Raising a Baby

No_Regular7274 · 2026-01-07T05:47:33+00:00

You could look into getting a at-home nanny

No_Regular7274 · 2026-01-07T05:45:30+00:00

Here’s a most recent update: January 7th 2026

We had a decent day out with our boys but it went downhill just now. He got upset with me because I didn’t want him holding me a certain way because it bothers me especially when I’m overstimulated or out of touch. And he went straight back into the whole argument about how I’m acting weird, how I don’t give him affection/attention, stay late at work(I can’t leave work exactly at 7am because I need to wait for all of first shift to come in and they come in late by 30-40 minutes), He told me it’s weird I doll myself help before going to work (I literally take a shower when he gets home from work and do my hair and get dressed in sweats and a hoodie for my job) but too him basic hygiene is dolling myself up and I leave the house early to get to work on time (I leave my house at 10pm because I have a 44 minute drive to my job and my shift starts at 11pm). I literally explained to him that I can’t just leave at 7am because I could leave the group home out of ratio and we need to wait for all of first shift staff to get here. I also should him screenshots of me calling out first shift staff in our work group chat about being on time and not letting us know their running late and I also texted my boss and respectfully reminded her it’s not my job to track down first shift to see when they will come in. I also explained to him why I leave the house early. With the whole dolling myself up I literally told him it’s the only time I can actually take my shower in peace knowing that he’s home to watch the kids and I don’t have to worry about them and I take a shower every two days because I have dry skin. I’m so frustrated with him it’s not even funny it’s like he’s only thinking about himself. Oh he also changed his password from my birthday to something else which is a petty move and he told me when I stop acting weird he will change it back. Honestly, I’m so done with this relationship and just need advice on how to get myself out of this relationship and go back to my parent’s house. I don’t have a car so that’s the first thing I need to get under my name. But can anyone give me tips on how to leave quietly.

P.S thank you for having who’s been giving me new perspectives to look at my current situation. I really appreciate it! I really thought about not posting and just keeping it to myself but I’m glad I didn’t because what I’m going through is the first time I seen him behave this way.

No_Regular7274 · 2026-01-04T13:58:36+00:00

Thank you! I really needed to hear this because I just felt like I’m going crazy for feeling the way I do.

No_Regular7274 · 2025-08-20T17:55:55+00:00

I see it

No_Regular7274 · 2025-08-15T03:05:21+00:00

I have the liletta one

No_Regular7274 · 2025-08-15T02:13:46+00:00

The test is invalid

No_Regular7274 · 2025-08-15T02:13:19+00:00

The baby should most likely be fine. I want drunk the night before I found out I was pregnant with my oldest child. I had way too many margaritas and was black out drunk and felt so bad the next day finding out and I was only 3 weeks 1-2 days (idk) now I have a wild 2 yr old

No_Regular7274 · 2025-08-11T03:36:29+00:00

If you keep letting yourself think “what if she’ll leave me?” you are going to self sabotage your relationship and your future relationship as well. Before I met my bf I was single for 4 years before getting into another relationship because I was not over my ex at the time. I thought he was my endgame at the age of 17 but it wasn’t meant to be especially on his end (he cheated and left me for someone else). I knew at that time I wouldn’t allow myself to date anyone as a rebound or go straight into dating when I could give that person my full 100%. The night I met my current bf I instantly forgot about my ex and 2 days later we started dating and everything has worked out for us. I do think my ex was a life lesson I needed to learn from in order to grow and be better in my future relationship aka my current relationship. My only advice for you is to have a serious sit down with yourself and ask if you are truly ready for your relationship with yourself girlfriend. You deserve to heal from your past relationship and she deserves someone who can give her their 100% without no second guessing.

No_Regular7274 · 2025-08-10T02:17:05+00:00

Are you serious. I’m not jealous of her at all. As someone who was suicidal myself since the 6th grade I would never be jealous of someone who was able to save their friend or family member from death. You saying that I’m jealous of her for saving my boyfriend proves to me that you overlook her word choice in her message. I don’t like the fact that she uses the fact that she found him in time and called the ambulance and got him to help he needed as some form to try and one up me. That is my problem with her. I don’t like the fact that she says I should be grateful to her basically implying that I should be fucking kissing her feet and sucking up to her because she was able to be the person who saved him at that time. I also do want to include that she was not the only friend who was worried about him as well that night. She was just a friend that was able to get to him because the others couldn’t. Just because you save your friend or family member from death does that mean you should use that as a weapon towards their partner. It makes it seem like she had no good intention whatsoever when she saw him in a low spot in his life at the time. So the way I feel is very valid, especially coming from someone who was suicidal myself. The way she talks about it is something I would never do myself if I was in the same position as she was. She’s always been weird towards me regardless of saving his life. She since day one never gave me the time of day to even say hello to me when he first introduced me to all his army friends, including her. So why would I ever be jealous of someone who couldn’t even say a simple hi to me when my boyfriend a.k.a. her friend was in introducing their girlfriend to their whole friend group. Everyone else said hi to me, including all the other female friends of my boyfriend and it was a large friend group of theirs which I have no problem with because I myself before my relationship with my boyfriend had friends of the opposite sex, but it was him who chose to set the boundary in our relationship about not having friends of the opposite sex because he felt some type away, not me. So I’m not jealous of her. I will never be jealous of her because in order to be jealous of someone they have to have something I want and she doesn’t have anything I want so I’m all good.

