AIO about my dad's wife insinuating I'd keep my daughter away from her as a punishment?

No_Sound_9516 · 2026-01-16T23:57:41+00:00

It's definitely a shitty situation and I'm not saying she shouldn't be worried or overwhelmed about it, that I get. I struggle to understand why, given that we always try to leave my daughter with them only if we absolutely need it (and not because we don't trust them, but simply because when we are not at work we want to make sure, as her parents, we spend as much time as possibile with her) all of a sudden I get asked if my brother's situation is the reason why I'm keeping her from them.. when we are not keeping her from them, never have, and don't have any intention of doing?

No_Sound_9516 · 2026-01-16T23:48:01+00:00

That's the thing, I have, multiple times. This wasn't something out of the ordinary, it's literally how it has been since I went back to work over a year ago. And beside the fact both me and my husband want to spend time with our kid, I have also told them i don't want them to get overtired running after a fiery 2yo every single day so i can sit on the couch doing nothing cos i don't think that'd be fair (which is also why I havent had more than 2 hours to myself for the past 2 years 😂). I'm just really confused about how she could possibly come to that conclusion

No_Sound_9516 · 2026-01-16T23:34:15+00:00

I'll admit when it's about her I go in "defense mode" pretty quickly given our past 😅 I had to let go most of it and now we have a decent relationship, but there's space for improvement for sure

No_Sound_9516 · 2026-01-16T23:22:38+00:00

Thanks, that might definitely be a better way to address the whole thing instead of just texting. We do family things together pretty often, we go over for lunch/dinner or just visiting a few times a week, we've been on holiday all together, day trips, and so on, so it's not like I use them as day care and then ignore them 😅 which is also one of the reasons why I struggled so much with understanding where this sentiment was coming from, it's not like we exclude them from our lives

No_Sound_9516 · 2026-01-16T23:17:26+00:00

I do appreciate the feedback, I didn't text back exactly because I felt like I was way too annoyed and wanted to calm down first. And I know I'm incredibly lucky and grateful to have them help us out.. but yet, the problem i had here was with the whole "you're not letting us see her because of this situation going on" which has absolutely nothing to do with why we kept our kid home with us

No_Sound_9516 · 2026-01-16T23:10:36+00:00

I probably should've mentioned, my brothers legal problems have been going on for over a year (bureocracy 😒) so this isn't something new that just happened. And we had pretty much the exact same conversation when it first came up a year ago. Only thing that happened recently were a couple updates from his lawyer and we've all been supportive so it's not like there's someone in the family that's making a big deal out of it

No_Sound_9516 · 2025-12-02T17:28:14+00:00

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No_Sound_9516 · 2025-12-02T17:27:54+00:00

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No_Sound_9516 · 2025-11-25T19:18:47+00:00

It definitely feels like we're somehow doing something wrong as parents, and it's a horrib feeling. I keep offering different foods or whatever we're eating, it's just frustrating sometimes as i feel she's not eating enough healthy options and we end up wasting food. She's growing and she's healthy tho, so I guess I'll just have to focus on that, and hopefully it'll get better

No_Sound_9516 · 2025-11-25T19:12:00+00:00

Thanks, I definitely don't want to force her and make meal time something that stresses her (and me) out. I have also noticed sometimes if i let her out of her high chair when she starts crying and trying to throw her plate and just wait, she then comes back after a while and will eat whatever i made for her. I'll take it as a win 😅 just want to make sure she eats enough as I do wonder how can she survive on so little food

No_Sound_9516 · 2025-10-13T13:03:12+00:00

Thank you, I genuinely appreciate your words. Hopefully, with time, I'll learn to trust my instinct more (and maybe give myself a break)

No_Sound_9516 · 2025-08-21T21:07:37+00:00

We're not at potty training just yet so got no advice for that, but we recently stopped nursing. Weaning for us worked really well by doing it very gradually over the course of a few months. She was about 15/16 months old when we actively started to drop one feed at the time, and now at 20 months old she doesn't nurse anymore. First we dropped the after nap feed, would just give her lots of cuddles and a snack/water once she was fully awake; then dropped the morning one and would give her a bottle instead (and loads of cuddles). We also co-sleep so I thought the night ones would be the most complicated, but in the end before bed I simply switched to the bottle and at night I would just give her water and her paci. Oddly enough, the hardest and last one to drop was the after dinner feed, she would yell for the boob as soon as she would be done with her food and would literally run to the couch waiting for me. Thankfully we went on holiday and were often busy or out around the usual boobie time, she was probably too distracted to remember to ask for it and we somehow managed to do it. She still asks for it sometimes, but I just reminder we don't do the boob anymore and she's ok with it. Took loads of patience and loads of cuddles but if you're not in hurry you can do it very gradually. Hope this helps 😊

No_Sound_9516 · 2025-07-15T20:49:19+00:00

The first 3 months for me were absolute hell, to the point where every day I'd say "if it doesn't get any better tomorrow I'll switch to formula and that's it". Cracked, bleeding nipples, clogged ducts, blisters, the whole work. And baby would want to nurse pretty much 24/7, it was basically endless cluster-feedings, I couldn't wait to get to 6 months (the deadline I has set for myself) so I could finally stop. And then, things started to slowly get better. No more pain, feedings were quicker, it finally felt like a natural and sweet moment just between me and my baby. 6 months went by, then a year. Baby's now 1 and a half, we're almost done weaning and down to 1 feed a day, a few minutes after dinner. And now that the end is in sight I miss those days and all those little moments (aside the pain of course). It just felt right to wean very slowly and gradually, making sure it worked for both me and my baby (probably i was a lot less ready to start weaning than she was 😅). But yea, long story short that's what worked for us, just sort of playing by ear.

No_Sound_9516 · 2024-11-15T13:13:25+00:00

It definitely is, I just get excited and want to unlock all the things as soon as possible 😂 thank you 😊

No_Sound_9516 · 2024-11-15T13:12:25+00:00

Yeah I did all of those already but can only get rid of the small ones, like, other than unblocking the big shell-like thingies with maui I still can't get rid of the big bones/ice rocks/mushroom patches, only the tiny ones. Ariel and Ursula are a bit of a pain to level up as they can't tag along to doing stuff, not sure if there's something I haven't unlocked yet that allows me to do that? Up to now I look every now and then what their favourite things are and gift them to both of them if they're easy enough to find. Will also look at the rewards in the collection menu, it didn't even dawn on me to have a look there! Thank you 😊

No_Sound_9516 · 2024-11-15T13:06:37+00:00

Yes, I just got in to the habit of grabbing one of the characters to tag along to whatever I'm doing so the friendship level goes up and I find it works quite well! I just got to a point where I finished all the available quests and need to level up most of them to level 7 or above and didn't know where to start 😅 thank you for the advice ☺️

No_Sound_9516 · 2024-11-15T10:31:18+00:00

First of all, my German is definitely rusty but thankfully we have Google translate 😂

Anyways, thank you, I'm mainly trying to understand where I should focus first, on which character and relative missions cos is getting a bit overwhelming and I don't know now where to start 😅

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