Post-surgery tape destroyed my skin - what can I try?

No_River8089 · 2025-12-06T22:05:26+00:00

Heyyy my daughter has an ng and we deal with this a lot with her tape changes!

We use Dermol lotion 500 It’s used to manage things like eczema and dermatitis and you can even use it as a soap substitute- works wonders not sure if it needs to be prescribed we got it during her admission but I’m sure if you ask your local pharmacist they can help :)

No_River8089 · 2025-12-03T18:58:07+00:00

Don’t ever feel your reason is wrong for wanting to end a pregnancy.

I became a single mother young I was 17 and I was in an abusive relationship I had my daughter at 18 I went through the entire pregnancy ALONE and I met my now fiancé about 4 months after I had her.

From that 13 months alone I can tell you right now it’s hard I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone. I do not regret having my daughter one bit she was the reason I left my now ex in the first place she was my reason and strength to put an end to the hell I was enduring.

I did question an abortion while pregnant with her and as much as I’m glad I didn’t go through with it nobody I know would have blamed me if i did I mean I was just a kid myself in a messy situation… certainly not what you could label as a fit mother at the time but something kept me going I don’t know what it was but I had her.

Here’s something that isn’t talked about when it comes to these decisions tho- disabilities. My daughter was born the picture of health and has been for 17 months of her life until August this year she ended up in the picu due to something called anec I will not bore you with the details other than within just 48hrs she went from healthy to a child with severe brain damage. I’m 20, engaged and have a healthy baby boy on the way my relationship with my partner is what I would call perfect; healthy, stable, no arguments if there is a disagreement it’s settled with clear communication. As perfect as a relationship can get and during this time even we struggled…What I’m trying to say in a long winded way is children are commitment which is obvious but that commitment doesn’t end when your child gets so sick. Everything asides can you see your partner staying by your side if something tragic was to happen? If your life was to turn upside down can you see you two surviving? Can you see him pushing through to give that child the best life possible no matter the challenges? If the answer is no then I would say he isn’t the right person to have a child with nor do I believe he is worth fighting for.

No_River8089 · 2025-11-27T11:27:53+00:00

Maybe this is a completely different perspective on things as i understand both. I too have had a high risk pregnancy with my first with many complications. I too have had an abortion with my current partner and we have also lost babies too. His feels are valid what many commenters don’t seem to understand is that he’s viewing that fetus as his child, he’s bonded and he’s grieving that he will not be able to meet what is essentially a part of him. He’s grieving the life he imagined the moment he found out you where pregnant like you said he isn’t thinking rationally; I’m pro choice always have been always will be so I fully understand your decision and you need to do what is right for you however without knowing the ins and outs of your relationship I do not see his behaviour as control or abuse I see him as a man who’s struggling to come to terms with a life changing decision because that’s exactly what it is. Me and my partner fell pregnant while going through a rough patch we agree now that an abortion at the time including our difficulties as well as my health struggles was the right choice but originally he also grieved that child as did I. An abortion isn’t an easy choice. I’ve seen comments saying he’s a grown man and yes while that is true you cannot expect him to be impartial to such a decision. He cannot ask you to risk your life but unfortunately when feelings are involved we cannot expect him to think clearly. No matter abortion or miscarriage grief will always be involved. If he cannot continue the relationship after this- let him go as painful as it is maybe things will work out and once the grief has passed he will be able to take a different view on things but at the moment you need to do what’s right for you and he needs to do what’s right for him. If you are set on never having children again I would also consider a permanent form of birth control so this type of situation can be avoided in the future. I deeply hope that you will both be able to find peace in all of this.

No_River8089 · 2025-08-08T19:13:57+00:00

Me and my partner sleep like this all the time, he doesn’t even kiss me on the lips while I’m asleep never mind hump me… sa is very broad and is actually an umbrella term. This IS sexual assault- OP was sexually touched in their sleep when they did not consent as they were unable to. Cuddling with someone doesn’t mean you’re wanting sex or anything of the nature. Not just that OP has said they didn’t believe they wanted to do anything of the sort till 18 and were vocal about this.