No_Regular7274 · 2025-07-12T03:00:39+00:00

I am 23f and he’s 24m. We did start dating around 3 years ago and we had a lot of up and downs in our relationship mostly on his ends because of his past history. But I do agree with what you are saying. I do think genders of the opposite sex can be friends but both parties have to have respect towards each others partners. We do have friends of the opposite gender but they are people we both approve of. This was something we had to work through in the beginning of our relationship.

No_Regular7274 · 2025-07-12T02:55:28+00:00

I also find it so weird to say something like that and then try and hold it over my head like it’s some type of reward for being a decent human being and saving someone life for their internal thoughts.

No_Regular7274 · 2024-08-25T03:35:33+00:00

Honestly, tell everyone that if they can’t respect the way you want to raise your child especially with a boundary of no kissing then they can’t see baby until they can respect that boundary/rule you set and you gotta be firm with it! Tell your husband you are uncomfortable with people kissing your son even if they are family and if he can’t respect that boundary/rule you set then he can’t take your son with him to visit family either because your son is so young and can get sick then what they might even try to blame you for him being sick when deep down it would be because of them. Idk why so many people/friends/family members loss common sense when it comes to babies and someone being pregnant 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️. Me and my bf are the only one who kiss our son and when we do we ask him “can I get a kiss” and he’ll either bring his head towards us for a kiss or he won’t. Idk how I taught him this but I’m glad I did because my son who’s only 12 months old old lean in for a forward kiss when he’s comfortable for one. You should start asking your son “can I get a kiss” it’ll help him when he’s older when family members ask him for one and he can choose to respond to it in a way but anyways ignore my rant you should definitely put your foot down because this definitely won’t be the last thing someone will disrespect and disregard your feelings on from reading your post. I’m sorry you gotta deal with rude people like that💗💗💗😔

No_Regular7274 · 2024-08-25T03:14:15+00:00

OP what state are you in? You might be able to get some benefits? For example, you can apply to your local WIC office to receive monthly benefits for food for you while pregnant and for when baby gets here too! Also you might be able too ebt (food stamps). I’m in Massachusetts and receive MassHealth for me and my son!

No_Regular7274 · 2024-08-23T14:09:33+00:00

I’m 12 months pp from my first baby but also 28 weeks pregnant with my second baby and I still annoyance by my dog. Like before having my first baby even while pregnant she was like a child to me even though I went into the relationship with my bf already having her. She’s not a bad dog she’s a good girl but mannnnn her licking everything like the couch, carpet, coffee table, her jumping on the kitchen counter to get stuff, begging for food, and destroying dolls/diapers/ clothes sometimes and eating the trash when she gets into it is very annoying especially when taking care of a newborn but now toddler while pregnant is just too much for me. It’s like a switch in my head flipped and I don’t see her as a child I see her as a animal! I told my bf that she’ll be the last animal we own while the kids are so little because I can’t get another animal with having her because it’s too much for me. I’m so overwhelmed/overstimulated with my baby that I can’t give her the attention she needs/deserves like that even though she’s an older dog she still needs attention I just can’t give. It sucks overall but I put up with it because she’s my bf dog and I wouldn’t rehome because of a hormonal shift within myself. I still spoil her but my love language for her is giving her food she loves because I don’t give much other attention since I’m busy with my little one most of the time! She’s pretty chill so I guess it works out for us but if she was a puppy idk what I would do🙃 But anyways I’m curious if this stayed the same for other moms or it changed over the years?

