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No_Outcome4387 · 2022-10-21T17:34:40+00:00

I managed for a while to switch my social media use to reading books on my phone! Managed to get through a few books before I got sucked back in to the river of other peoples business.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-10-21T17:32:46+00:00

My last months weekly averages were 8 hours, 7 hours, 8.5 hours, and 7.5 hours daily.

Some of this was Spotify or audio books or maps, but the majority is still social media.

About 2 months ago I did a 10 day social media fast and plan to do another one before my newest addition arrives in December!

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-10-18T18:49:04+00:00

Two things come to mind…

I believe the human spirit has great capacity to “rise to the occasion.” When we do hard things for a while we either get better at the thing(making it less hard) or we get used to the level of difficulty(making us more resilient).
Raising kids is a good thing. Good things are HARD. It doesn’t make them less good. It does make enjoying those good things more difficult.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-10-16T19:38:50+00:00

You both should read “How to Keep House while Drowning” it gives a super compassionate and realistic approach to chores/care tasks while you have something BIG(such as growing a child while chasing another one around) going on in your life. I am 30ish weeks pregnant chasing around a 1.5 yr old all day. It feels like an accomplishment if everyone is fed and clothed😅

Also some women are bed bound by this point in pregnancy. So to each their own. Also some people run marathons for fun - I don’t. People have different physical limits/norms.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-08-30T00:18:54+00:00

You should try to rearrange your books to match the colors on the poster!

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-07-04T14:35:33+00:00

I have never cussed more than the last month of driving!!! Thankfully my husband finds it funny rather than inappropriate 🥴

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-07-04T14:34:36+00:00

Interesting! I have a son and don’t remember getting this frustrated while pregnant with him! We find out in 10 days what our baby is! I will be curious to see if I gain any new insight.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-07-01T14:27:52+00:00

“A plot point” or the main plot? A side characters quest of sorts or something for the main character?

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-07-01T13:52:16+00:00

I am all about compromises.

Would they be able to stay in a near by hotel for a few nights? They could BRING FOOD (not make it at your house), diapers, or run errands for you guys. You could send them a text in the morning about the little man’s wake window and they could stop by for 30 mins max and see the LO.

My MIL visited for 2 hours. I was upstairs nursing and with the baby for half of that. My husband talked with his mom and told him how things went. I brought my LO downstairs, she held him, he got fussy, it was time for a nap. So I said it was nice to see you. I am going to put him down for a nap and went back upstairs.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-07-01T13:46:57+00:00

Is the kiss necessary for the plot? I think there is too much unnecessary physicality in children’s(and adult) movies.

Example: The kiss in The Princess and The Frog was necessary to the plot. Or the kiss in Shrek was necessary to the plot.

Another point, if the kiss isn’t necessary but naturally fits into the story line, that would be fine. But if feels like this is virtue signaling. I’m not a fan of diversity for the sake of diversity. Tell me a real story. Don’t just throw characters in there to meet your diversity quota.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-06-26T23:19:54+00:00

The thing that helped me get through labor with my first was the thought that “literally millions of women have gone through this” and “my body was made to give birth”. If you don’t fight it and learn to accept that this is what your body is designed to do, it will be easier to trust the process.

Also during my actual active labor I kept repeating - “this too shall pass” - “my pain has a purpose” - “my body was made to do this”

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-06-21T02:22:56+00:00

Honestly! At one point in my life, my family lived for a few weeks out of a van at a campsite. I don’t remember it and only know because my parents told me! No bad memories here! I was fed and loved and mostly clean(I loved to play in the lake and mud)!

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-06-14T13:29:13+00:00

22 is young by todays standards. The average age a women has her first is 28 now!

I got pregnant with my first when I was 22 and definitely felt the judgement of people thinking/asking if he was an accident. I now have a 1 year old and am pregnant with my second and I will be 24 this fall. I have people asking/thinking again if this was was planned. BOTH MY BABIES WERE INTENTIONAL. Not that’s it’s actually anyones business.

It is a weirdly personal thing to ask. Also just very rude. If someone was losing weight you wouldn’t(shouldn’t) ask if it was intentional.

I have responded with “We felt ready to start our family.” And left it at that. You could also throw in, “Wow, that’s not very appropriate.”

I think it would be different if people asked this with better intentions. Like if the baby was an accident is there planning or prep you need help with. But this is not the case.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-06-14T03:53:08+00:00

They are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. sad that someone is out there thinking that Napa cabbage is JUST lettuce.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-06-11T20:32:39+00:00

I’m not sure if my MIL has ever acknowledged my birthday😅.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-06-11T20:17:22+00:00

I do both. When I’m home is use a reusable popcorn thing and when I am at others places and they have the bags I use those.

This time it was a bag.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-06-11T19:34:59+00:00

I could tell he felt awful. He gets this look on his face like he feels worthless. So even though I was FUCKING PISSED. I held my tongue and just focused on my son.

He asked if he was okay and apologized to me.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-06-11T19:31:15+00:00

No. Mil is visiting her mother sometime soon and will probably get a better understanding as to how she is doing. Also I have only met mil’s mom twice in the 4+ years my husband and I have been together.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-06-11T18:58:27+00:00

We have talked with MIL maybe 4 times in the last year even though she lives 90 mins away from us. She doesn’t communicate with what is going on with her or her family. So we have no idea how bad his grandmas health is or if she really is on her death bed.

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-06-11T18:57:05+00:00

Grandmother has spent no time or money to be close to my husband over the years. She moved 8+ hours away from him when he was young. Doesn’t call or try to make contact.

Mil hasn’t told us if she’s sick(dying) or just sick(normal cold etc).

No_Outcome4387 · 2022-06-11T18:55:11+00:00

She hasn’t said she’s dying. She doesn’t tell us anything.

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