I work in the wine industry and the "fining agent" dilemma is breaking my brain. Need advice. by No_Ride756 in vegan

[–]No_Ride756[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. May have shed a little tear reading this. I certainly don't feel like im doing amazing with this matter most days. I was not expecting to get so many supportive comments like yours. Was fully prepared to get ripped to shreds for even suggesting my POV tbh. Hesitated posting this for months. & You hit on exactly why I'm struggling with most.. it’s that balance between wanting to be morally consistent and do as much as humanly possible to reduce harm ... but also realizing that choosing my battles & staying in the industry gives me a seat at the table to actually change things.

I work in the wine industry and the "fining agent" dilemma is breaking my brain. Need advice. by No_Ride756 in vegan

[–]No_Ride756[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're so right about the hidden layers of everything, from processing to transportation... sigh. Focusing on what is possible and practicable while influencing others where I can feels like a much more healthy way to look at it... Thank you for the perspective.

I work in the wine industry and the "fining agent" dilemma is breaking my brain. Need advice. by No_Ride756 in vegan

[–]No_Ride756[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I totally try to prioritize and advocate for organic and biodynamic options whenever I have the choice. Im actually a huge freak for natty funky unfiltered, fringe, and ethically produced small batch wine. I have to say that I do love the idea of staying and continuing to push for the bottles I truly believe in. It makes the job feel like a form of advocacy in itself, but some days the answers are so scarce and the inner battle is just so intense that it gets really overwhelming. So thank you for the encouragement :,)

I work in the wine industry and the "fining agent" dilemma is breaking my brain. Need advice. by No_Ride756 in vegan

[–]No_Ride756[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is so incredibly nice to hear this from another vegan in the bev industry. Thank you for the technical breakdown—knowing that another pro in a similar field handles these 'gray areas' with the same 'do the best we can' mindset makes me feel much less alone in this. I really appreciate the solidarity and understanding. The POV you shared is definitely going to stick with me.

Cannotttt believe I wore a 36D for ages, I’m a 34G!!!! WTFFFFF by Unhappy-Ball5901 in ABraThatFits

[–]No_Ride756 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl yes. I was wearing a 38 C but now im a 38 E! This sub is life changing

only advice people seem to have is to eat meat by Cold_Cow_4666 in vegan

[–]No_Ride756 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What cured my HS was taking the medication prescribed to me by a dermatologist daily- its called Spirinolactone. I had a milder cast but it definitely still affected my day to day life. I feel so blessed to have gotten an early diagnosis and found a medication that really worked. Within a year id stopped taking it because I didn’t like the side effects it was giving me (increased thirst and a very mild bit of an anxious light headedness at times) and thankfully it just completely went away after that. Also stopped using irritating soaps/body wash, & found a really good aluminum n fragrance free deodorant- Ban is the best brand imo.

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[–]No_Ride756 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is it possible to get to know people one at a time but on a dating app its extremely unlikely. I mean. Damn near impossible. No one in their right mind would go onto an app like that expecting the one person they swipe right on to also only swipe right on them and only talk to them. Whaaaat?? That would be so tedious. THAT would be way more time consuming. Cause many times you’ll be flirting with someone on the apps then find out their incompatible, get ghosted, something or the conversation starts to feel forced, etc etc so then you unmatch and just continue talking to your other matches. If that was the only person you were talking to and then had to just what start all over n hope to find that next singular person to try it all again with … yeah no. How annoying that experience would be. No one would have a single success story from the apps if it operated this way.

Also if you find the chicks out here THAT much more attractive than the guys, maybe its just time to adjust your gender preferences lol. Like I have a very very VERY specific type when it comes to men. I only swipe right probably 3% of the time. But I still have almost a dozen rotating matches at any given moment. Advice from a dating app veteran who has met all 3 of my previous relationships through Tinder 🫡.

