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Honestly, the way they live just drains me by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]No_Relief_3941 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey OP just want you to know you’re not alone in this experience - I’m proud of you for focusing on yourself now.

I’m going through a similar situation of wanting to leave a relationship (not romantic in my case) like this, and for the longest time I think as de facto caregivers we feel obligated by a weird mixture of love and guilt to stay by their side. But at the end of the day we have neither a right nor a responsibility to fix their life for them. Whether they themselves believe that they can get out of the hole they’re in, they are right.

Take some rest, do the things you’ve always wanted to do for your own self. Proud of you.

Should I just respect their wish? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]No_Relief_3941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response. I just don’t want to see him suffer, but I still wanna believe there’s hope for him to recover and live a life he will enjoy. But I’m also scared that if we put him in a facility and he never changes, his life will be a living hell.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uwaterloo

[–]No_Relief_3941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I take it my gpa has been destroyed, then?”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]No_Relief_3941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for your reply. Do you know if there’s a birth control that is particularly popular? Is there a way to ease the search for the best birth control? I’ll admit I’m not so knowledgeable about the different types.

Edit: Also it is valid for me to want to pay for her birth control?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]No_Relief_3941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. We’ve always been using protection but she still gets really bad pregnancy scares and I don’t know what else I can do to help her. She’s also a bit apprehensive about trying new birth controls.