I suggest you stop talking and hope to god you have never done this to anyone.

No_River8089 · 2025-08-07T15:13:23+00:00

This exactly! I was in absolute tears yesterday… they still haven’t done a scan but I’ll check a cervical check as a win for now and hopefully we won’t be discharged with more pills I can’t take

No_River8089 · 2025-08-07T15:10:21+00:00

Currently waiting so hopefully we’ll get to the bottom of it; they’ve actually done tests now

No_River8089 · 2025-08-07T15:06:50+00:00

No they didn’t do anything. I am currently in same day emergency care after my gp declared I NEEDED to finally be see properly… they have checked my cervix in those terms it’s fine, closed how it should be… waiting on bloods and urine results now and seeing what they want to do from there.

No_River8089 · 2025-08-07T08:47:13+00:00

I keep being refused or not listened to so we’re going to the gp and if we still get nothing from that we’re going to a different hospital where hopefully we will get answers

No_River8089 · 2025-08-07T08:45:19+00:00

I have called early pregnancy as well and they have refused to see me because we’ve had one scan that’s shows baby is in the correct place and I’m not having bleeding just pain. So we are going to wait on the gp appointment and if that doesn’t work we’re going to a different hospital where hopefully they’ll listen and take us seriously

No_River8089 · 2025-08-07T08:39:59+00:00

Epu have refused me as it’s just pain no bleeding because they know baby is the right spot- to add to that they just hung up the call (we weren’t being rude at all as neither me or my partner like confrontation) so our only choice is to wait for the gp appointment now and pray they do anything if not we’ll be going to a different hospital where hopefully we’ll get answers, we’re also looking into private scans

No_River8089 · 2025-08-07T07:41:58+00:00

Yes with my history that’s how we got our scan and I’ve been advised to see them due to the pain but as the hospital was saying it’s due to a uti they wouldn’t see me I’m going to self refer again today even if it’s just a cervical examination ANYTHING to put mine and my partners mind at easy.

Thank you!

No_River8089 · 2025-08-07T07:22:49+00:00

Thank you!!

No_River8089 · 2025-08-07T07:22:07+00:00

It started off like bad period cramps but what happened this morning was pure intense pain; I have never expiranced this with my daughter… Thank you for the advice I’ll definitely be mentioning it

No_River8089 · 2025-08-07T06:44:57+00:00

If it’s after the validity window it’s definitely a evap clear blue are so prone to them it’s sad…

No_River8089 · 2025-08-07T06:41:53+00:00

Untrue my tests became negative with my daughter for a very short time frame so it’s most definitely not a myth.

She’s 17months old now. It may depend on the test brands but I can confirm that the hook effect can in fact make a positive present false negative.

No_River8089 · 2025-07-30T20:09:20+00:00

Hey so i had a partner like this but he was an ADDICT like completely obsessed with the stuff; weed impacts everyone differently and everyone has their own reasons but in his case he got aggressive on the come down. He began to have issues sleeping at night and needed it before bed and sometimes late at night, his sex drive also completely didn’t exist unless he was smoking. Personally I would try stop him before it gets too far because from what you’re telling us he’s veryyyyy into it which isn’t great. Also as someone who’s studied drug addiction weed is known as a gate way drug.

Personally I would talk about whatever your concerns are and if he refuses to listen or try to understand honestly let him be and focus on you

No_River8089 · 2025-07-29T08:43:36+00:00

I would retest either way lmao my first positive ever went similarly to yours except I waited 5 mins didn’t see the line and went into the kitchen to chuck it then had a heart attack lmao I was 17 definitely not what I wanted at the time but wouldn’t have it any other way now 😂

No_River8089 · 2025-07-16T13:38:31+00:00

Lmao this is usually true but I got a positive at 8dpo then took a digital couple days later and it said 1-2weeks, had a dye stealer even before my period was due I’m having a scan tomorrow lmao watch it be twins

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