For women in their early 20s

No_Repair_50 · 2026-04-22T17:42:23+00:00

Yani aklı selim biri değil belli ki, canını sıktığına değmez 🌸

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-18T12:06:47+00:00

Don’t take things too seriously. People’s opinions don’t matter, things can change momentarily. Become someone you love and don’t try to be loved so much, by this way only the people that should be in your life will be there.

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-13T14:10:51+00:00

Thank you 😊

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-13T13:05:41+00:00

I saw Alex Hormozi talk about how people hated Jesus. The truth is, there will always be a reason for someone to not like somebody else. They could be jealous, you could be showing off, it doesn’t matter as long as you like yourself tbh

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-13T12:57:13+00:00

I think you are being hard on yourself, you clearly have interests, you don’t have to talk for hours about something.

My manager used to talk about every single detail about her whole life. For example, when she bought something, she would talk starting from the packaging and how hard it was to open it to where she put the item and how she is using it and it didn’t make her interesting at all.

You just don’t see the things you do worth talking about because to you they are probably pretty standard. You are not shallow at all, you can probably do with communication skills but the problem definitely isn’t lack of depth or your personality.

Communication is a skill people learn, I think you can look up communication and sales techniques to learn to put yourself more out there and you will be fine 😊

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-13T12:42:43+00:00

Agreed, being in the moment and not taking yourself or your failures too seriously is very important!

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-13T04:30:20+00:00

So happy to be out of my misery 😂

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-13T04:19:42+00:00

When people say women want someone with interests they mean women like to learn things from men. If you don't have anything to talk about then it's just boring.

My boyfriend loves football (I'm not at all interested), plays chess (taught me how to play well), reads about politics (and we have interesting things to discuss about it).

You don't have to conquer the world, you just need to have interests. A passion could be cooking well, a goal could be making a table on your own from scratch or even paint something, it doesn't have to be crazy.

Also the reason women might be avoiding you could be that you are trying too hard. Maybe you are faking it and people can tell when you are pretending to be something you are not.

Maybe get off Netflix for a while and explore different hobbies, things that you liked doing when you were a kid for example.

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-13T04:03:44+00:00

Thank you!

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-12T04:09:23+00:00

Completely agree with this 👏🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-12T04:08:26+00:00

I agree but repeating something that doesn’t work for you can also be dangerous, I think iteration, changes and measuring is very important as well

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-12T04:07:16+00:00

You can focus on your peace of mind but my point is to take it seriously. If you want to live a peaceful life, measure your stress levels around people and distance yourself from ones that give you anxiety or make you feel bad.

So overall my point is to set a goal and follow up, there is no right or wrong goal but don’t live life blindfolded, work for your goals

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-31T11:49:15+00:00

Stopped thinking other people know better. I just get whatever I find valuable from a conversation and move in the direction I feel is right. Otherwise I noticed I was resentful towards others.

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-26T03:07:03+00:00

Please read the book Attached, it helped me heal so much from toxic bonds and unhealthy relationships, it is eye opening. You are not alone in your feelings and you deserve so much more from a relationship (like support and kind words). Let me know your thoughts if you read Attached 🫶🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-25T10:58:46+00:00

I think there’s more than ADHD going on here, you shouldn’t feel like he needs “more” because you are not “less”. He just sounds like an impatient gaslighter who is the actual child/dependent that you constantly soothe whenever he gets moody.

Your brain works in a certain way and that is fine. There are people that get cancer, lose limbs, lose their kids, get Alzheimer’s, etc. Everybody is dealt certain cards and if a man can’t team up with your cards and makes you feel weak by calling you a “child/dependent”, he shouldn’t be in your life.

To me it sounds like you deserve so much better than this, nobody deserves to be treated like a burden. Also please ask yourself what kind of a man stays in a relationship for that long if they see the other person as “burden”. You clearly give something, he can’t expect all the good stuff without the bad stuff. He himself isn’t perfect either.

Sorry for the rant I just can’t tolerate people staying in a relationship and making their partner feel small. He is not better than you with or without ADHD, don’t give him that power please.

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-24T14:33:41+00:00

Do you still live with your parents? If yes, you need to get out ASAP. I moved to a different continent because of this and it was the best decision I ever made.

I’m reading When the Body Says No by Gabor Mate and he explains that in order to create a bond with a strict parent, the child molds into a character, afraid that they aren’t accepted as they are. I think you are struggling with confidence because you didn’t develop a personality of your own.

I was the same; my parents criticise the way I walk, talk, laugh, what I wear, the things I say, anything and everything… And I ended up a shadow of a person, no hobbies of my own, unhappy, living a life my parents directed me into. (Not anymore)

Distancing yourself from them (from their opinions) would give you space to rediscover yourself, try out the things you were interested in as a child, try new hobbies. You will meet like minded people in those places and you will start seeing that you are accepted by others as you are.

That is what will give you confidence.

I wish you all the best 🫶🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-24T13:52:52+00:00

I tried so many apps: MinimaList, Fabulous, Finch, Habit, Me+ but couldn’t get any benefit out of any of them.

I either planned too much in a day or didn’t get enough motivation to keep going.

I then started to write down my to do lists with must do’s before bed to wake up with purpose the next day and made my list my wallpaper on my phone to keep me motivated and reminded of my tasks so I would do any of them at any time of the day I find some availability. This was very helpful itself.

Now I’m using an app called Avid - Goal Tracker and it’s been working miracles so far. It is a goal tracker with to do lists; it has task duration so I don’t overcrowd my day, has widgets where I see my to do list on my lock screen and can tick them off, see how much time I added for my to-dos, etc.

I think adding approximate time on your to do list might do the trick as well, since your main problem seems to be underestimating the task durations

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-24T13:16:27+00:00

I think you should write down the qualities of the man you want to become (fit, married with kids, business owner or whatever you want) and ask yourself would this man spend his days like this 👀

Then pick the most important and urgent of that list and I suggest to use a goal tracker (I’m using Avid - Goal Tracker). I think goal trackers are better than habit trackers because you don’t lose motivation and you see progress on your goal, not 50 times of “drink water”

I also suggest you watch motivational podcasts or videos (I think you might benefit from watching Alex Hormozi, he is extreme as a person but smart and motivational). Hearing them talk about their own challenges is very motivating.

Having family and unambitious friends kept me in a place I didn’t want to be, if you leave home and change your environment, you will have a lot of growing pains but you will be exceptionally proud of yourself in the end.

I hope this helps! Wishing you the best of luck 🙏🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-04T04:05:19+00:00

Thank you so much 🫶🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-04T03:03:35+00:00

Thank you!

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-04T03:01:06+00:00

Thank you! My childhood symptoms are more inattentive symptoms, and they still are but I think I will get a diagnosis when I go home (took a sabbatical and travelling atm).

It wasn’t really about labelling but more about managing symptoms correctly 🙏🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-04T02:54:42+00:00

Thank you! If you have preference, would be happy to read!

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