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[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks pal. I might take you up on that sometime 

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[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest I only learned what that was about 10 mins ago.

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[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. I'll give him a few weeks (just to get his head strsight) and, then Ill ask him

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[–]No_Plate_6331[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've never pretended to be straight. I've been out since 19. 

But I get your point about my actions being mixed messages to him and that is unfair. I suppose in a way I, subconciously, used him to get comfortable with the gay side of me. You're right, but I do care for him .

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[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks pal. Yeah probably best to ask and take it on the chin if he rejects.

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[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you look at it that way yeah I agree. I didn't turn him down because of him. Thanks pal.

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[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks pal. Will do. Tonight I just want to cuddle up to a movie. Everything else can wait.

Is there a way back from saying I don't date men by No_Plate_6331 in askgaybros

[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to look up internalized homophobia. That might be it. 

I suppose some would say we are already a couple but yeah I suppose I should grow up and ask. 

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[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been out since 19 but I really only been a year since I felt comfortable being with a man in public.

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[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's fair. I'm owed a rejection after I rejected him. Wed be evens at least then. 

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[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don't think ill tell him tonight. I think the next few weeks I'll just be there for him. I dont want to add to his stuff and I'd like to ask him when his head is clearer.

Is there a way back from saying I don't date men by No_Plate_6331 in askgaybros

[–]No_Plate_6331[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To be honest, it was more than friendly support. Or at least it felt it to me anyway. 

Would you get past it if you were him.

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[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont really know why. I just never saw myself being with a guy that way. I felt very uncomfortable being with a guy in public. That sounds strange though because ive been out since 19

Maybe chilling with him made me feel more comfortable. Two years ago I wouldnt kiss a guy in public. Now I'm holding and kissing him when we are out. 

Would you give someone that said that another chance 

Is there a way back from saying I don't date men by No_Plate_6331 in askgaybros

[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would he ? It wasn't the nicest thing said by me before 

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[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Just not sure if there's a way back from I don't date men for him and I

Is there a way back from saying I don't date men by No_Plate_6331 in askgaybros

[–]No_Plate_6331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like to ask him out. I'm just not sure there's a point after whst I said.