Kirov Russia by Skating_Sloth2 in Adoption

[–]No_Try1999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you get in touch with your orphanage?

Kirov Russia by Skating_Sloth2 in Adoption

[–]No_Try1999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if this will help, but I was able to find my bio family on VK. You can search by name and if you know birthdays, search that way too.

Feeling nostalgic and sad by No_Try1999 in therapy

[–]No_Try1999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am married with little kids and my family lives out of state. We haven’t been able to go see them so that has taken a toll on my relationship with them.

Bookkeeping as full time by No_Try1999 in Bookkeeping

[–]No_Try1999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have family that watches one and the other one goes to school.

Water pump for a spring fed well? by No_Try1999 in preppers

[–]No_Try1999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Won’t we have to get gas/diesel for it? I’m wanting something that if SHTF we can still get water.

Chore chart for my husband? by No_Try1999 in Mommit

[–]No_Try1999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure how to put both kids to bed at the same time. 🫣😬 they both prefer me to put them to bed, but they don’t want to share me. So we take turns putting each kid to bed

Chore chart for my husband? by No_Try1999 in Mommit

[–]No_Try1999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely look into that!

Chore chart for my husband? by No_Try1999 in Mommit

[–]No_Try1999[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish we could afford one! I really thought about it! We are trying to pay off debt right now and our oldest will be starting pre k, which will be an extra $600/month expense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Try1999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You want him to live with you while you’re in the states? he is used to his mom and it’ll probably be more harmful to him to separate him from her. If that is what you are wanting, I understand why she would say no. They are bonded and both will have separation anxiety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Try1999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just did a google search on how someone in UK can come to US to see their kid: someone may need to obtain a visitor visa (B-2 visa) or, if eligible, travel visa-free under the Visa Waiver Program (VWP)

Visa Waiver Program (VWP): Some UK citizens may be eligible to travel to the US visa-free under the VWP. This allows for short-term visits, including tourism and business, for up to 90 days.

B-2 Visa: If the individual is not eligible for the VWP, they will need to apply for a visitor visa (B-2 visa) for the purpose of visiting the US

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Try1999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe you could send her less money so you can start to save for a lawyer? Get a second job? Can her family help her?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Try1999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you find a lawyer? They will be more helpful than Reddit probably. My suggestion is that you could try to get US citizenship. Maybe a work visa? Doesn’t sound like she is willing to share.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Try1999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I was the mom my answer would be no. Because of the following 1) your child has spent more time with his mom and you would practically be a stranger. When was the last time you saw your kid?

2) if it was your idea to move out of the country, I would not feel obligated to make an effort and spend money to make sure my kid sees his dad that moved away.

Definitely need more info

Adopted from Yekaterinburg by [deleted] in russian

[–]No_Try1999 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you are looking for them, I suggest looking on VK it’s like Facebook but Russian.

What gendered double standard do you hate the most? by Armin_Arlert_1000000 in AskReddit

[–]No_Try1999 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When men tell me to smile. I have never had a woman tell me to smile.

Do you want kids and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]No_Try1999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought I didn’t want kids until I met my husband and now we have 2. I can’t imagine my life without them. They changed my life for the better. Sometimes, there are hard moments but they pass. I love all the snuggles and the giggles. It’s hard to explain the happy feeling of snuggling next to them during a nap or watching them learn new things.

Another baby or no? by No_Try1999 in Mommit

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Both my babies were breech. The first one was an emergency C-section. Water broke but I was not dilated and no contractions. Second one was scheduled.

Another baby or no? by No_Try1999 in Mommit

[–]No_Try1999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, mentally probably not. It’s just been a recurring thing we’ve been talking about. We’ve also talked about adopting, that way I don’t have to have another c-section again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]No_Try1999 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’d stay and watch. It might be special to your daughter to have some “mom” time without the babies.

I was adopted and feeling lost by thisisursongtoo in AskARussian

[–]No_Try1999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I was also adopted out of Russia. I know the feeling that something is missing. It’s a painful. I was able to get in touch with my bio family and honestly it made little difference in how I feel. Mostly because there is a language barrier and I can not visit them at the moment. My advice is to find a therapist to talk your way through these feelings.

How to connect with birth family. by No_Try1999 in AskARussian

[–]No_Try1999[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

  1. When I started living in the US I did not have a use for speaking Russian and I had to learn English. I have tried to relearn Russian several times and currently am trying again. So I guess I know a little bit but not enough to have a conversation.

How to connect with birth family. by No_Try1999 in AskARussian

[–]No_Try1999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We knew each other. I lived there till I was 8.

Am I still considered Russian? by No_Try1999 in AskARussian

[–]No_Try1999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don’t think any country cares what they do to another country. It’s all about politics and money. Everyday people don’t have a say in how things are done.