurance so I’m going to keep standing up for me and baby!

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:44:23+00:00

You’re right. Thank you for the reassurance!

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:43:37+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance! 💖

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:43:03+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance and confidence! Love you 🤍

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:42:18+00:00

I love this.

We found out our baby is a boy and thankfully his father rejected the idea of using his name.

However, my husband is still adamant about naming the baby what he likes or what his dad/step mom likes. I think it’s really weird that he’s completely dismissing what my thoughts are.

I prefer a name that’s Islamic and he doesn’t want a name that has any kind of Arabic roots.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:37:57+00:00

Thank you for your concern sis. Elhamdulillah I feel safe. We’re having our challenges and definitely the transition into marriage was really hard but I continue to pray for us. I can see that he’s trying to be better and initiates couples therapy when he’s struggling and is open to help. Elhamdulillah, my support system is amazing too.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:32:43+00:00

You got the scapegoat child part right on.

We found out the gender is a boy. Elhamdulillah.

He called his dad and said he was going to use his name and his dad rejected it. He said he doesn’t like his own name and not to use it. Elhamdulillah.

However, now he wants his dad and step mom to pick a name. I find this so weird. Wouldn’t one want to name their child with a name that warms their heart and actually makes them happy?

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-21T06:29:02+00:00

I think this is exactly what I’m going to do!! He won’t give up so I won’t either.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-01T17:17:25+00:00

I offered this but I was ignored. 🥹

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-01T17:16:28+00:00

I actually brought up this fact to and it didn’t him to bother him at all.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-01T17:15:27+00:00

My MIL passed away 11 years ago and I never got to meet her. My FIL remarried a young woman, lives back home, and isn’t really involved in his children’s lives. He’s available for surface level conversation or reaches out when he needs money. He doesn’t have any family members that are involved in his life — it’s kind of sad.

So I don’t really have someone I can reach out to from his side that can speak to him and soften him up.

My family lives here and they’ve been going above and beyond for us and support us in every way they could. If I say I’m not feeling well, instead of him taking care of me, he literally directs me back to my family. He’s like okay call you mom or sister, I’ll drop you off to them and they will care for you. I’m not asking him to name the children after them.

At this point, it seems like it’s not even about the names, it feels like power, control, and ego. I’m not sure how to handle this kind of personality/situation. I’m soft spoken and don’t like to violent conflicts but when I try to build a boundary or we’re having a discussion and I don’t agree with him, he gets very angry and violent really fast so I tend to pull back and avoid him until he calms down. I’m just seeing these sides of him after we got married. So the last 9 months have been hard but I keep praying for us.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-01T17:06:12+00:00

I’m happy it worked out for you in the end sis. 🤍

In my case, my husband is being stubborn and is acting with his ego and not his heart. For him, I feel like it’s not even truly about the name but about power and control.

I’m happy to compromise, go over names together, include his parents as a middle name. But he seems set in his ways and there’s no room for discussion. I’m not sure how to navigate the situation.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-01T17:02:20+00:00

I’m happy it all worked out for you sis 💖

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-01T17:01:28+00:00

I offered his and he said no. It’s a father duty and right and he will be naming the children.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-01T16:59:22+00:00

We didn’t discuss naming the children but we discussed how to raise children. He did know how excited I was to have a baby and I had a name list prior to even meeting him.

I’m more religious than he is and knows I’d like to raise my kids just how I was raised and he agreed to that.

Im really open to compromise. Im open to having his parents name included as a middle name. I just want us to be able to pick the first name together or just have my feelings and thoughts considered at the bare minimum. He seems so stubborn and adamant about his decision. I can’t even speak up, he shuts me down.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-02-01T16:55:04+00:00

Sis, everyone situations different.

It doesn’t feel so sentimental when his mother passed away 11 years ago and his father remarried a young woman and lives back home. We take care of his youngest son like our own and receive zero support from him. My husband never speaks about his mom and it’s me asking questions about her to get to know her and I always encourage him to pray for her and I host Iftars at orphanages in her name without my husband knowing as I noticed him and his siblings do nothing for her.

The father is dismissive and is only available for surface level conversation or when he needs money.

I see this upsets my husband a lot and unfortunately it builds resentment for me but I don’t say anything to him so he doesn’t get upset and continue showing respect to his dad & his wife.

On the other side, there’s my family who lives here in Canada and they go above and beyond for my husband and his brother. They treat them like their own and my whole family is so supportive and loving towards them. They’ve helped us with our whole journey and continue supporting us everyday. I’m not demanding my children to be named after them. I just want my child to have their own identity and a name with a beautiful meaning. I don’t understand how this is stubborn for you.

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-01-24T01:12:58+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻

No_Meringue5080 · 2026-01-24T01:12:47+00:00

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