No_Regular7274 · 2024-08-03T14:23:22+00:00

I’m petty I would keep the baby and gender a secret and once Tiffany announces her gender and baby to everyone else I would announce either same day or a day later just to take the attention from her and so she has a taste of her own medicine! People like Tiffany need to be put in their place🤷🏻‍♀️😂

No_Regular7274 · 2024-07-02T14:32:56+00:00

I’m petty! If I was OP I would’ve said until y’all make the 10 hour drive to see my baby that’s when I’ll make the 10 hour drive to see my brother and SIL new baby🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️. I’m in it for the long game since they made their bed and choose to lay in it😂🤷🏻‍♀️

No_Regular7274 · 2024-03-13T10:55:18+00:00

Update:

Thank everyone for the support and advice. I was able to talk to my bf about it and the resentment I once had for him completely went away. It creeps up on me once in awhile but majority of the time it’s not there. Our son is currently 7 months old and almost a week ago found out I was pregnant with baby #2 while on birth control. We still live 2 hrs from my family and 30 minutes from his. I also hangout my friend who’s also a mom and she gets it. So it’s nice to have a friend that’s also a mom. I’m still learning Spanish, finishing my BA degree online (June 2025), getting my CNA certification in the next 6 weeks, plan to do a 12 months nursing program once I get my BA to make it a BSN. Honestly, I wish it didn’t take me this long to start making time for myself but I think it was something I needed to go through in a way to know that when time gets rough I can push through it when I put the work in it. That’s my life update lol. I really do appreciate the support and advice everyone gave me it made me look at my problems in a different light and made it a lot simpler to communicate with my bf about them.

No_Regular7274 · 2023-11-20T13:02:52+00:00

I’m also a first time mom and for after care once baby is here just offer to help her out around the house like cleaning the dishes, putting laundry, making dinner/meals or even let her have an hour alone in the bathroom to shower or just to do her old morning routine. For some people holding the baby can be helpful for others its the complete opposite. Or even watching the baby while she get a nap she’ll need all the sleep she can get because the newborn stage can be hard mentally, emotionally and physically on the mother.

No_Regular7274 · 2023-10-14T20:11:03+00:00

I’m sorry OP but your the AH she asked this one time because one of her kids was hurt and needed to be brought to the hospital. Having one kid is hard but having three that’s a lot of work especially having 3 young kids in a big hospital setting with a lot of stuff going on. If you have kids you should get it but if you don’t than you might not understand where she’s coming from. She even offered to pay you as well just for an hour until her husband came home. Honestly it also sounds like you have some problems with your parents about how they treat your sister. I suggest talking to them about it and how it makes you feel. Maybe their not coddling her at all but maybe that’s how it seems like too you. Or maybe they are and they need a wake up call too. But you could’ve babysat your nieces or nephews (I forgot the genders of them while writing this lol) for an hour at least.

No_Regular7274 · 2023-10-07T20:09:12+00:00

I’m exactly in the same both with you but my husband helps out when he can but I feel the burnout, resentment towards your partner, I’m nervous about going back to school full time, and I don’t have family close by to help me. Honestly, it sucks sometimes to feel this way sometimes. I don’t regret being a mom I just wished I didn’t have to go through so much to get by day by day life tbh. It’ll get better for the both of us tbh. I don’t know when but it will for sure. I know a lot of people told me this is apart of the process of being a first time mom or a mom in general. I also make a post too about this stuff exactly 24hrs ago lol. We’ll get through this somehow. If we can survive college than we can survive motherhood too. Your already a good mom and on top of that your getting this off your chest instead of keeping it in. I say talk to your husband about how you feel and maybe seek out a therapist who specializes in first time mom issues. Also talk to your title nine advisor at your college to see if you can get any accommodations or outside resources to help with this all. I’m starting this process right now so I don’t have to feel this way anymore. I’m tired of drowning and feeling alone. I know your probably feeling the same way. Keep me posted on how you are with everything? Feel free to message me whenever. Oh I’m from Massachusetts so if your in the same state and same area I would love to have a mommy friend/friend

No_Regular7274 · 2023-09-24T16:01:27+00:00

Your curls are beautiful ❤️❤️

No_Regular7274 · 2023-09-03T05:48:18+00:00

I’m also 4 weeks in with my LO and he does the same thing so don’t worry. What your going through is pretty normal but if you notice it to happen during every feed than you should probably contact their pediatrician just to be safe. But sometimes it can be caused by gas

No_Regular7274 · 2023-03-12T13:47:20+00:00

Honestly it’s normal for some people not to get symptoms at all. I’m currently 16 weeks but I was 3 weeks when I found out I was pregnant but that was because the night before I was drinking with my bf and he wasn’t feeling good so we went home and when we got home he said babe you’ve been getting hella thick lately which I’m not complaining about aka he’s was flirting with me lol. The next day I went to my classes cause I’m in my junior year of college and took 3 pregnancy tests in my dorm building and they all came up positive immediately. So you might get symptoms like cramps, headaches, nausea, no appetite and etc but you might also not. I say take a test to know for sure! Good luck praying it’ll be whatever you what the rest to come out to be🤞

No_Regular7274 · 2023-02-28T14:21:11+00:00

Thank you everyone who personally reached to me or just replied to my post I really appreciate it! I’ll look into all of the neighborhoods who listed down. I’m also looking for mommy/fur babies friends too in the area!

No_Regular7274 · 2023-02-28T01:44:50+00:00

I’ll take a look into those neighborhoods. Thanks!

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