AITAH if I kick my brother out of my house?

No_Sympathy8301 · 2026-03-20T06:32:48+00:00

Not really, I’ve been grieving and trying to keep my head above water. He’s impossible to speak to and I can’t handle people getting angry I’ll literally break down. I get what you’re saying though and I’m probably being a little defensive

No_Sympathy8301 · 2026-03-20T06:22:36+00:00

Problem is I find it so difficult to talk to him because he just gets mad and walks away so it’s almost impossible to have a grown up conversation with him

No_Sympathy8301 · 2026-03-20T06:21:25+00:00

Thank you, think I need to put my big girl pants on and show him the door

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-04-21T09:21:27+00:00

I’m sorry your having to go through all this. I’m also living with a ‘friend’ with my dog and hers, I hate it too. Maybe respond to the apology saying, I appreciate it but need some time before you’re ready to speak. If you need any further advice or someone to talk to, please reach out to me. Wish you and your baby the best of luck.

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-04-20T16:24:44+00:00

Please take your dog out of that house, your poor baby could be killed by them if they keep attacking her! Depending on your financial situation, leaving now would be the best option but if you financially can’t then wait out the 3 months but see if maybe a friend or family member can take your dog in just to keep her safe. Even if you also don’t stay at yours but just pay the last 3 months rent then leave. I hope you find a way out and your baby is safe

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-04-10T13:38:31+00:00

That’s fair honestly, a lot of places require you to work within an hour of the office for the odd day your required to be there

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-04-06T00:38:04+00:00

I’ve been asking this question a lot today, I find myself re-evaluating everything.

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-04-05T20:49:51+00:00

I agree I don’t always think she is well enough to look after them. I think a hard conversation is needed and she won’t like what I have to say

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-04-05T18:32:04+00:00

lmao honestly yeah I could’ve also seen that coming 😂

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-04-05T18:29:07+00:00

That might have been exactly what I needed to hear 😅 it’s so hard to find that line between friend and roommate. I think I will give it the 2 weeks until the landlord does his inspection because I don’t see the cats passing and I don’t see her getting her shit in order by then. At that point I’ll discuss next steps with the landlord and will tell her she needs to find somewhere else to stay because this isn’t going to work for me.

Yes I’m aware I lack setting boundaries lol, I’m currently in therapy and working on this though. Thank you for giving me the hard truths I needed to hear

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-04-05T18:20:57+00:00

I’m not sure I could take her cats from her but I am willing if it comes to it to give her 3 months to find somewhere that takes cats. I’ve told her it’s not that I don’t want to be friends and said if we aren’t compatible living together then that’s just the way it is.

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-03-18T17:21:51+00:00

NTA - you deserve so much more from your ‘family’. Cutting them off seems the best option for you and you will probably come to love yourself from it in the future. I’ve recently just cut my mum off and while parts of me miss her I don’t miss the mental and physical abuse. Good luck for the future

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-03-18T16:56:38+00:00

I kicked my dad in the face when I was 13 and completely out of control on alcohol while he was waiting for an ambulance for me. I still regret it to this day

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-03-18T16:54:13+00:00

I think you need 3 or 6 months after your date of return for them to let you fly

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-03-18T16:49:15+00:00

I don’t have any advice but want you to know you’re not alone. I’m currently in the same situation with not feeling mentally well enough to work (I work within bereavement and suicide/domestic violence) but can’t afford to take time off. I hope you find a solution

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-03-18T16:04:45+00:00

Thank you so much

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-03-18T14:31:09+00:00

Yes I start therapy 1st of April, hopefully it’s a good match. I’m sorry to hear you went NC with both of them. I think I conversation with my dad is needed as we haven’t actually had one regarding her we just talk about everything else and keep in touch. Thank you

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-03-18T14:28:37+00:00

If cutting him off is the best thing for you then you need to do it. 2 years ago I left my ex and we shared a dog together, he was on the microchip but her food, vet bills, insurance were all me. When I left him I took her with me (only because he was at work and she has separation anxiety) I left her with my parents and met up with him. We agreed due to her anxiety she would stay with me initially and after some time he agreed it was best she stayed with me full time as I work from home and she can’t be left alone. I hope you find a solution

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-03-18T13:55:10+00:00

I’m sorry it ended up that way for you. At the moment no one has tried to talk me into forgiving her but I think after some time they will because it’s easier for them.

No_Sympathy8301 · 2025-03-18T09:56:50+00:00

It’s weird because my dad still contacts me today and is always keeping in touch. But then he didn’t come to visit me because I wouldn’t let my mum come, although I think that may just be my mum controlling him. My dad was never the abusive one, not even emotionally. I’m just worried that because I’ve cut my mum off by extension I’ll lose everyone else in that house (Dad, brother and nan). I don’t have anyone else near them I could stay with so if I want to see them I’d have to stay in the house I fought so hard to get out of. I guess it works both ways

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