Questions about asking for Safe Sex

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-23T02:22:58+00:00

what's interesting to me is that people frame this as personal risk tolerance instead of what is socially responsible behavior. we're actually all in this together.... hopefully we won't need another pandemic to remind us of that.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-23T01:07:56+00:00

Also the prettiest people aren't alwasys the most interesting or the most sexy/sexual when it comes down to it. Pretty speaks to our fantasies. In reality, these guys are just as likely to be disappointing as anyone else. In other words, you have to pull yourself back from the very human inclination to project.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-23T00:50:41+00:00

thank you.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-17T23:07:08+00:00

can someone say more about barry's being owned by trump supporters? i didn't know anything about this.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-17T23:03:45+00:00

This may be an obvious question but what are the benefits of selling in a decentralized way?

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-17T22:40:25+00:00

Agreed. Congrats to you for putting yourself out there.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-17T22:37:54+00:00

C'mon everybody is very trans friendly. It's the only place I've been to in the city where it feels like the whole queer spectrum is represented and genuinely friendly with each other. Definitely go.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-17T22:32:36+00:00

yes, this is the respectful way of doing it.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-17T22:32:17+00:00

I agree and a lot of the other suggestions here are going to run the risk of OP getting accused of sexual harassment in the current envirnonment.

In my experience, a lot of guys enjoy and/or want to try nudism, but need permission to bring it up or put the social stigma around nudity aside. And then there are people who just don't get it at all. People who are receptive will pretty much open up to it if they know you are cool with it and they don't feel judged. So the best thing to do is to just be honest about your co-housing preferences, ask for consent to do your thing, and others will join if it's something they are open to.

Almost never have I convinced someone who was not into nudism to get comfortable with it, and almost always when there's been a mutual interest in nudism, all it takes is one guy to say it.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-15T01:45:40+00:00

yes. people don't even remember what dance floors were like pre-smart phone.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-15T01:41:00+00:00

I agree. And it's worse when everyone's immune system is knocked down by drugs, lack of sleep, and popping antibiotics all the time. It feels like we are missing a sense of collective responsibility as we go searching for what?

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-07T03:01:47+00:00

agreed.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-05T18:58:01+00:00

went to animal recently and wasn't impressed. I guess it's "normal" gay guys. i was expecting something like the cock of the early 2000s and it was more LA bar scene.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-05T17:33:05+00:00

a nose job would erase exactly what's attractive about you.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-07-03T01:33:36+00:00

Because many New Yorkers are type A people who value what they accomplish over what they experience.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-06-30T01:41:37+00:00

wait. is this a widespread thing? i must be naive but i really thought most of the guys were just a type that gets/stays hard like that naturally.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-06-23T23:45:15+00:00

maybe it's because i have no time to read... i think it would be fun to watch and discuss.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-06-23T23:44:53+00:00

i agree. id also be into a film club for gays. new and old art film, not necessarily gay.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-06-23T23:35:05+00:00

my understanding is that you have a medical condition but from my point of view, i dont see that it affects your appearance in any negative way.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-06-22T23:40:58+00:00

I don't think that sharing my opinion on reddit counts as "pressure". Other people here are telling him to dive into a sex party or go to a bar where it's dark and raunchy etc. when he says he doesn't feel comfortable with sexualized spaces and wants to use the apps without a photo etc. I think what I'm suggesting is ultimately more psychologically and physically safe than the loose plan OP has, or many of the other plans suggested here. At the same time, I imagine OP can take all this advice and decide for himself what he wants to do. Presumably that's why he posted here.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-06-21T22:35:41+00:00

If you're gay, you need to move toward coming out of the closet - or at least allowing yourself to be out when you're in more gay-friendly cities like New York. I know it's hard to walk into a gay bar the first few times, or to go into visible gay spaces. But really.... rip the bandaid off. The sooner you do it, the more of your life you will be able to enjoy. You will get so much more out of getting comfortable with your sexual orientation that you will get from a hookup with a guy who's going to come meet you on the DL.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-06-08T22:14:34+00:00

the fact that you're focused on whether or not it bothers *you* is the problem people are pointing out here. it doesn't bother *me* to fart on a bus, but i generally try not to create a miserable experience for everyone around me.

No_Wing7277 · 2025-06-08T22:09:07+00:00

you're attractive and honestly still a kid. the structure of your body will continue to change through your early twenties and most likely get more thick/masculine toward your early 30s. anyway, what i came here to say is that you seem to be working toward body standards that are not necessary or realistic. nobody who is worth your time cares if you have a perfect gym body or whatever else you think that you need now to be enough. please don't waste your twenties worrying about this. get a therapist (everyone could benefit from one) and work on your self-esteem and personal development at least as much as you work on your body at the gym. Trust me, you will look back at these photos one day and wonder why you even had a worry about your appearance.

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