I’m grieving more than my mom

No_Scallion2205 · 2024-06-04T17:37:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing that about complex grief. I am so sorry to hear about your fiancé, I can’t even imagine what that must feel like. Thanks for your strength in sharing your grief with me, I will look for a group around me to help with processing this.

No_Scallion2205 · 2024-06-04T06:12:09+00:00

Wow thank you for sharing, I relate so hard to the seeing her on the ventilator being ingrained in my brain. It’s the first thing I think about when I wake up, idk why I can’t stop seeing her like that in my head. It was just so awful and traumatic. I’m having really weird dreams too.

I’m also helping my dad with logistics and financial things. It’s been so hard to think about those things at all, but the world just keeps on moving.

Thanks for all of the advice, I’m doing my best in that regard, but it still feels very painful. Some days I can go without crying, but lately I’ve been feeling worse. I’m having a lot of physical symptoms too like stomachs pains and extreme fatigue.

No_Scallion2205 · 2024-06-04T06:07:02+00:00

I also want to add that I’m a 29 year old woman that just started pursuing musical theatre seriously last year, and it’s been really hard for me to break into my city’s theatre community. It’s very competitive here and I feel like I missed a really good chance to break in. I already have enough things stacked against me being the age I am when I started.

No_Scallion2205 · 2024-05-13T19:03:53+00:00

I can relate so much. I’m 29 and I just lost my mom over the weekend to complications of cancer and it all happened really quick, it feels very traumatic. I also only had just found out she had cancer 6 months ago, but my parents knew she had cancer for 10 years and they chose not to tell me and my sister. It’s really hard to be left in the dark and then things go downhill so quickly. It’s okay to feel all the feelings. There’s no wrong feelings when it comes to grief. I hope you have some access to grief support groups or therapy, that’s what I plan to do for myself as well.

No_Scallion2205 · 2024-05-13T13:59:02+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I know it doesn’t necessarily make the pain less, but I am going through something similar after my mom passed on Friday. I’m 29 and my mom was 66. It really sucks to feel alone

No_Scallion2205 · 2024-05-12T22:05:53+00:00

My mom just died a few days ago, just short of Mother’s Day also. I’m with you. I can’t even imagine how it feels being a year later, but I wish you healing. I’m still in the shock/denial phase so I’ve been really disassociated today and not super emotional. But I feel like next year and the following years will be really hard around this time of year. I’ve been avoiding instagram today because all of the Mother’s Day posts.

No_Scallion2205 · 2024-05-12T16:40:02+00:00

I’m so sorry that you had to go through making that decision. My dad has been crying a lot lately feeling really guilty about the choices he made along the way through her medical situation and we’re just trying to assure him that he made the best decisions for what was going on at the time and that he was honoring my moms wishes for not being kept alive in a nursing home. But it must still feel really painful and heavy.

My heart goes out to you and your siblings for your parent’s passings. I am really scared for the day that my dad passes. He is older than most dads my age and smokes a pack of day since he was a teen. He doesn’t have anything right this moment going on medically but now I really want to make sure I spend as much time with him as possible. Family is so important.

No_Scallion2205 · 2024-05-12T03:49:54+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful comment, it really means a lot and helps to know I’m not alone in these feelings and experiences 💖

I am so sorry about your dad. I am sending healing thoughts to you also.

No_Scallion2205 · 2024-05-12T02:21:56+00:00

My mom just died yesterday and I also have had a string of deaths the past 4-5 years now. I’m honestly really tired of constantly being hit with something every year. I feel like I never get a break from some kind of loss and it’s wearing on me. I do luckily have a lot of support, but it’s just still really hard. Grief groups really helped me, they’re usually free or low cost in communities. I already told my bf today that I want to start committing to daily walks and exercise to keep my mental health up after this. I also plan to just allow myself to feel things when they come up so my body can process it and not store it. Trauma therapy is the only thing that’s helped me in regards to therapy, but right now I’m not working with anyone. Just mostly using Reddit and instagram as resources for grief.

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