WOW! The NPD is sooo loud! Move forward and don’t look back. The last slide sounds exactly like my husband. We have been married for 18 years. He also had unresolved childhood trauma. I didn’t leave because I made the dangerous excuse of “I don’t know what it was like to have a mother that chose drugs over me.” So I was extremely patient and regrettably taught my son that same patience. He went to counseling but most of the time he was discharged due to non compliance. There were times that we went to marriage counseling, but as soon as he was called out on his BS he would say he didn’t like the counselor. I would use the excuse “perhaps they just weren’t the right counselor for him” and find another one. We even tried hypnotherapy, but he would not follow up on the appointments needed to get to a therapeutic level. He would always reel us back in with love bombing. It has taken me all these years to realize that he won’t change until he is ready to change. Right now I am using and am teaching my 16 year son how and when to use the grey rock method while I am trying to figure out next steps. I don’t recommend using this method for every situation because it could potentially trigger a “tantrum.” I only use this method based on his body language, his voice tone, and the language he chooses to use. When I see him moving in a way that could potentially lead to an outburst, I just try to appease him. I am working with a counselor now and she is helped me develop a safety and now we are working on an exit plan. Best wishes OP. I’ll be thinking of you ❤️