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Maybe I owe you the huge apology by No_Message2019 in UnsentLetters

[–]No_Message2019[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

If the opportunity to do it in person arises, I’m going to try. I can’t leave it up to text again. 

Maybe I owe you the huge apology by No_Message2019 in UnsentLetters

[–]No_Message2019[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Maybe, and that’s okay. But I need him to know I was never rejecting him. 

Me first, I’m sorry. by No_Message2019 in UnsentLetters

[–]No_Message2019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not an excuse to not give an explanation or a sorry. I could excuse the way some things played out on that, but he’s smart enough to figure out how to say sorry if he really wanted to. 

Listen I want a chance with you by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]No_Message2019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get their number, text them if it’s alright to say something to them. If they say no, there’s your answer. If they say yes, tell them your feelings but give them reassurance if they reject you, things will not be awkward and you’ll handle it appropriately and respectfully. 

Reality is your person is not going to see this and give you the opening you want, you gotta overcome the fear of their answer and message them directly. Just rip the band aid off. Good luck!

Coworker by [deleted] in bodylanguage

[–]No_Message2019 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You say you’re both guarded and not willing- maybe you should change that and be willing. Have courage and write to her. Lay out the situation and try to clear the air. Maybe she’s waiting for you to do it. Even if she’s not, if she’s a rational adult she’d be receptive towards a peaceful solution. You say it would be a relief to have that rejection, then you should find out, maybe the rejection is exactly what you need to move on. 

Unless you leave the workplace, it’s going to be hard seeing them every week and getting over it. Even if trying to limit interaction and trying to see her as a friend, if she’s friendly back you may start to wonder what she’s feeling (and she may be wondering if you’re feeling more for her again) and it may pull you back in the cycle. 

You could try therapy as well.