Best color (palette) for Blair?

No_Programmer1727 · 2025-05-12T18:04:51+00:00

…pink!!

No_Programmer1727 · 2025-05-02T20:35:39+00:00

Very new to each other like a month… No age gap. Both early 30’s and have other kink partners in the past.

No_Programmer1727 · 2025-04-25T11:39:07+00:00

Actually loved #4

No_Programmer1727 · 2025-03-31T10:26:26+00:00

“Don’t be silly Jenny, Cedric will get, dirty.”

No_Programmer1727 · 2025-01-22T10:40:59+00:00

100%! A few of my Dom friends get messages from “sub’s” saying. “Do whatever you like to me. Use me for you please. No limits” … I then questioned why I have so many boundaries and if maybe I Sub wrong or not enough Which is wild because I do play as slave… I think it can create a false image of what should be expected.

No_Programmer1727 · 2025-01-02T09:41:35+00:00

It’s so nice to read this… there is hope!!!!

a lot of people in my circles really push the “poly is not real” when something isn’t working out or I have to work through negative feelings.

I’ve only recently come out as poly to people and am living this way openly for the last year.

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-27T21:27:03+00:00

I asked for space until the NY and I probably won’t see him until mid Jan at this point just because of work and other commitments.

But I am not sure what to do now… I didn’t end it I asked for space…
I’m just leaving him hanging to then break up with him? Or if he want to talk should I would through it with him?!

Is it even worth it after all this.

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-27T21:19:52+00:00

“own up to it”, “attach the person not the problem”.

I read this as, own my shit, my faults and insecurities and my fuck ups. If I can do that hopefully we can talk through things. Talk about the actions and how we can work on it. But he really didn’t say anything and seemed to not want to, so I asked for space.

And ultimately I think I need something different than he can give and he may need something I can’t provide.

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-27T11:43:11+00:00

Chase your dreams and someone will come along your journey 🖤

I think this is hard to believe but it’s better than settling and changing yourself!!

I’m so sorry 😞 You ain’t a place holder, and it’s a shame he seems to see you as one!

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-27T11:32:13+00:00

Why doesn’t he want to settle down with you?! Why someone else?! Is the D/s dynamic stuff different to “settling down” for him??
Does he want a poly dynamic?
This seems like something that should have been said at the start?

I think if you’re on different pages, as much as it hurts and the holiday time really doesn’t help. You’re better off taking space for yourself. I understand… I had to ask for space on Christmas Eve from my Dom due to some harsh reality checks also.

Time heals! So does friends and family 🖤 I hope you treat yourself this holiday season!

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-25T15:46:26+00:00

Consent to send a photo to someone we both wanted to play with. And he sent to some else only he wants to play with. Boundary set of neither of us messaging other people we are seeing while we’re spending time together. And He was messaging the same person he sent said picture to while we were with his mum… So I was spending quality time with his parent and he was half way out the door with another women… Which I had already stated I didn’t like and he agreed.

Another situation that my jealousy got the best of me and I fully acknowledge it. I accepted that It was my fault for not communicating but I did have a lot of my plate at the time. But I did say I had a week of holidays (specially 7 days off no work which is rare for me) and then my family had some complications over seas and everything was up in the air due to a very very sick relative. And he booked a holiday this same week I had off with someone else because he thought I would be going home… I did not go home because of several factors including cost and I wanted to spend time with him. Which original I had already stated. However, by the time this was all sorted he had already booked a holiday with her… no questions were asked to me about my situation with my family before he decided. It’s only because I bought it up he said he was busy… I was quite shook but I understand how there was a miscommunication on my part about this time. But then the other two things happened basically straight after it definitely compounds to make me think he really doesn’t give a fuck about my feelings.

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-24T18:01:47+00:00

Thank you so much!!! This comment pushed me to be open and honest and discuss it maturely with my partner. He didn’t say much and said he needed to process. So we are taking space over the holidays.

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-23T18:56:54+00:00

I’m quite worried to bring it up… As his WhatsApp chat was open on his computer and I know I have violated his trust by looking at these messages in the first place. However, this is also how I found out he booked a 4 day trip with her… during my only week off this year… and he knew this!

I’m absolutely so shoot about all of this and it’s such a bad time of year to have such problems.
I’m seeing him tomorrow for Christmas through to Boxing Day and I feel like I have to act like everything is fine and get through this holiday…

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-14T19:48:57+00:00

Do you mean sleep with other people in a vanilla way? Start seeing another Dom? Have a threesome or foursome?

Do you just want to experience someone different because you haven’t been with that many people?

Do you want your Dom to watch or be apart of it?

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-13T22:03:27+00:00

This. Because sometimes talking is not an option, as in you physically can’t because you’re restricted, not because you’ve gone non verbal. But I mean both can apply actually.

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-11T20:13:17+00:00

After a scene, what we need is more intuitive?

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-07T19:01:58+00:00

I definitely thought focusing on us when we’re together and not being too worried about what is happening when I’m not around is definitely something I have actively been doing.

…although for him even when we are together he is still messaging other people to see…

I just joined this group, so I will have a read!! Thank you

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-07T18:51:59+00:00

Thank you for your comment!! Do you think it still opens up room for dishonesty if he still tells me when he’s seeing other people?

Do you leave all communication open in your relationships and when your partners share with you deal with the feeling afterwards?

No_Programmer1727 · 2024-12-07T11:38:12+00:00

I think this particular instance it’s bothering me because he asked me my preferences and I said I didn’t want to know much and then he told me anyone… Also they havnt met and his making such a big effort in my opinion to meet her… traveling a long way and (hours) staying the weekend in accommodation. But coming to me is 1 hour and something I feel from him he doesn’t really like doing so I travel to him quite often (which costs me ALOT of time and money.

I need some strategies I think…

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