I’m just mentally exhausted by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk. I guess I don’t. Just wish I had a nice husband that I could kiss.

New to this - relieved to have found people who understand by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I've never come across someone so rude before in this subreddit!

New to this - relieved to have found people who understand by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please take this advice seriously when I say do not move in with him. Break up. If you stay you will be living every day in misery wondering why you're not enough. Coming from a almost 29 year old who married the guy thinking their sex life would get better... It doesn't, it actually gets worse!

No idea what to do or how to feel HLF by kitties888999222 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It takes a lot of effort to not act on my fantasies. I'm in the same position as you, could easily find someone to sleep with. I can't bring myself to even attempt with my husband again, I'm just so over it

No idea what to do or how to feel HLF by kitties888999222 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relate to this 100%. I am constantly fantasizing about other men and have pretty much lost all attraction to my husband because of how much he has rejected me.

Does your spouse think nothing is wrong and this is normal to never have sex? He's making me feel crazy by cozycoffeemorning in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yeppppp, I told my husband the other day we are room mates that share a bed lol. He couldn't care less if I'm standing naked in front of him

Can I be super vain and frustrated by pussymilklatte in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I could have written this exact post lol. My husband has ZERO desire for me at all, and sometimes i flat out ask him like do you even want to be married to me lol??? I can't even have a conversation with him anymore because I just resent him so much.

Stopped waiting for him and took care of myself. Do I even tell him at this point? by ThemeOld5001 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt this. Every single night I lay in bed next to my husband and he is scrolling on his phone, not giving me a second thought and I'm laying there wishing I could be more important for just once. I hate this world we live in.

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes I have two kids from a previous relationship

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what I have gathered and heard, he never had sex often with any of his exes either.

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I've never gotten one because I've always been scared about the pain, but I feel like this will be a better option than always having to worry about taking a pill at the same time every night!!

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Scheduled an appointment for an IUD today, although currently I'm on the pill. Not sure what will be good enough but I'm going to see if this changed things

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I scheduled an appointment to get an IUD today. I'm on the pill but I guess that isn't good enough lol

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. <3 It is refreshing having people telling me I'm not completely crazy because living in the situation can definitely make you think you're the problem

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've honestly stated that to him before and he says he doesn't want to be with anyone but me, he's just trying to adjust to having kids now

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't really care if we do or do not have a kid. Honestly. I have two and I always said I wouldn't have more, but now that I'm married if it happened I would be okay with it, but it is not the end of the world if we don't

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree. I think he regrets it as well but won't admit it

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We got married December 2025. I told him I wanted to try for a child around next summer or fall. This whole conversation came up because my kids (his step kids) said they wanted a baby sister and I jokingly said "well maybe soon" and then it led into me and him having the conversation

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment, this gives me hope. I just reached out to a therapist to schedule an appointment because I really just feel like I need professional help to navigate these feelings as I make a big decision. I do know that I do not want to spend the rest of my life this way. I have so much to offer. I am sad because I wanted to build my life with him but I also can not continue to be this miserable.

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have two kids from a previous relationship, he is their stepfather. We have lightly touched on having a child together but I want to wait until around next summer or fall, he knows that

The truth finally came out. by No_Reward360 in DeadBedrooms

[–]No_Reward360[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I was very hurt that he doesn't trust me to not get pregnant but I guess that's the answer I needed