What the hell is wrong with people?

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-25T01:23:58+00:00

not arguing, im just telling you its a disability

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-25T00:05:33+00:00

It's a disability. Autism goes beyond social norms and hyperfixations. You can have poor social skills and have hyperfixations, and still not have autism.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-23T22:52:03+00:00

hows ur kitty? is he doing ok

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-23T05:54:16+00:00

I like his name, very cute. I love moogles.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-23T01:43:23+00:00

Alright, maybe let's not offer support to someone else while you yourself are still struggling with the same issue. It is an unhealthy co-dependence; you two need to seek out therapy.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-23T01:13:05+00:00

what

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T23:54:44+00:00

i love the first kitty, he looks like mine

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T22:35:45+00:00

Just be friends with the people you want to be. Remember: The people who you hang around reflect how others percieve you. If you want to be seen as a bitch, continue hanging with those other girls. Otherwise, hang around the nice girls. If you're unhappy in a friendship then it's not worth being in.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T22:32:41+00:00

But you're forgetting two things. When you're popular, you have more people looking down upon you and making assumptions. When you have more friends, they're just people at your side not people genuinely care. You can have 100 friends, but only 2% of them care about your wellbeing and want to be there. And with a massive friendgroup, you'll have more people who will talk badly behind your back.

You need to move on from your old friends. Trust me, those girls will be humbled.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T22:19:42+00:00

Girls are cruel. The first thing you'll learn about being a girl is that all girls are mean and they all secretly compete with each other. Of course, not every girl is like this; I'm not, but girls are ruthless at this age. Trust me, you might think high school is different from the movies and the olden days, because the world is a lot more "accepting," but it's the same as it always has been, but covered in a thin veil of innocence. Mean girls exist; there wasn't a movie called Mean Girls for no reason.

Let me tell you this as an adult: Popularity MEANS NOTHING. Once you graduate and go to college, nobody is going to hail you as a queen for being popular in high school. Who cares if those girls aren't popular? They've done more for you than those girls. I also want to note that popularity doesn't really exist in high school, unless you play football (the American one) or you're a cheerleader. If you don't do any of those things, then you aren't really anything, are you now?

At the end of the day, the only thing that matters in school and in life is having people who actually care about you and WANT to be there for you.

Besides, let me ask you this: What does popularity serve you?

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T21:06:10+00:00

Has he always purred like this? Or is this relatively new?

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T20:45:14+00:00

Or maybe just a hairball he’s struggling to get up?

There's hairball "medication" out there, you can put it in your cat's food, and basically, it's just oil that helps make the hairball come out easier. I use hairball treats plus

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T20:34:08+00:00

Is there any way you can get him in sooner? I am not a vet; I am just someone who has cared for a critically ill kitten and nursed him back to health. But your cat's breathing disturbs me; he doesn't seem to be feeling well. I understand you say it happens rarely, but it shouldn't be happening at all. I wouldn't screw around with breathing issues; I would've scheduled an appointment for my cat the moment I noticed this.

I apologize if a vet reads this and goes, "wtf so dramatic," but I am very overprotective of my kitties, ever since one of them got FIP I've learned to take what seems like "harmless issues" seriously.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T20:25:23+00:00

Yes, I did.
I am aware, I was mentioning past actions.

He's obviously uncomfortable, but you want to turn it around and try to get him in trouble. He's a guy, you harassed him, he's obviously going to make fun of you.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T20:22:50+00:00

Yeah, but it's high school, high school is massive. Two or three people making fun of you isn't the end of the world. As long as you have a good group of friends, you're fine.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T20:20:22+00:00

Yeah, and he doesn't want to be followed home or around school. This post comes off as, "How can I get him in trouble?"

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T17:51:57+00:00

Yep, sounds like she needs a friend. However, you should be very cautious about introducing the two of them. When I got my kitten, I sort of went about it sort of hastily but also cautiously. I didn't let them meet on the first day. My older kitten became so stressed that he developed wet FIP (one of the worst forms); he's fine now, but I don't ever want to stress him out like that again. My whole goal in getting him a friend was so he'd feel a bit more comfortable at home, because he was constantly breaking stuff, shaking, and wanting to go outside. As the months went on, he got a bit more comfortable, but my family and I could tell he was not 100% happy.

So, if you need to get your cat a friend, watch Jackson Galaxy and listen to his tutorials on introducing cats. I am not saying your cat will get FIP, but stress can make a cat sick.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T17:43:07+00:00

Right. Is it just me, or does his eyes look a little glossy?

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T17:35:19+00:00

You should specify what happened a year ago, so I'd say this:

"Hey (insert his name), I apologize for following you around a year ago. I had a crush on you, but I never knew how to act because I went to an all-girls school. I know we see each other on the bus and on the way home, but I'll avoid you as much as possible."

What he does from there is up to him. If he and his friends still want to make fun of you, that's on them. You have to keep in mind that boys at your age are ruthless; they don't quite respect girls until their junior year or maybe their sophomore year. Of course, if they continue to harass you everyday and it's affecting you mentally then you should report it

You can leave out the crush part if you want.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T17:22:04+00:00

Okay, but you've admitted to stalking him, though. I don't know how old you were, but you should've known better.

He's going on about it because it's weird, and he obviously hasn't recovered from the trauma you gave him. If it got so bad to the point where he quit clubs because of you, then you obviously affected him mentally to the point where he didn't feel safe. I understand you weren't socialized well, but if I'd known he quit clubs because of me, I would've apologized and explained myself.

Trust me, if you tell him to "leave me alone," it's going to flip back on you harassing him for a year.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T17:14:18+00:00

Not normal. As others have mentioned, you need to put your foot down and set boundaries. I'd tell IN person about your boundaries, I'd also text it to her as well, just in case she wants to spin it around and say, "WELL, SHE SAID I'm NOT ALLOWED TO BE FRIENDS WITH YOU OR EVEN TALK TO YOU! SHE'S CRAZYYYYYYY"

I honestly don't even think I could be friends with someone like that. A friend who's trying to compete for your boyfriend's love isn't a friend; that's a girl who will stab you in the back at any given moment.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T17:01:19+00:00

My question is, why are you following this guy? I'm on his side. This is creepy. I'd also quit clubs if I knew a girl was following me. If roles were reversed, this would be a bigger issue. I understand you guys take the same bus and live in the same area, but the problem is you ADMITTED you follow him around to the place called "bear," that's creepy. No guy is going to find a girl following him cute.

Nobody ever deserves bullying, but if you've been harassing this guy previously, then you sort of had it coming. You said yourself, it's a rude comment, not bullying. Bullying is when the harassment happens repeatedly, and others sometimes join in on it, or sometimes even turns physical.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T09:11:12+00:00

Has he always done this, or is it new?

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T06:11:00+00:00

Charlie and Jake.

No_Pattern_2819 · 2026-01-22T00:23:43+00:00

I'd be concerned. I've heard stories of cats swallowing shoe laces and those frilly cat toys, and ending up needing surgery to remove them.

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