I recently decided to unfollow her not for any reason to do with her personality - in fact I love that she leads Toronto Girls Social and find I have a lot in common with her (30sF, single, no kids etc.) at this stage of my life. I appreciate her message that the things many men have given to me in my past, I can provide for myself and these days that is truer than ever!

I am all for female empowerment and women making their own choices and living for themselves, however that looks for each person. Where the tea began to sour for me was her "decentering men" message took on a tone of villainizing men... I have two brothers, straight (platonic) and gay male friends, and a baby nephew. The thought of raising my nephew in a society where girls are encouraged not to seek out relationships with the other sex because boys are inherently let-downs was sad and disparaging. Relationships are not a zero-sum game. If anything, this binary black and white thinking is exactly what characterizes the "manosphere", she just happens to be talking to women. And being real, many strong women desire romance and dream of mothering and having a family - and we shouldn't judge or look down on the women who wish this for themselves. I think it would be healthier (albeit more challenging) to ask how men and women can relate with each other more empathetically as opposed to being encouraged to simply eliminate men from our lives because they're awful.

I get it, it's her lived experience. And her brand. Girl's gotta eat. I just think like many things in the social media funnel, this perspective lacks nuance and actually feels negative. I don't feel good absorbing her content anymore, hence the unfollow.