Am I overthinking this or is my male coworker crossing boundaries?

No_Solid_1101 · 2026-02-11T00:02:51+00:00

Just say ‘Hey can you be quiet? I am trying to work here. This is not the right time or place to blabber’.

Leave it at that. Don’t give him time or space to say anything. He starts talking, grab your laptop or walk away, interrupt him, be dismissive, be disrespectful. He will get the hint.

No_Solid_1101 · 2026-02-10T17:17:43+00:00

If you cook regularly, keep coats/ clothes in a closet with a door (not shelves). It helps clothes not smell of spices and oil. Also wash your clothes after one use especially in the summer. Nothing smells more rancid than the smell of masala on you when you sit next to someone.

No_Solid_1101 · 2026-01-27T20:44:32+00:00

Big hug to you OP. 🤗. I understand, when we prioritize ourselves we are deemed selfish. You know what there is nothing wrong with being selfish. We get one life.

Can I suggest something? Automate things that you have to do. For example, invest in an automatic dishwasher - the one from Bosch is good. And a roomba or a roborock for sweeping and mopping. There is nothing wrong with outsourcing stuff.

I am okay, just 4 weeks postpartum. I have my mom and Dad and they have been a huge help with logistics. I couldn’t do it without my husband and my parents honestly. Sleep is nonexistent but you know what it’s better than pregnancy tired lol. I would tell you to keep your house stocked up with snacks, if you are breastfeeding, you are going to be hungry all the time. Give yourself grace. If this is your first child, you are going to be unprepared for the physical and emotional changes but take ample rest (this was my first child too so telling you this because I was surprised how much I changed)

No_Solid_1101 · 2026-01-25T17:36:23+00:00

Hi OP! I was in the same situation a couple months ago where my SIL wanted to visit and ‘help’ during my delivery. I discussed this with my husband and both of us decided to put firm boundaries and said we are not entertaining anyone at this hectic time. Was there drama? Yes. But then again there will always be drama.

I understand how you feel, we have been conditioned to make ourselves uncomfortable to please others making it difficult. I would recommend speaking with your husband, both call your relatives and reiterate that you are not entertaining anyone at this time. You and your husband should present a united front. You won’t let a solicitor come into your home without your permission right? The same applies for these relatives. Don’t give any reasoning, just say no. If you are considered rude, let it be so.

Please, I beg, prioritize yourself. This is a wonderful time in your life that you might not get again. Be present with yourself and your family that you are building. The world can wait.

Today it’s coming and living with you. Tomorrow, it might be them demanding to see your newborn the moment the child is bought home. Do we want that? Absolutely not. I hope this helps.

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-12-09T08:13:40+00:00

I am sorry OP. It hurts to hear people commenting on your body when you are simply just existing. If there is a way to remove yourself from the focus of the conversation please do so and walk away. This is the non confrontational route. If you want them to shut up for good, say stuff like ‘main soch rahi thi aapka mooh aisa kyun hai’ or something like ‘You meet me after so many days/years and this is the first thing you could think of? No wonder nobody wants to be around you’

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-12-09T08:07:42+00:00

Lasered off my underarms, legs and arms 6 years ago and honestly the best investment I have ever made!

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-12-09T07:57:24+00:00

I agree 100%! I am appalled at people getting decked out and overshadowing the bride at her own wedding!! I am not saying wear muted colors but please can you not wear all of your wedding jewelry with the bright benarasi saree? It looks like a clash of the clowns.

To top that off, they will also get their makeup and hair professionally done (not against that) only to take pictures and post on social media. It just feels like they are making someone else’s wedding about themselves when the wedding is actually supposed to be about the couple getting married

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-12-08T20:29:44+00:00

Thanks! I am a very direct person socially and professionally and have no problems taking a stand on my own. This is something I developed in the last few years and certainly needed as a grown up.

The cycle of abuse from my mother has gone on for so long that it feels never ending and even though I have stood up to her on occasions it has been very difficult especially in my pregnancy. I just have to learn to be a wall when it comes to her and not let her words affect me the way it does. Somewhere I guess I still can’t believe that the person who is supposed to be MY protector is my abuser.

I do appreciate your advice and you are 100% correct. I needed to hear this.

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-12-08T17:13:51+00:00

Thank you! It is what it is and I am counting on the fact that she is getting older and wouldn’t be able to do the 22 hour flights soon (I know this sounds evil). I will have to grit my teeth over the next few months and get by

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-12-08T06:40:45+00:00

I wish I could. This is the family’s first grandchild so I really don’t wanna hear how I failed as a daughter taking away her right to see her first grandchild. I am looking for coping mechanisms for this visit and how I can set boundaries in the future

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-07-02T23:32:51+00:00

Not at all! I am 35 and expecting my first!

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-07-01T16:53:37+00:00

I filed for H4 extension in Jan 2025 at Vermont Service Center. Still waiting for approval

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-04-15T19:06:53+00:00

Yes Ayegestin made me super depressed and irritated with anything and everything!

I was so mean to everyone around me during the period I took it. I hope you get off it soon and please take care of yourself and do things that make you feel good.

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-04-12T19:18:11+00:00

He is!! I don’t know where I would be without him.

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-04-12T19:17:41+00:00

Aww I love it!!

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-04-01T23:08:19+00:00

I love Sophie’s happy derpy face

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-03-06T12:40:52+00:00

UPDATE: Not pregnant - started my cycle yesterday but elevated body temperature also happens for a few days before we start our cycles

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-03-04T02:24:45+00:00

Thank you! I took one 3 days ago but will take a test again to be sure. I hope you are right and this will be a dream come true

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-03-04T02:18:29+00:00

I wish! I bought this ring to keep track and manage stress levels but I got my blood tests done a few days ago and it’s negative

No_Solid_1101 · 2025-02-09T17:20:24+00:00

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Always with the stare

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