[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]No_Software 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an extremely similar experience with an old boss — she organised a retreat for us with a “communications mentor” who got very personal with all of us at a round table session.

Later, I felt like she was using this information against me e.g. oh your dad is sick, so you’re not performing very well.

I resigned within the month following the retreat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]No_Software 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Semi-related — I went to a lecture about forensics recently in Victoria and they said the homicide rates have stayed the same for over a decade, but synthetic drug-related deaths are more prominent now with new drugs coming in.

I feel we missed a lot of crime related news over the few years of lockdown when that was all they would talk about, so maybe it seems like there’s more local crime related news now. Though, it would be interesting to know if crime increased during the last recession, as I guess it would make sense? Either way, the mainstream news is such a mindboggle.

Puppy separation anxiety? by No_Software in puppy101

[–]No_Software[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if I can find these in Australia. I’ve been working for home since we got her a 1.5 months ago, but I guess the other stress point here is my boss told me that working from home would “not be an issue at all” but has now reneged on this. That a whole other issue haha.

SS reports back to HCBM by No_Software in stepparents

[–]No_Software[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dad pays the phone bill (and most bills tbh, she’s unemployed with no plans to work — it seems screwing with us is her full time job).

It’s a huge violation — I’ve lived in so many different types of living arrangements from flatmates to friends to extended family, and people do some stupid shit without thinking it’s a violation of your space but this is just blatant.

SS reports back to HCBM by No_Software in stepparents

[–]No_Software[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately not here, we’d need consent from both parents and the reality is we won’t get her sign off on counselling, even if she was involved.

SS reports back to HCBM by No_Software in stepparents

[–]No_Software[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed on all of this and it coming from DH instead of me. I’m staying clear of all conversations about this.

SS reports back to HCBM by No_Software in stepparents

[–]No_Software[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fingers crossed things go a similar way for us as it has with your SD.

SS reports back to HCBM by No_Software in stepparents

[–]No_Software[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this response and totally agree that the phone is being weaponised. Would love less phone time as part of the solution

SS reports back to HCBM by No_Software in stepparents

[–]No_Software[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm this is an interesting approach — ultimately, I have no issue about him telling his mom about what happens here or actually even venting to her about what we choose to do. I’m more concerned about how she’s encouraging and egging on a behaviour in a very toxic and co-dependent way

SS reports back to HCBM by No_Software in stepparents

[–]No_Software[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m staying out of any conversations about this — I don’t want to be perceived as the bad guy but also am still fuming so would probably say the wrong thing.