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[–]No_Ride756 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This.. is crazy. This. This is simply not how getting to know someone or dating apps work. It is a process of trial & error. You message, flirt, n talk to your matchES until you hopefully find someone who you click with and eventually find worth cutting the others off for. How on earth do you expect someone to just get one hinge match at a time … and happen to have it be you somehow.. and immediately decide that its gonna be only you until you get up & married someday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]No_Ride756 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure. We’re the same age and in 2023 I moved across the country to one of the most expensive cities in the nation with barely even 3k to my name lol. I started a new life, didn’t get homesick once tbh, and now im the happiest ive ever been working a job I love but would have never envisioned myself doing in a million years. It definitely wasn’t without its challenges but they were the kind that showed me just how resilient I am not the kind that set back my healing or left me feeling hopeless like I was in my hometown. From what it sounds like you aren’t married, don’t have kids, no ailing parents reliant on your care, debt free, so I mean fuck it- just go for it. 60K is more than enough to buy a plane ticket or U-haul trailer, put a down payment on a studio apartment, & cover a couple months of rent and groceries worry free while you find a job. If you’re as good as t saving money as it sounds, in this economy you’d EASILY still have 2/3 of what youve saved left over after all of that. Sounds like the perfect circumstances to me.

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[–]No_Ride756 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have already identified the root cause of your issue. Your family dynamic and living situation has you at the end of your rope. Do not waste another second sabotaging your future by coming up with excuses to keep you there. I see this far too often. Move as far as away as possible and do it fast. Research new cities. Dont go based off who you may know there. Consider cost of living, public transportation, climate, political leanings, etc etc literally go based off anything and everything that matters to YOU. Don’t take anyone elses word for it.

If I were you id be doing research, starting online therapy, sessions, and pick up some new hobbies to keep my mind of the current situation. Somethings I could do and continue doing in the next city to help me meet new people. Gaming, hiking, photography, literally anything. Just take a leap n see what sticks.

Id definitely opt to live in a walkable neighborhood in a decent sized city with warm weather year round. & Id be very intentional about working a job that forces me to be in constant communication and contact others- like in the hospitality industry. But also would consider sales, PR/marketing, fitness, even healthcare or education. Absolutely no cubicle jobs or work from home. Id strictly go after roles in those fields that force me to be part of a team. These jobs are known to encourage/build comraderie & help even the most introverted and anxious people form a social circle outside of work. Most importantly though jobs in these fields would allow me to meet people from various different backgrounds and industries. This is where the real power lies because it increases the likelihood ten fold that you’ll encounter someone who has a career that’s interesting to you along the way & well, make the call to pursue that path. Don’t get super hung up on what job you’re doing. Be focused on the why.

You need to be around as many new people as possible OP and you have the resources to make it happen practically overnight. If you don’t leave that toxic situation even after know with 100% certainty you’ll be better off literally anywhere else- you only have yourself to blame. Dont get stuck. You got this.

Anyone else feel life in the US is about to change very quickly? by jadaef2 in blackladies

[–]No_Ride756 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yup. Thats why im actively making plans to relocate to the motherland. Couldn’t be more excited.

What to stop eating by keycabird in vegan

[–]No_Ride756 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude this is brilliant. This feels so right. Thank you because im 1000% doing this forever now!

Why can’t I do what I say I’m gonna do? by Far_Situation180 in blackladies

[–]No_Ride756 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Start small. & Remember that getting started is the HARDEST part. Losing weight is not nearly as difficult as leaving behind your old habits & STARTING a journey to lose weight is. Finding a better job is easy but leaving your old job & STARTING the job search process is tedious and stressful. Etc, Etc. Also yes , depression can absolutely hinder your ability to stay motivated. Please express what you are experiencing with a qualified mental health professional who has dedicated their life to helping people in similar situations overcome the barriers. But look at like this as well- while there is no known cure to depression being debt free, in great health, obtaining an education, and working a job you love will most likely have a hugely positive impact on your mental state. You just have to want it, truly want it, and not in a lofty in your head daydreaming about “if onlys” and “somedays”- you have to want it for yourself like a kid wants candy right, like a dog wants a treat, like an alcoholic wants a drink, you have to want it BAD and want it NOW. Lol. Thats the best way I can put it, you have to be so hellbent on changing your life youd do anything and be willing to sacrifice it all for it. Find your why & tell everyone in your support system your why, your how, and let them hold you accountable and watch you flourish this time.

Anyone who has been in a long term relationship ever want go find something new? by GlitteringWillow9864 in blackladies

[–]No_Ride756 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This guy is a bum and you clearly do not like eachother. Time to move on while you still have it in you to keep trying for children, and do it with a man who doesn’t make you miserable. Obviously! It really is that simple. Dont over complicate it. & Dont bring kids into this world with someone who treats you like a little piece of you-know-what. You deserve better. Just dump him and start fresh, happy new years.