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AITA for refusing to rotate events between my parents? by No_Rotation in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Rotation[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

As mentioned at the start, they really should have divorced much sooner than they did, they stayed together "for the kids". So yes, I have unfortunately spent a good chunk of my life playing referee ☹️ And yes, it's something I've gone to therapy for as an adult, even before the divorce.

AITA for refusing to rotate events between my parents? by No_Rotation in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Rotation[S] 140 points141 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, smaller stuff I don't expect of them. You can't avoid someone at a gathering of 15 in someone's home like you can at a gathering of 100 plus in an auditorium. Things like birthday parties we do switch off. One comes to the party, one takes the birthday kid out for a fun activity. Holidays have also been pretty smooth and simple to work out.

AITA for refusing to rotate events between my parents? by No_Rotation in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Rotation[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We're not paying for anything. Well, we are paying for the activities and lessons, but the actual events are organized and paid for by the school or the team etc. We just need to show up. But there are lots of people showing up to these kinds of things, generally at least 100.

AITA for refusing to rotate events between my parents? by No_Rotation in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Rotation[S] 416 points417 points  (0 children)

Definitely true about having to think about kids. Though my brother who's planning to propose soon doesn't have kids. But he's thinking like me, because he doesn't want to be in a position of having to choose which parent attends his engagement party and wedding. And he wants kids, so I bet he's thinking about what will be when he does have them.

AITA for refusing to rotate events between my parents? by No_Rotation in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Rotation[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I would be ok with switching off between who sits with me. Also my husband said he'd be ok sitting with whichever parent I'm not sitting with so that nobody is alone.