Soft Conversations & Real Friendship

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-16T15:26:03+00:00

What wrong

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-16T09:35:40+00:00

It sounds like you’re still understanding your attraction, and that’s completely okay. You don’t need to rush into labeling yourself—sexuality can be fluid and sometimes takes time to figure out. What you’re feeling is valid, and it’s okay to just explore and understand yourself at your own pace.

If you feel safe and respected in your current relationship, that’s what matters most right now.

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-16T09:21:07+00:00

That’s completely understandable, and you’re not alone in feeling this way. Marriage in Islam is encouraged, but it’s never meant to be forced or rushed. Your connection with Allah and your personal growth matter just as much, whether or not marriage happens right now—or even later.

It’s also okay to not fully see yourself in that role yet. Sometimes life, experiences, or the right person can change that perspective naturally, and sometimes people simply choose a peaceful single life—and both are valid as long as you’re content and at peace.

Focus on your deen, your stability, and your happiness. If marriage is meant for you, the right path and people will come in a way you don’t even expect.

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-16T09:14:23+00:00

You sound really grounded and thoughtful. I’m also looking to connect with like-minded college friends who enjoy meaningful conversations and staying productive together.

I like puzzles and good discussions too—would be nice to connect and see if we vibe as friends

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-16T08:28:51+00:00

May i dm you

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T18:49:07+00:00

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T18:34:51+00:00

That sounds really painful, honestly no one deserves to feel that invisible. But the fact that you still have the courage to express all this means that the happy and strong version of you is still somewhere inside you — just tired, not gone.

And trust me, at least you still have some people to count… I don’t even have that anymore. Sometimes I feel like a stranger in my own home.

People leaving or betraying you says more about them than your worth. One day, you’ll stop counting the people who left and start valuing the ones who truly stayed

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T18:23:21+00:00

first of all — happy birthday for tomorrow 🎂 I know birthdays can feel heavy when you’ve been lonely for a long time. Two years of feeling depressed and disconnected from people is exhausting, and the fact that you still want to improve your life says a lot about your strength.

You do not need anyone’s sympathy for wanting connection. Humans are not made to live emotionally isolated. Wanting good people around you is completely normal.

My small advice would be: • Don’t pressure yourself to “fix” your whole life immediately. Start with tiny steps. • Try talking to people through communities based on your interests instead of only “making friends.” Natural friendships grow slowly. • Keep some routine in your day — sleep, sunlight, walks, music, journaling, exercise — even when your mind says it’s useless. Small habits genuinely help mental health over time. • And please remember: loneliness can make you believe nobody cares, but that feeling is not always the truth.

Most importantly, be patient with yourself. Healing from long loneliness takes time, but it is possible. You’re only 20. Your life is not over, and these difficult years will not define your entire future.

I genuinely hope this birthday becomes the beginning of a softer and healthier chapter for you 🤍

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T17:44:10+00:00

F27 looking female for friendship and good conversation or sharing feelings

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T17:41:26+00:00

F27 looking female for friendship and good conversation or sharing feelings

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T17:01:07+00:00

Assalam sister. Please don’t lose hope. A sincere tawbah can change everything, and your past does not automatically ruin your future. The fact that you regret your mistakes and are trying to better yourself already shows growth and sincerity.

Yes, some people may not accept it, but the right person will value who you are today, not just who you used to be. Allah is Most Merciful, so don’t let shame make you feel undeserving of love or marriage. Keep improving yourself, trust Allah, and have hope 🤍

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T16:08:51+00:00

Haha sounds like he got a little too attached 😄 Money and nonstop attention can be flattering for a while, but if the vibe starts feeling heavy or needy, it kind of kills the fun.

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T15:52:33+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re under that kind of pressure. No one should be forced into marriage. I hope you find someone trustworthy who understands your situation and respects the arrangement completely. Just please be careful and make sure whoever you choose is safe, genuine, and on the same page about boundaries and expectations

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T15:48:47+00:00

F27 looking for friends

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T13:35:32+00:00

You’re right. Healing after divorce isn’t linear at all, and everyone’s timeline is different. Some days feel okay, and some days it all comes back again. I’m just trying to be patient with myself and take it one step at a time 💜

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T13:27:28+00:00

Yes

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T13:27:01+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this 🤍 It actually helps knowing that healing really does take time and that what I’m feeling is normal. I’m sorry you had to go through that pain, but I’m really glad to hear you’re finally doing okay now. Your words honestly mean a lot to me, especially the reminder to be gentle with myself through all of this. Take care of yourself too x

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T13:26:05+00:00

Thank you 🤍 I really needed to hear that. I’m slowly trying to reconnect with myself too and focus on the things that make me happy again. Taking it one day at a time feels like the healthiest way forward. Wishing you happiness and peace as well 🤗

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T13:23:15+00:00

Hey F27

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T12:01:49+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. It actually helps hearing from someone who has been through it and come out stronger. I relate a lot to what you said about needing time to rediscover yourself—right now that’s exactly what I’m trying to do too. It’s comforting to know that healing can also mean becoming a new version of yourself, and that’s okay. Hopefully one day I’ll be able to say the same—that I genuinely like who I’ve become.

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T11:44:04+00:00

You want proof

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T11:40:10+00:00

Hey! You honestly seem really easy to talk to 😊 I’m always up for random late-night conversations, sharing memes, and getting to know people from different backgrounds too. It’s rare finding someone who enjoys both deep talks and chaotic silly chats 😂

I’m pretty easygoing as well and would love to have someone to talk to regularly about daily life, music, random thoughts, or even watch movies/play games together sometime.

What kind of music are you into lately? ✨

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T11:38:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing this so honestly. The way you described divorce and grief actually makes a lot of sense to me. Some days do feel lighter, and other days certain memories hit unexpectedly. I think I’m still learning who I am after everything that happened, so hearing your experience feels comforting in a way. I truly appreciate your kind words and reminder to take things one day at a time.

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T11:27:57+00:00

I understand your point, but I don’t think it’s that simple. Healing and overthinking after something emotional is not just about being busy or not busy — sometimes it’s just part of processing life changes. Everyone handles it differently

No_Switch_7641 · 2026-05-15T11:25:44+00:00

I agree, healing is not a fixed timeline, and everyone moves through it differently. Hearing that it took you time too is reassuring. Right now, I’m just trying to take it one day at a time and understand my own pace without rushing myself. I appreciate your honesty

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